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    Ppl said that to you too hey? My friends always imply that its just my horomones and it makes me SO angry! I am just trying to protect my baby! I would be there smoking and drinking with the rest of em if it weren't for the baby!

    Well, tonight I am having a girls night (bridal shower for a friend) so hopefully they will be more understanding than all my guy friends. Plus not as many of this particular group smoke.

    I have decided to coin this phase a liminal transition. All transitions are difficult especially when they last a long time. Like people training in the military. You go in as a regular person, are depersonalized in the liminal phase for several months, then come out as a soldier.

    I wish I had a bunch of friends at home that were going through the EXACT same thing at the same time that I am. Well, I wouldn't really wish this on my friends. Why can't I just enjoy being pregnant? *Sigh* again...

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    I think it's normal not to enjoy pregnancy around your time...you're getting close and I know towards the end of my pregnancy, I just wanted it over. Absolutely nothing could make me happy anymore, except for the thought that I was almost finished carrying around that bowling ball in my uterus.

    Hang in there sweety. You're doing the right things.

    Have fun tonight! I think girls definently are more caring and understanding about that sort of stuff.

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    I've never been pregnant, but I guess this is a part of your situation. You're 21. The majority of people who are 21 (your friends are that age, right?) don't have the maturity to be a parent.
    If they were older I am shure they would understand! When you're pregnant that counts as you already had a baby! You are mature enough to know it. They aren't - but just wait - one day they'll be in your situation and oh...how the tables will be turned.... feel free to be a btich..after you gave birth - sacrifices are much bigger...it's not your job to make them understand - it's your job to look your own best interest.
    Also it is normal not to have your drunk friend sleep on your couch, it's normal not to be around cigarets(and IMHO when you have a kid it's irresponsible to smoke), it's normal when you're 8 months pregnant that your housband has a mobile on non stop ....

    All in all you're right.

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    Syrix and Btr, you're always on my side, thanks.

    The girls night was nice, although I still ran into alot of the same problems (smoking). I am the first one out of my friends, and J is the first one out of his friends, to (plan to) have a baby and start to settle. So I guess you're right syrix, they're time will come. Probably sooner now that everyone sees us doing it actually. Everyone is jealous and it gives them a reality check that they aren't actually THAT young anymore (my husband is 26 and so are all of his friends) and that they can't party every day for the rest of their lives.

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    Definitely.
    I am 26 now (in few moths 27) and just 2 years ago from all the people I know no one was married. Now, I heard about at least two soon to be weddings amongst these people (we're all the same age) and my best friend got married 2 years ago.. So two years ago when we were finishing uni it seemed so far away...and now looks like soon it's going to be who isn't married, not who is getting married!
    You feel somewhat threatened.
    I don't want to get married yet...but you keep wondering how the hell these people managed to find the one in those two years?!...
    And saturday night is not what it used to be anymore.....a lot of kids are out now....probably my age when I was at the beginning of uni....

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    Addagirl, Scarew, keep it up!!! Proud of you!

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