I know exactly what's going on. She's scared because the love is so intense. She even said that to me once - that she's never had someone love her this much and it scares her. And now she's running from it because she's afraid of being in love. She's had a lot of bad relationship experiences, including something that was almost rape, so i know she has trouble getting close to people, and will run away instead of letting go and opening up. So right now, I know she's in love with me like I am with her - but her intimacy issues are making her want to flee instead of continue our relationship.
Anyway. We got in a fight on the phone, it was pretty late at night, but I decided to drive up and just sleep outside her place in my car, so I could see her in the morning. I sent her a text message saying to call me when she woke up.
In the morning, I surprised her at her door with some flowers, and said I was sorry for fighting and was 100% willing to forget all the stuff she said last night, and keep moving forward with our relationship. But when I tried to kiss her, she refused, and said she really needed "a break to think things through." I asked her what she needed to think through, and she said she wasn't sure she liked me romantically! She said she thought of me as a best friend but not really as a boyfriend, and it was stressing her out. Well I told her that was BS because through her words and actions, she clearly has feelings for me. It's obvious, she's just in denial because she's afraid to get close to someone. It ended with both of us in tears and she said to just give her some space for a week.
Today she didn't answer any of my calls or text messages and I'm mad beyond belief.... I can't believe she would throw away such an amazing relationship. I know we're not broken up yet but I feel like she might end things soon. Which TERRIFIES me so bad. I understand she's afraid, but she CAN'T let that destroy what we have. I won't let it happen. I just need to make her see that it's not scary for her to be in love with me and that everything will be OK, if she just relaxes and lets go. She's high strung so she has trouble doing that. ARRRRRRG. I just need to her to see how perfect we are for each other. This is a once in a lifetime thing, what we have. No way can she just throw that away because she's scared.
How can I ease her fears so she wants to stay with me?