I really need opinions/advice. I just don't know what to do anymore.
Ok so, I have been with my boyfriend since the end of january. When we started dating, he literally just got out of a three year relationship.
I found out in June from his ex, he cheated on me with her 3 times. Twice in febuary and once in march. And he saw her a couple of other times. I know that is plenty enough to break up with him, but i chose to forgive him, and I'm trying to move on from all of that.
Now in the very beginning, we had no sex problems what so ever. It was great for the first month or so. Then from the end of febuary to beginning of April he couldn't stay erect during sex. So I'm guessing this is the time he was with her and still had feelings for her.From April until June everything was normal. no problems.
Now SHE(his ex) told me in june that he told her the reason he couldn't get hard with me during feb/ april was bc he thought of her. i brought this up to him and made a huge deal about it, and it started happening again. Since June it has really been on and off.
For the last month or so he has been off. He will wake up hard as a rock, and we will start having sex and he will get soft after two minutes. He said the reason was because I masturbate (during) sex. He says it turns him off, bc he feel he is not "doing his job" That is the ONLY way i can have an orgasm. I have done it with all of my other sex partners and they all thought it was hot. ..so regardless, for him for the last week i stopped. I didn't use my hand...and guess what? it didn't help.
He also said he likes lingeri..so what do i do?? I bought $80.00 lingerie and candles and did my hair and make up all pretty. He gets soft after 30 seconds. That was two days ago. Last night he was hard i go down on him, and he gets soft after a minute "bc the fan was blowing on him and he was cold"
I just don't know how to NOT take this personal. He says he loves me. He tells me he wants to marry me, and everyday he tells me how beautiful I am EVERYDAY. Why don't I turn him on??? I know for a 100% fact he doesn't talk to his ex anymore. I'm 25, I know i'm a good looking girl. I have a nice body. I bought lingerie for him! and he still couldn't get hard. Do you have any idea what that does to a girls self esteem?
When he jerks off he gets hard in a second, when he wakes up he is hard. He didn't have this problem with her. So it can't be erectile dysfunction? I'm just so lost for words. I'm 25, he's 23. At his age he should not be having problems like this.
What can I do? Is there anything I can do? Is this the end of the relationship? I mean I know sex isn't everything..but i can't even turn him on
I'm sorry this is so long. I just don't know what to do?? I'd really appriciate some feedback. This is quite embarassing for me.