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Thread: How to tell if gf has a promiscuous past?

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    [QUOTE=Superfreak;1526253]It was?

    The only thing in the first post was that he wanted to ask her how many partners she had and what the average for her age was?

    I didn't get any feeling of him using any information against her

    Like Eva said, he basically stated that if her "number" was too high, he didn't want to get "too serious" with her. Although, after 8 months, I would think that would be considered by most as a serious relationship.

    My only point in this thread was stated in my last post here, below the one that was quoted last (I'm surprised that's the one that got quoted, since my later post was way more articulated, hehe). Basically, at this point in their relationship, it shouldn't matter how many guys she had been with before. If she's been faithful the entire time she's been with the guy, shouldn't that be taken as a show of her faithfulness, instead of using an arbitrary number? Read my last post before this, I don't really want to repeat myself.

    Anyway, for the record, my boyfriend knows how many guys I've been with in the past, and I know how many girls he's been with. I'm not advocating keeping secrets (as I have nothing I keep from my boyfriend), but in this case, even if the girl answered honestly, he already made up his mind to not believe her anyway. So why bother asking? Just dump her and be done with it.

    Seems a shame after over 8 months though.
    Last edited by treefrogkate; 03-20-2007 at 02:29 PM. Reason: clarified a little

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    Originally Posted by saberman3000
    why was she scared to leave? you always have a choice...

    i asked her that and she said he wouldn't go away...YET she admitted of letting him in after a fight...now what do i make of that?
    It's not always that easy. Speaking from experience, theres a certain amount of self-esteem undermining that goes on in an abusive relationship, and I think most of the time, women stay in them because we think no one else would want us and that we deserve what we're getting.

    It's easy to say "Just leave" looking in from the outside, and after you're out of the relationship, it's easy to say "Why did I stay with him for so long?", but if it were just that easy to get out, well, there wouldn't be so many abusive relationships out there.

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    Let me explain something to you.....

    i messed up around in my past, but it was a mistake. i grew up on my own with no parents because they were drug atticks. i never had anyone to teach me right from wrong. i started makeing bad choices... sleeping around,, etc.. drugs.. etc..... but now i graduated high school i'm going to a university and i am doing great..... i regret my past but i can only make my future better.. my bf found out i slept around.. and he was hurt... but we got through it... my point is, if your gf did things in the past forgive her.. it's never too late to start a new.. if you love her... don't worry about her past and start worrying about your guy's future... in a few months or so ... see if she wants to marry you and start a family... don't worry about the past because you won't be able to change it

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    as long as they are clean and faithful, the past doesn't bother me. i'd rather not hear about how many guys got up in my girl. usually, you can't really tell. unless she is charging you for sex. there is a difference from being promiscuous and being a h_ bag. promiscuous isn't bad.

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    woot longest thread!

    oh, and who cares?

    obviously you do... well ask her if you don't believe her why are you dating her?

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    ask her not quite sure in which order. but how many people shes been in love with. than later ask her how many of the people that shes loved slept with?? and isnt it if a girl is all loose or something that shes been around a lot?

    haa this thread is old but yeh.. just thought i put that in!!

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