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Thread: Small Penis- a question for the men...

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    4inchfury has a real problem, and it's not his dangly bits.
    Some woman hurt him and he won't let go.

    On the other hand, your guy has a supportive woman.

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    Hey there,

    Were you there for the thread I posted over the weekend? I posted about my ex, who had (well, has, still, to my knowledge) a HUGE member and I went out of my way to praise it and laud it's incredibly impressive dimensions. I thought visually it was quite a bit like seeing one of those ancient lingam temples of worship to the phallus, so there was something very magnificent about it -- but physically, it hurt me. He had totally downplayed his size in letters he wrote me before we met (not that it was a frequent topic of conversation), telling me had an "LBJ." (Little Bitty Johnson.) I thought to myself, "Yay! Something I can physically handle!" and was so happy I wouldn't have to worry about the rawness and pain I often get with sex. So I was NOT prepared when he first dropped his pants for the Dirk Diggler organ he was toting. My first reaction: !!!! HELP!!! I tried not to let this shock and intimidation show on my face!

    It took a lot of getting used to, and at first I was scared about spending my life with someone whose penis hurt a lot. I thought I was a freak (not unusual for me) of a woman to think this, but since I knew he wanted so much to plese as a lover and also felt that he was blessed among men to have what other men wanted, I complimented him to no end. I sincerely meant that he was regal and beautiful, and it made him seem sort of hypermasculine aesthetically, but as far as function, I could have used something smaller because of the pain issue.

    Anyway, the thrust of my thread (geez, sorry, bad pun) was that I tried to measure him once, feeling mischievous and playful, and it became amply clear that he did NOT want that kind of attention or fun to proceed. I was puzzled and also a little disappointed because I was curious to see what my body had actually been capable of accomodating, as well as being able to kind of make him feel like he had won a prize of some sort. It was kind of a celebratory thing in my mind, but he pushed me away saying he didn't want to be measured and hadn't ever bothered in his life. I thought this was very strange, given all the pride men have over their large penises (other men I know, and in the culture-at-large), so I thought he'd enjoy my fanfare. Well, I came here over the weekend to ask everyone why he would have reacted that way, and what I got was that men who have been told that again and again start to feel objectified and that it doesn't feel favorable anymore because it just makes them feel like "a piece of meat". (Which I can empathize with, but I DID ask my bf is he felt that way at the time to understand him and he denied this. He didn't actually give me a lucid answer, but evaded my gentle inquiring.)

    What I got at the end of that thread was that men with big ones get self-conscious too, and "the grass is always greener." Maybe they are glad they have a big penis, but it doesn't all add up to total confidence. Obviously, he was self conscious about it, to some significant degree.

    So OP, you have my permission to tell your bf that being confident is a state of mind, not of penis!! The guys who "have it all" have another reason to feel some sort of bad attention has been drawn to them! At the end of the day, it didn't make sex better for me and nor did it make him feel more appreciated that I praised his beautiful, big penis, so then -- I guess it didn't make for "more" of anything, really.

    I am glad for your thread, it makes me feel I wasn't just a freak all my life to think that I'd have some trouble with a more endowed man. So. That makes 2 of us.
    Last edited by tiredofvampires; 08-27-2007 at 02:44 PM.

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    One more thing, I was with a guy who was your guy's dimensions before this last ex. This relatioship (and the sex, too) were in ways better. But he started out not believing me either. It comes with inexperience and younger age, I think -- when a man doesn't know his own manliness yet is not a matter of size. He learns that in time by being a good lover. One thing that I love to do is tell my lover how beautiful they are (and I always mean it, I adore them when my heart is so full!), and so my compliments were graciously though awkwardly received by this guy and guess what? After a while he started to believe me, because he could see how well I responded to him. You should just go over there and kiss his hands and his arms up and down when he blushes, and then gently pull them aside, and just keep kissing and telling him how great it all is. Make him feel he is irresistible. Then when you get there, say, "Why would I want ANYTHING other than this? Your size with mine, we will be like a hand in a glove, oh my god! How perfect!"

    You should also tell him about the pain factor, that is something very convincing.

