my ex of 9 months broke up with me a month and a half ago. it was kinda sudden because he had been acting so in love with me and talking about getting married just a week or two before he dumped me. he said that i was a really great girl to him and the only one that understood him and my family was great to him but he is not ready at all for commitment or marriage and wants to be single and free. but i didnt act crazy or sad or anything. even though it was hurting i acted like i agreed that we should break up. i think me reacting like that really surprised him and he said a lot of really mean hurtful things to me to make me feel bad and we got into a huge hateful argument. we didnt talk at all for a month.
i finally texted him one night and he responded back rudely. we texted each other a few more times that night then he told me to leave him alone so he could go to bed. the next morning though he called me and i didnt answer. so i called him the following evening and he was being very rude to me and saying hurtful things just like when we broke up. he was saying that he had forgotten about me and hes trying to get back with his ex girlfriend because shes so much better than me. then he said that me and my family were really good to him but i was just not the kind of girl he usually goes for and it never would of worked. just as i was about to get off the phone with him because he was being so rude to me he started asking me all about what ive been up to, if ive been on any dates, if ive slept with my ex boyfriend, etc. and he said a bunch of things about girls and his ex gf, trying to make me jealous. we ended up talking for 2 hours.
i havent talked to him for about 2 weeks so i called him tonight. he ignored the call and texted me right away saying "stop calling." i wrote back "stop being a jerk, i called you one time to see how you've been." well i got no response to that.
i just dont understand why hes treating me like this. when i ask him why he cant give me an explanation...just that theres "no reason to talk to me." we have so many good memories and we seemed to love each other very much, we were going to move in together and he used to talk about how excited he was to buy me a ring and start our life together. i dont understand how he can treat me like this. i never hear about anyone else's ex being so totally heartless and cold. especially when he was so close to my family and they were so good to him. i was very very good to him as well. i was the one who rushed to the emergency room at 7:00 in the morning when he got into a bad car accident. im the one who stayed with him the whole time, helped him pee into a bottle, wiped all the blood off his face, stayed overnight with him, took him home a couple days later to my house where i bathed him, fed him, dressed him, changed his bandages, helped him limp around, rubbed his back so he could sleep at night, and drove him to all his doctor's appointments. his parents were too busy with their jobs to even care about him, but i was with him through it all. thats how our whole relationship went. i was so nice and giving. TOO nice.
i didnt do anything wrong...i treated him great, no cheating, no lying. i didnt act crazy when we broke up. so WHY is he being so rude and heartless towards me???