For the ladies in the message below about prostitutes

Just thought I would chime in. I am an escort. Have been for a year now. I know I'll get slandered, just thought I would hop in and offer some advice, etc. Please be prepared. The majority of you will not like what I have to say, but I think it might help.

First, there is a difference between escorts, hookers and prostitutes. I am an escort. I do not have sex with men for money, I escort (mostly single) men out on the town, to this event, or that. I have modeled and am very well educated. Even attending law school. I have been invited to every upscale event in my town. If, at the end of the evening/event there is a mutual attraction, we sometimes engage in other activities back at the hotel room. However, I must say, that is a small portion of the time in actuality. And I am very, very well paid for my time. I do maintain a career, friends, family and outside hobbies and interests. If you met me on the street, in a bar, at a salon you would not know what it is that I do in my spare time.

That being said, whenever we do engage in any extra curricular activities, everything I can assure you is very well protected. For mostly my benefit. Lol.

Hookers, well, are mostly hired by the hour, and are there mainly for sex. I assume of course. I do not know specifically. But from everything I've read, most of it is very well protected. There are many websites, just like this that you can go to and read details. Most women offer uncovered bj's, but the risk there is minimal. Rarely does uncovered anything happen other than oral sex on each end, but I have read of it happening. Which, is beyond disgusting in my opinion.

Then there are prostitutes, which is I think girls that you can pick up on the street. I dunno anything about this, as there is no decorum or forum that I know of that discusses that.

I think mainly, guys will go see girls one, because the wife isn't providing something at home. Maybe a bj, or doggie, or, well, I dunno, lol. I've read that a lot of wives do not allow their husbands to provide oral stimulation (which I cannot understand) but that's something men look for and like to do. Then again, maybe they just want a blonde, or a brunette, or someone thinner, or thicker, or black or white. Just, different. A lot of men are not married and just do this for fun, to "try" out different things and women. A few men actually have fallen in love with their wives even more so for visiting the occasional call girl. Which you might find odd, but it's true. Maybe the wife just isn't giving it up like she used to, for very justifiable reasons, maybe she's tired, had 3 kids and work is eating away at her. Maybe she's sick and can no longer be intimate. Either way, the husband is tired of being irritated with his wonderful wife for lack of intimacy. He loves her in every way, and would never "cheat" on her, or get a girlfriend, or leave her, but needs to be sexually satisfied. So he hires someone. Does everything safely, and then goes home to his wife, now no longer irritated with her and can enjoy the little things such as taking a picnic, or riding horses with her. Maybe even just holding her hand. And because the pressure is off with him constantly asking for it, she no longer is upset with him, etc. Sometimes, maybe the man is just no longer attracted to his wife, but does not want to leave her. Maybe he loves her, but she has not taken care of herself.

Just an alternative way of looking at things. This is not an endorsement, or anything of that nature, however sometimes, even when angry, you need to understand why it is people do things. I'm not saying it's right or wrong, just different. And yes, while it is hard to understand, a lot of men simply DO NOT associate sex with love.

I love what I do. I spend my time with older, quality men that are interesting and intelligent. I get to accompany men to so many places, see so many things I would never see otherwise. I am taken on vacations to exotic places and spoiled beyond belief. I am never pressured for anything, but anytime I do give something, it's always very well received and mutually fun. I will never be ashamed of being an Escort. I revel in it.

I posted this here so that you might understand a few things a bit more. I might be able to answer any questions that you may have as long as they are not approached in a negative way and that they are tasteful. I am a member of a community and have lots of insight into certain areas that you may be curious about.

=D> Good post!!!

Prostitution is legal where I live. I have a pretty realistic and un-biased view of the sex industry.

I would steel yourself for an onslaught if I were you, but personally, I see nothing wrong with your profession or of those who engage in sexual acts for money.

Welcome to enotalone.

That being said, whenever we do engage in any extra curricular activities, everything I can assure you is very well protected. For mostly my benefit. Lol.

Is what you are doing here "sex for money?" If so, aren't officers of the court (which you will be one day) not supposed to be breaking the law?

(And if you are in an area where "sex for money" is legal, then nevermind my question.)

And when you do start your career, what happens when you run into these men in a professional sense? Do you think they will treat you differently or you will lose some of your respectability in your career as a result?

Oh yeah, I'm getting ready for an onslaught of beration, etc. There is nothing wrong with the sex industry in my opinion. But I might be biased.

