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Is there anything I can take to temporarily suppress my libido? I don't have a g/f and the urge to have sex is sometimes uncontrollable. Of course I release it the obvious way but even that takes up too much of my time and it doesn't help that much. I have actually noticed some success with tofu but I don't want to risk it having a permanent effect.

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Yes its unfortunate that there is no on-off button, and it belongs to the automatic nervous system along with all the hormones, any normal healthy guy will explode at a certain time if no sex takes place. This can be troublesome if you are religious and want to remain pure instead of jerking off all the time to temporarily subdue the feelings of lust. The trouble is that besides casteration, there are a few anti androgens (with side effects) that can reduce your libido , so be aware there's a flip side of the coin if you are going to use these methods.

 

link removed Anti-Androgen Cyproterone acetate

 

Or you could take 300 grams black liquorice a day will make testosteron levels drop dramatically, drawback is that since testosteron is basically a type of steroid you might feel weaker in the muscles. And liquorice can make you fat =\

 

Be sure to be fully aware of all the side effects of any anti androgen you are willing to take, as said a million times there are side effects that may not be worth it.

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Licorice. It's a great source of estrogen. Don't take too much or you'll start buying a lot of shoes.

 

Seriously though, high doses of licorice for a long period of time (every day for more than a couple months) can be dangerous to your liver. But taken properly, I think it will accomplish what you're looking for.

 

Also, dipping your balls in ice water and thinking of your grandma in underpants might help.

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A good swift kick in the nuts usually does the trick. I can help out if you need it...

 

 

 

Something tells me that's not going to solve the problem permanently unless you're wearing steel-toed boots. Not to mention that would hurt like hell. I am experiencing a similar problem in the high libido department. Only problem is, is that I do have a girlfriend and we are sexually active, only from time to time. I generally walk around with thoughts of her in my mind of a nature that would cause her parents to try and take my life. Another problem includes that I am incredibly easy to get going if I can turn it down a few notches. My girlfriend is very wise in turning me on and without realizing what she's doing, she pushes a button, maybe even two. Working myself doesn't help, and I cannot find a way to turn myself off. Any suggestions?

 

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It doesn't help that I'm 18 does it?

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I will tell you one thing for sure, avoid pornography in all of its forms. In fact avoid any thoughts about sex. I am a man also, so I understand how difficult this can be, but one thing is for certain, looking or thinking about sex related images just adds fuel to the fire.

 

I don't care what everyone else says, I don't think male sex drive is something that can really be "satisfied." (except for maybe ten minutes at a time) It works more like supply and demand. The more you demand of your sex drive, the more it supplies.

 

This is a generally despised viewpoint, but I can tell you from personal experience, the drive does decrease when you have no sexually stimulating images around. The problem is the images are everywhere so it takes special effort to avoid them.

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I will tell you one thing for sure, avoid pornography in all of its forms. In fact avoid any thoughts about sex. I am a man also, so I understand how difficult this can be, but one thing is for certain, looking or thinking about sex related images just adds fuel to the fire.

 

I don't care what everyone else says, I don't think male sex drive is something that can really be "satisfied." (except for maybe ten minutes at a time) It works more like supply and demand. The more you demand of your sex drive, the more it supplies.

 

This is a generally despised viewpoint, but I can tell you from personal experience, the drive does decrease when you have no sexually stimulating images around. The problem is the images are everywhere so it takes special effort to avoid them.

 

Mate you have no idea how hard I've tried this. It just doesn't work. If your libido is naturally high, then it's not easy to avoid thoughts of doing naughty deeds. Actually, I recently discovered I have high testosterone levels, which also explains my extreme anger and short temper as of late. So really, it is natural, I just wanna find some way of coping, that doesn't involve copulating with other women and making my lover feel as though that's all I want.

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I am not trying to minimize the difficulty in what I am saying. Most people will call me nuts, but I will say this: Sex is self-reinforcing. The more sexually active you are, the more your testosterone increases, the more your testosterone increases the more sexually active you want to be.

 

They showed a case of adolescent male elephants that went "berserk" after they removed all adult male elephants. The young males started "killing for fun" as it were. They would find dead animals all over the place that the young males had killed. They were perplexed at first, but found that when they re-inserted the adult males, this uncontrolled violent behavior stopped. What was the key? When adult males are present, the young males aren't allowed to mate (big daddy won't let them). When the young males do mate prematurely, their testosterone levels increase, and they become violent as a result.