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    Ah yes, I did see that thread. I actually found it quite interesting- "the grass is always greener"- it makes me think of the small boobs vs. big boobs thing. And no, tiredofvampires, you are in no way a freak- I sincerely think there are more of us like this, they must just be hiding somewhere XD.

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    LESSON OF THE DAY FOR MEN WITH 4-5 INCH PENISES:

    If a woman says, "forget it", laughs, is derogatory about your penis size in any way, consider her screened out as being not worth going through sex with. She has an STD of another sort: "Shallow Tawdry Disorder." Do not have sex with someone with this affliction, as it is symptomatic of a worse problem.

    AND, it proves she has little sexual experience, too. Your size will make any healthy woman happy.

    Do you really think 1 inch of flesh is going to determine your being alone the rest of your life? Think about how absurd that is, my friend. You have NOTHING to worry about. Except taking to heart callous and stupid comments of the ignorant, so don't take them on yourself.
    Last edited by hubman01; 08-29-2007 at 10:33 AM. Reason: quoted language

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    I think there are probably more women that want an average sized penis vs women who are looking for a monster penis. The thing is that the size queens are usually more vocal about their preferences.

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    Yea, that is probably about right JoeWho. I just wish more guys wre aware of that fact.

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    I think also some women might think it's a "badge" of some sort, that makes them feel "more sexual" or appear more sexual, to need/want more. Just a thought.

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    Originally Posted by tiredofvampires
    LESSON OF THE DAY FOR MEN WITH 4-5 INCH PENISES:

    If a woman says, "forget it", laughs, is derogatory about your penis size in any way, consider her screened out as being not worth going through sex with. She has an STD of another sort: "Shallow Tawdry Disorder." Do not have sex with someone with this affliction, as it is symptomatic of a worse problem.

    AND, it proves she has little sexual experience, too. Your size will make any healthy woman happy.

    Do you really think 1 inch of flesh is going to determine your being alone the rest of your life? Think about how absurd that is, my friend. You have NOTHING to worry about. Except taking to heart callous and stupid comments of the ignorant, so don't take them on yourself.
    Well, maybe Dako is right? i'm 4.5" and i've been celibate for the last eight years of my life. I'm full of frustration, bitterness and hatred at times - maybe its just a coincidence with fury? maybe we both have other issues?

    Nice post btw vampire, but even you said 'Why didn't your ex feel superior to other men, when walking down the street' Thats exactly it. Power dynamics, self effacy, mastery in the sexual domain. He's big and you expected hm to have high self esteem and confidence purely based on his {Mod Edit} size? what happens when a male is then small? he walks down the street feeling the reversal.

    Also, look at relationships you have the agape, phillia friendship side and then the eros aspect. I feel that at the friendship size i'm good, i've tried my best at the ero size and i was upto the job with many women and they held it against me. So, i'm only half adequate in relationships. Women have a plurality of qualities, that are of equal value. It seemed penis size is the only one men are really valued for..

    Many times you hear the comment 'i'm dating a new guy, he's fantasic, he's sooo well hung'. Back on the topic I think this girl, can turn her bf around well, its just going to take alot of trust and time. Will he believe ONE girl telling him it doesn't matter or the whole culture? of course, at first he's going to think she's lying to him. Is she different to the majority, which seems like 98% of women that prefer larger? I've rarely seen women stating them prefer a small man and fantastic. aha how absurd that comment would seem 'i'm dating a new bf, he's sooo small. errr {Mod Edit}.....
    Last edited by hubman01; 08-29-2007 at 10:36 AM. Reason: WATCH YOUR LANGUAGE!!!!!

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    Hey Carl5000,
    That really sucks for you, I agree. I just can't believe that "frustration,bitterness, and hatred" can be caused by penis size- just as the opposite content, happiness, and self love (??) will come automatically if you're really big down there. I mean, just look at what tiredofvampires said about her well-hung guy.
    As a matter of curiosity, Carl when you say you're "up to the job" do you mean you're turned down just as they're about to do it from you, or they break up with you after already having done it stating they're "not satisfied" or something like that?
    Anyways, yea I know most girls would generally prefer larger ones, but thats taking into account the whole population. I know asian girls and girls who are just generally very skinny/ very small body frames dont always want their mate to be hung like a horse.

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