There are so many places where it is legal. And it's the oldest profession in the world. If you understand what really happens, it's not so bad. It's just the fear of the unknown which is haunting. And most people really should be happy that it's somewhat moderated and on the up and up now. I've heard horror stories of how girls used to bait guys to blackmail them, etc. Now, because of the "rating" system and community, we're all safer for it.

A girl that doesn't use protection? Can't be a member. A guy that persuades a girl to not use protection? Goes on a national list that any girl in the industry can see and know he's probably not safe. Which means most girls that are worth anything won't touch him.

I see your point. You do not give sex to just anyone, only the men you actually like. So if they are bald or just smelly or something, you're off the hook?

Sounds like a pretty cushy side job.

^^HEY nothing wrong with bald men!!

If you understand what really happens, it's not so bad. It's just the fear of the unknown which is haunting.

what cracks me up is people going "omg, the girls are so miserable!!! it eats at their SOOOOOOOOOOOOULS"...

Most people are miserable in their jobs... IM in a soul-destroying job atm...

They just get antsy cos its SEX

Oh yeah, I'm getting ready for an onslaught of beration, etc. There is nothing wrong with the sex industry in my opinion. But I might be biased.

 

There are so many places where it is legal. And it's the oldest profession in the world. If you understand what really happens, it's not so bad. It's just the fear of the unknown which is haunting. And most people really should be happy that it's somewhat moderated and on the up and up now. I've heard horror stories of how girls used to bait guys to blackmail them, etc. Now, because of the "rating" system and community, we're all safer for it.

 

I am not trying to berate "the world's oldest profession." My personal idea is that it should probably be legalized and regulated.

However..... I think that lawyers, officers of the court, judges, etc.... I think these people should try to obey the laws of their country/region. Maybe I'm naive, but I don't think it is ethical for them to be breaking the law, and depending on the offense, it can get you dis-barred.

^^HEY nothing wrong with bald men!!

 

 

what cracks me up is people going "omg, the girls are so miserable!!! it eats at their SOOOOOOOOOOOOULS"...

 

Most people are miserable in their jobs... IM in a soul-destroying job atm...

They just get antsy cos its SEX

Eva - would you become an escort/prostitute/hooker? why or why not?

I wonder if you have escorted my husband on his travels? LOL

Do you advertise your services online? Sometimes my husband gets some cash from the ATM before leaving state, and I wonder if he's stashing a little and using it for escorts every now and then. It reminds me to try harder.

Actually Annie, usually by the time we choose to engage in anything, our paid time together is up, thereforeeee no, I am not, nor do I ever engage in sex for money. Period. I am and have always been an escort.

Yes, I believe officers of the court are not supposed to break the law, but I am not, nor will I ever be a lawyer. I went to law school, but decided that was not what I wanted to do after a very short stint.

As far as when I "start" my career. I have been in my career for a while now, a professional corporate career. Yes, it has happened that I've run into men from time to time that I've seen as an escort. Usually, they applaud me for being in such a high ranking position at such a young age, and then we have a side smirk to ourselves.

Never once have I ever lost any respectability for being an escort. The men that I see adore me in whatever arena it is that we meet.

And Firecracker, yeah, I choose. And yeah, it's a great side job. I can choose to do it as much or little as I want. And most of the men I would actually go out with anyway. Although, it's not based on looks alone. One of my favorite "friends" isn't very attractive, but he's insanely smart and so ambitious. He spends his time helping people, but is not very social and has a hard time approaching women in general. He's been single his entire life, never married and just loves spending time with me. He's gentle and wonderful, but you would never look twice at him if you saw him out. I've actually helped his confidence to be able to approach women. Which is great, he deserves to fall in love.

I do not plan to attack you at all. YOu were being honest and risked a verbal lashing posting here. I will tell you like i told the guys on the other thread - these types of posts help people to be better informed. I would never blame the women anyway, my husband has a brain, and if he chose to be led around by another head, that is HIS problem not the escort or hooker or what have you.

I do wish we did not have so many avenues in the world for paid sex, but it is what it is and my one little self can't change it.

If you can sleep at night and hold your head up high in the morning, it is not any of our business what you do. It sounds legal, so while i wouldn't high five you if we had this convo face to face, i also won't kick you in the shins either.

I don't buy into the idea of men not getting it at home somehow have more of a free pass to do this, they should be talking to their wives and at least TELL her "honey, if something does not change this is something i might do", but we know that will never happen as they would fear losing eveyrthing they own.