 

I am not saying you are "prematurely sexually active." I am also not saying that having sex often is necessarily bad. I am simply making the point that sexual activity does raise your testosterone levels, and that raised testosterone levels are correlated with sex and violence.

 

Yes, for a young male, wanting sex is totally "natural." The issue here is when that desire rules or disrupts your goals and life. It is true; there is much about ourselves that we can not choose. We can't turn off our sex drive the same way we do a light switch. We can't say, "I don't want to want to have sex," and then magically we lose the desire according to our wish. In short, we can't choose our desire or emotions directly. However, we CAN indirectly affect our desire through our actions. We CAN choose to avoid situation or stimuli that stir emotions or desires that we want to control or abandon. We CAN choose not to engage in sex when it is in opposition to our goals and life. The great thing about is that the testosterone correlation works in the opposite too. It takes great effort to decrease activity at first, but lowered activity leads to lower hormone, and lower hormone leads to lower desire. Ask any recovering sexaholic, and they well tell you that it always takes effort to stay out of the addiction, but the initial escape is what is most difficult.

 

I wish there was a pill we could swallow, and it would all go away. But as shown in all the previous postings, the only drugs our herbs that lower libido, only do so with negative side effects, which might be worse than the original ailment. I don't believe, there is a simple and easy solution to this issue, or I would have used it myself.

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I think freedom has a point.

 

If I am away from the computer (away from sex forums and away from porn), it tends to be easier to control libido. If you only allow yourself to masturbate without any visual or auditory stimulation, that might help too. Being around hot women at the gym, at work, at school....that all makes it tougher.

 

I have chemically lowered my sex drive to some extent and I still find that what freedom said is more or less spot on. Even with very low hormones, females can do a lot to a man.

 

In terms of drugs, most have already been mentioned.

 

1) SSRI (anti-depressants)

2) SERM or AI (anti-estrogens, letrozole is known to do a good job at reducing drive)

3) Anti-androgens. Finasteride might be worth looking into (think proscar).

4) Ma Huang (ephedrine). Definitely lowers libido.

Progesterone supplements are used to obliterate drive at times too.

 

The way I have my drive now is perfect for ME. I chose to fiddle with the hormones a little. Now anytime I am around my girl, I have a very strong and functional drive. When I am not, it is very easy to control.

 

A natural way to go about it is dieting. Starvation can lower libido by lowering testosterone levels.

 

All options have side effects.

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Its really difficult to control sexual urges. They not only come from the images on the net but from real life as well. I mean there are a lot of attractive women out there that you see everyday...

 

I think the best method are the herbal remedies. Perhaps what is scary about them is the fear that your libido would never come back...

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Ok, so here's a little bit of a twist. I'm a girl and I have too high of a sex drive. It's causing a lot of tension between my boyfriend and I and I need some way to help control it. I don't want to take any medications unless they are specifically for that purpose. I have tried everything I can think of and nothing helps. I'm even on the pill which suprisingly does help a little but if I go off it I'm like 10 times worse. Any suggestions???

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I have done some research myself and found a few natural sources for increasing and decreasing drive.

 

To decrease drive try eating Soy or Tofu based foods. They contain phytoestrogens which are natural plant estrogens. You can also find supplements for phytoestrogens if you are not fond of eating Soy of Tofu.

 

To increase drive try the herb Tribulus Terrestris. This herb helps regulate all sex hormones in both men and women. It has been shown to also increase Testosterone in people who have low or below average levels. It also regulates estrogen and progesterone in women.

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I'm really quite thrilled I found this sight. I have been having the same problem as you guys. When my girlfriend and I first got together, everything was awesome, but she has social anxiety disorder. She started taking lexapro for it and blood pressure meds for her constant migranes. This has abliterated our sex life. We haven't had sex in four months. I had considered breaking it off, but i'm not one to throw in the towel and she's a great girl worth keeping around. I'm looking for the same type of thing. I want to put my sexual urges on hold until she's ready to come back to bed so to speak.

 

JS NY(soon Alabma)

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I thought after moving in with my 59 year old fiance his libido would settle down. It hasn't. Pardon me, a man that goes for 1 1/2 hours having min-orgasms~then wants more two hours later is really weird to me. We are talking day after day!! I am getting to hate weekends and finding excuses not to be home

 

He is already on Paxil. I have talked to his doctor (male) and he smiled and said that was not normal. That was it.

 

I am not on any medication.

 

I am a well kept 54 year old women and really don't know what to do at this point. I checked the forum and didn't find any help. Other than candy and what he is already taking.

