HyruleGuardian Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 I'm at a point in my life where things are just so hectic. I'm doing so much crap and sometimes I just want to come home and sleep. Because of this, my phone calls to my girlfriend are usually always short and uninspired. Plus it seems like I have nothing to talk about when I'm like that. Link to comment
Krystal_Ivy Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 I had an ex that didn't think he had to talk to me everyday, (it really showed me how he truly felt about me) I think at least a little I love you how was your day should be done. I mean if you care about someone at least. Link to comment
bigheart09 Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 You dont have to have an hour long conversation every time you talk, but even just a hey how are you, or just saying goodnight... Link to comment
barbielovesmac Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 I think you should call even if it's just to say hello and goodnight. It just shows that you care. I for one have major problems when a bf 'just doesn't call' I respect him more if he can call and say, "hey ...... blah blah blah, but i just wanted to call . . . blah blah blah .. . but im tired." Rather then him not calling at all you know? Link to comment
Aschleigh Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 Yeah, take the 5 minutes, make the call in the car on the way home. Say I love you and Ask her how her day was. It's worth the relief she will feel. Link to comment
treefrogkate Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 Why not talk to your girlfriend about this? Only she can tell you the amount of contact she needs from you. Link to comment
Aricela Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 My boyfriend also didn't call me every day and I hated it. I missed him so I still called him daily but over time it disturbed me more and more until I didn't want to call him as well. It definitely shows you care, even if it's just to say hi. It takes like two minutes. Link to comment
bubblyblonde11 Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 you can always just keep it very brief, also if you don;t want to actually talk then text messages? Link to comment
HyruleGuardian Posted August 22, 2007 Author Share Posted August 22, 2007 Some people tell me that I might come off as too clingy because I call everyday. I guess I'll just ask her about it. Link to comment
nuttybuddy Posted August 22, 2007 Share Posted August 22, 2007 it won't be clingy if you make it brief. and plus, it gives her an opportunity to share with you about her day. so how could that be clingy? Link to comment
-Ophelia- Posted August 22, 2007 Share Posted August 22, 2007 It's not clingy; it's what couples do. They talk. Even if you're tired you can make it quick. Tell her that you're exhausted and you just need to hear her voice. It's sweet. Link to comment
cooldudeny Posted September 4, 2007 Share Posted September 4, 2007 i guess in my case everything is different or may be i think i care about her and love her too much so she takes me for granted and iknow one day it will happen i will just walk away without sayin anything coz i did whatever i can and now may be time for me to move on .... Link to comment
queenofhisheart Posted September 12, 2007 Share Posted September 12, 2007 I don't think it's necessary to call your girlfriend every single day. I end up talking to my boyfriend just about every single day but it is not a forced interaction. I would explain to your girlfriend that you have a lot going on in your life. Link to comment
cc2006 Posted September 12, 2007 Share Posted September 12, 2007 I don't like calling every day, especially if I have nothing to say. From the looks of it here on ENA, and some comments made by my ex, I'm just a horrible person that doesn't care because of it I hate phones, they annoy me, and I can't multi-task when on the phone ... so if it rings I have to drop everything I'm doing or I just can't concentrate on the call and end up being too quiet or missing out on what was said. So, it annoys me when my phone rings often. Don't get me wrong ... I've called people I've dated before ... but only when I have something to say or actively had one of those "I miss my partner" moments when I wanted to hear their voice ... otherwise I don't call. Again - guess that makes me a bad person. lol Link to comment
Purintai Posted September 25, 2007 Share Posted September 25, 2007 Calling up to just say: I love you. Does it really mean how you feel? What I mean by this is that do you feel like calling up to give a routine: I Love You or How was your day? Does it really adds anything to the relationship? Of course, maybe she feels that way, but do you? Maybe she doesn't even feel that way. I think you should be honest with her about it. Personally I don't call my girlfriend for 2 or three days at a time. And she doesn't call me. We only do so if we really need to communicate something. I don't like talking on the phone. The telephone made communication convenient, not necessarily meaningful. What I mean by this is that when my girlfriend and I see each other after three days of not just saying: Hey, how are you? We really want to catch up on each other's lives. Well, that's just my opinion. I don't like to say: I Love You, every night because a piece of machinery has made it a convenience. I would prefer to see my girlfriend's sweet face on Friday night and tell her how I feel, tell her everything, and tell her that I love her. Link to comment
cristalgold Posted September 26, 2007 Share Posted September 26, 2007 I think it all boils down to what your girlfriends likes and expects. I can understand how some people want to chat to their partners everyday. However, I agree with Puruntai. I'm about quality not quantity, but of course I don't want to feel neglected. Not calling everyday doesn't make me feel that way. Go a week and that's a different story. I'm also not a phone person and hate to be smothered. I'm also pretty busy myself, but when we talk, or are together, I try to give all of my attention. Link to comment
ftheunion Posted September 27, 2007 Share Posted September 27, 2007 It is fine not to talk with her everyday. Heck, cavemen and neanderthal went on hunts for days without being with their mates. It is alright, just don't neglect her, which sounds like you would never do that. Link to comment
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