If the men that use escort services are so quality. Why do they need to pay for someone elses company? Paying for sex is almost more understandable because it is not every day you find someone you can be intimate with and there are very strong physical urges involved. But to pay for an escort? You sort of just have to ask why. Is it becuase some men do not have the social prowess to find a woman who will spend time with him is it because of some hard to control constraint that they cannot fullfill this without money. Any way you cut it, as a man I would feel deflated if I had to pay people for this type of social or physical interaction.

What happens if you get hired to accompany a guy to an event (let's say, dinner, or a gallery opening or something), and he is REALLY GROSS. body odor, bad breath, nasty and rude guy - are you "obliged" or "expected" to spend "alone" time with him? Or can you just leave at the end of dinner or the event and say, "thanks- that was fun, bye!!!"

Interesting post, Working Girl. Thank you for sharing. It's always intriguing to glimpse an insider perspective on matters, especially on a subject surrounded by predominantly negative stigma.

How old are you, if I may ask? How did you first become involved with being an escort?

Eva - would you become an escort/prostitute/hooker? why or why not?

no, for the same reason I am leaving this job... its not for me, perhaps "escort" once or twice, but only for a bit of piggy bank money (not that I am hot enough to be paid for... not to mention my boyfriend woudlnt be happy ). And now it would also be a health reason, seeing as the bf gave me HPV...

I would work in a brothel or with prostitutes for whatever reason, I wouldnt NOT date a guy because he went to prostitutes before dating me... I have nothing against sex workers at all.

Annie, she already answered your question.

If the men that use escort services are so quality. Why do they need to pay for someone elses company? Paying for sex is almost more understandable because it is not every day you find someone you can be intimate with and there are very strong physical urges involved. But to pay for an escort? You sort of just have to ask why. Is it becuase some men do not have the social prowess to find a woman who will spend time with him is it because of some hard to control constraint that they cannot fullfill this without money. Any way you cut it, as a man I would feel deflated if I had to pay people for this type of social or physical interaction.

becuase people are busy... high powered people rarely have the time to woo women and the women they will are rarely obliged to put up with playing second fiddle to their professions.

If the men that use escort services are so quality. Why do they need to pay for someone elses company? Paying for sex is almost more understandable because it is not every day you find someone you can be intimate with and there are very strong physical urges involved. But to pay for an escort? You sort of just have to ask why. Is it becuase some men do not have the social prowess to find a woman who will spend time with him is it because of some hard to control constraint that they cannot fullfill this without money. Any way you cut it, as a man I would feel deflated if I had to pay people for this type of social or physical interaction.

yeah, that is a good question - what motivates them? do you ever get hired to accompany a man to an event that he knows his exgf will be at so he can show off his hot date in front of her? Or are these men so rich that they like to show off their wealth in this manner?

What is the average salary of your clients? are they wealthy and powerful men overall, or are they middle class and "stashing money" away here and there behind their wives' backs?

yeah, that is a good question - what motivates them? do you ever get hired to accompany a man to an event that he knows his exgf will be at so he can show off his hot date in front of her? Or are these men so rich that they like to show off their wealth in this manner?

 

What is the average salary of your clients? are they wealthy and powerful men overall, or are they middle class and "stashing money" away here and there behind their wives' backs?

or has their wife turned from a fun, happy person into a shriveled shrew?

dont "blame" it all on the men

Welcome to enotalone.

Choosing to take what you say at face value for now. With that in mind, I have a serious question.

In what way is your opinion and view on the hearts, emotions, and motives of these men any more credible than a random poster here?

Yes, I understand you have unique experience. You engage in a lifestyle which perhaps many do not.

However, because of the topic at hand, I am very interested in your motive for posting. I'm interested in the potential for harm and personal attention seeking that sometimes drives a post like this.

What good do you see in sharing your particular experiences and opinions?

To share knowledge - a woman who is interested in what is part and parcel of escorting could easily research by other means. Information is widely available.

And of course, your particular experience is that of one person. It is generalized as is reading a blog.

You can not possibly answers questions that plague women which are personally affected, for example "Why?"

Only the man involved could answer that....and answers most likely will not come honestly.

You have your own slant which is apparent in your post. You see escorting in a more or less positive light it seems.

That's fine and good, also relevant when you are offering to answer general questions.

The potential for conflict here is large, and the potential for more upset than is necessary for particular members.

Forgive me for being skeptical, however, I do find it difficult to believe that your motives are purely altruistic. If you are here to discuss your own life at large, you could do so in another way that avoids stirring the pot so obviously.

Just makes me go hmm.

thanks for your time.