 

I am wondering what to do. When I try to talk to him he just acts injured and pouts.

 

Any suggestions?

 

Worn out in the Pacific Northwest.

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I feel for the girls on here with high sex drive boyfriends.... I have one that I think could have it 10 times a day, every day, for years.

 

MY sex drive is non-exsistant and I was/am even considering that I might be asexual.

 

Anyway, I think my boyfriend *might* be up for taking the low doses of liquorice, but where on earth do you buy it????

 

Oh, and to the guys with gf's that lost their sex drives, don't just wait for it to come back, go see doctors & get her tested ASAP just in case it's medical (which can be fixed). Try and think of what you will do if it NEVER comes back, and your sex every few months will be enough.

 

Thanks for all the replies so far, they have been helpful!

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Just to add, I'm currently looking into these herbs for sex drive:

 

For him: licorice root & licorice powder (for capsules & tea) to decrease libido.

 

For me: chasteberry (Vitex), horny goat weed, black cohosh, damiana & dong quai to increase libido. I also have a prescription for testosterone, although it hasn't worked, just made me angry!

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Hi, I'm new to this forum and found it by looking for reasons why my libido is so low. I'm a 35 year old male and my libido declined gradually over the years and then went downhill rapidly after I hit 30. Instead of everyday or every other day like when I was 25, I can only manage to get in the mood once a week, sometimes once every 10 days. I know that's pretty pathetic and have no idea why.

 

I'm not on any antidepressants, other than one I started taking two years ago which actually increases libido a bit because it works in the opposite way of SSRIs in terms of action and boosts dopamine. (It's called Stablon..only available in parts of Europe and Asia). I've been on Valium for 17 years for anxiety/panic attacks but I've never heard of it lowering libido unless there's some horrible long term side effect that does that that I haven't heard about.

 

Is it normal for your libido to gradually go downhill after age 18? I've heard it is, but I guess what I mean is that..is it normal for it to decrease that much to where you can't get interested again for a week? When I'm in the act, I'll be thinking, "Yeah, I'll be able to do it again in a few hours", but after that's done, I can't get myself interested, even if I watch porn.

 

Some doc told me to try Viagra, but that doesn't increase desire and I have no problems with impotence. lol.. I'm sure of that. It is just a desire issue.

I can look at sexy women and just don't feel much like I used to.

 

(I've tried Prozac...when I was 23 and it destroyed my libido...as in _zero_ libido, until I quit taking it a few months later)

 

I wish I could trade places with you guys and have a really high sex drive. I'm sure my wife would be a lot happier. lol.. I know she wants it a lot more than I do and I think it isn't fair to her. I wonder if I need to see a specialist and check my testosterone?

 

Oh, I've been vegan for the past few years when the drive went downhill. Is there a connection? I stopped eating meat for the most part when I was 30.

 

Thanks for any suggestions.

Paul

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Mate you have no idea how hard I've tried this. It just doesn't work. If your libido is naturally high, then it's not easy to avoid thoughts of doing naughty deeds. Actually, I recently discovered I have high testosterone levels, which also explains my extreme anger and short temper as of late. So really, it is natural, I just wanna find some way of coping, that doesn't involve copulating with other women and making my lover feel as though that's all I want.

 

 

I ask myself (by reading this post in general) if it's possible to, as being a woman, take 'advantage' of the fact that a man his sexdrive depends on how much stimulating (instead of on-off) and I've also one read/heard that men often need physical attachement before or to improve getting psychological attachement (the opposite of a woman, that's what I mean). Just wondering b/c perhaps I'm interested in a friend who would like to have sex with me

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i am a 42 year old married man with a 30 year old wife,you may say wahay but its not,as my sex drive is high and hers is low,if i left it,it would be once a month! we talk about it but it does not help,primary problem seems to be tiredness but i would think that the problem is more deep rooted,so do i try to lower mine or increase hers ? on the most frustrated nights i can stay awake til 3am with my head spinning!! HELP!!

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i am a 42 year old married man with a 30 year old wife,you may say wahay but its not as my sex drive is high and hers is low,if i left it,it would be once a month! we talk about it but it does not help,primary problem seems to be tiredness but i would think that the problem is more deep rooted,so do i try to lower mine or increase hers ? on the most frustrated nights i can stay awake til 3am with my head spinning!! HELP!!

Read my two posts on this thread (end of page 2)..... and this one on another thread:

 

Hope these help a bit!

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