I am in a personal struggle with some problems with my partner. He is an alcoholic and I think he might be a pedophile. I struggled with the alcoholism and tried to get him to go to AA, but now I've found a group (Al Anon) that I'm going to to try to figure things out. It is the pedophile issue that I'm having the greatest struggle with. I've been dating a 42 year old man for 2 years now (I'm 32). Within 6 months of our relationship he began to role play with me as if I was a teenage school girl. At first this freaked me out but I played along because it was the only type of role playing that got him excited. About a year into the relationship, I was on his computer and noticed that he was visiting sites of teen and preteen girls (I also saw his search terms to get to these sites and he is specifically seeking teen/preteen girls). I angrily approached him about this as I found it repulsive. At first he denied doing it but then claimed the sites have the "over 18" statement, but I know the sites are of underage girls and moreso, preteen girls. He claims that it's just fantasy and he would never pursue engaging in sex with a preteen. He says he fantasizes about teenagers because that's the age he lost his virginity. Well he has started to role play with me as if I was his little 8 year old or 11 year old girl and I'm really nervous about it. He likes incest (father/daughter, brother/sister, uncle/niece) and teacher/student role playing. I keep asking him about it and he continues to say it's just fantasy. I am having trouble with it because I don't think it's right. I'm confused because I play along with it. It's really the only thing that can get him excited (yes it's limp otherwise!). Is his attraction to little girls normal (he says it is)? Does the average man fantasize like this but would never act upon it (he says a lot of guys fantasize like this)? Is he a pedophile or is this just normal lust? Can fantasies remain fantasies? Is there a chance that he would act on it? Am I crazy for continuing this relationship? These issues are consuming me and I am very much in distress over it. Any thoughts from anyone would be greatly appreciated. It would be awesome if you could distinguish whether you are a male or female responding. Thanks!