Fisch, you'd be surprised. Almost every man that I meet is well educated, handsome and very well spoken, but then, that's the group I cater to. They hire me for many reasons. Some are freshly divorced, and not quite up to the emotional attachment of dating again, but don't want to go stag to yet another fundraising party. Some have ED problems that leave them embarrassed to date ladies such as myself in "real" life, but have no problem paying me for my time and not being able to "perform". (This is a very large group)

Some just have plenty of money, but aren't looking for anything serious, and don't want to chance a "gold digger" or a desperate woman who is too clingy. Or, they want a young attractive woman that knows which fork to use and can hold her own in conversations with even the best of them. Some just want a fun night to remember. Remember, at the end of our time together, I leave. And I never call them again, so for one night at the local fundraiser or event, they had a beautiful woman on their arms. And that made them feel like a million bucks. After, they don't have to worry about me calling them, or hurting my feelings, etc. That is what they pay me for, not the sex.

Itsallgrand: people judge, I think its perfectly reasonable for her to try put straight some common mis-conceptions that closed-minded people have about hte sex industry

Okay, trying to answer all of the questions:

Annie:

What happens if you get hired to accompany a guy to an event (let's say, dinner, or a gallery opening or something), and he is REALLY GROSS. body odor, bad breath, nasty and rude guy - are you "obliged" or "expected" to spend "alone" time with him? Or can you just leave at the end of dinner or the event and say, "thanks- that was fun, bye!!!"

Answer: Yes, I simply leave. The men that contact me know that it's at my discretion. If they just want sex, there are many other avenues.

Cassie:

How old are you, if I may ask? How did you first become involved with being an escort?

Answer: I'd prefer not to answer that specifically, however, I am under 30. I first got involved by being involved with a man that was a "sugar daddy" to me. After that, I became more interested, did my research and decided I liked being treated like this all the time. And I like being honest about it, unlike when I was his girl, I felt like he was looking for love, and that's not something I'm ready for yet.

Annie:

yeah, that is a good question - what motivates them? do you ever get hired to accompany a man to an event that he knows his exgf will be at so he can show off his hot date in front of her? Or are these men so rich that they like to show off their wealth in this manner?

What is the average salary of your clients? are they wealthy and powerful men overall, or are they middle class and "stashing money" away here and there behind their wives' backs?

Answer:

Ex-gfs? No, don't think so. Lol, but that's a good one. Maybe, they just never tell me. The usual salary range is well over $100k for the men that hire me, but as far as others, it ranges, I've heard girls that I know even refer to the "pizza delivery guy" as a client. lol

Thanks for sharing, this is very interesting!

I have another question (LOL, this is like, "Ask the expert!"). What was your best experience, and what was your worst/scariest experience in this line of work?

lol

Annie, let's see. Best experiences, travel (all while being paid for my time), taken shopping. (I have one client that loves to shop and I swear he's gay but doesn't know it, lol, he likes to dress me up like a doll. He's got the best taste too!) Very, very large cash tips, investment advice that's really paid off. My favorite though was a client rented me a car for a month to drive and it was my dream car. That was just amazing. I'm very frugal naturally so that was an expense I never would have considered for myself.

Worst....let's see. I went on this date, amazing time, it was a fundraiser for something out of town and he paid for everything, even some shopping to look nice for the dinner, etc. Basically, I brought nothing and he supplied everything. Well, he was great, but...he wouldn't talk to me. Lol. I don't know if he was intimidated by me, or what, but we were having a blast and then we get there and it's almost like he was publicly snubbing me. Then, after dinner he wanted to get frisky and I had to tell him about my policy and that he might should find someone else for that, lol. Well, he came at me, tongue sticking all the way out and started licking my neck. I pried myself away from him and left, he called me as soon as I left and apologized profusely. I've heard so much worse though. From girls being drugged, to hit, to robbed, etc. My men are very well screened to see me and are usually on their best behaviour.

I am not sure of the importance of how relevant or altruistic her post is. We see posts here all the time that are self serving. i don't even see she is trying to stir the pot. On forums, people have the right to close a thread that makes them upset. We can't blame other people for not being able to control ourselves.

Anytime in my life I get angry at someone and react, i blame myself later. I made that choice.

Personally, since her choice is escort mostly and no promise of sex, I cannot udnerstand at all the motive of a married man hiring her. I can more understand a man hiring a hooker for a half hour or getting a lapdance or something, but just dinner and talk ?? That is the one thing he can get from his wife even if she doesn't like sex, so it doesn't make sense to me.

I would hope her clients are mostly like she said - newly divorced men who need a date and are afraid to get out there again, men wtih ED, maybe needing a siren date for the company party (married men would not hire her for this because most coworkers will meet the wife one day).