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    I'm not sure if this falls under this forum...

    My 22 year old sister manipulated me into having an intense make out session with her last night. She said it was for her own good, and mine, and that it would help her alot. I love my sister alot, so I told her I'd do it for her; well now I'm feeling awfully guilty and a bit scared. She has told me that she wants to do this again with me in the near future, and I am frightened to tell her no because she might be mad at me or do something that harms me.

    Any advice on what I can say to her?

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    This is abuse, incest actually. Tell someone if you can.

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    Tell her that was not cool at all! That definitely has problems written all over it! I'd seriously talk to her and let it know that it will NOT be happening again. I'd let her know that you need to have a convo with your parents and her!!!
    I don't condone violence but you're also bigger than her I'm sure, so I'd definitely be pushing her off me if she tried something like that again...EVER!!
    Her threats are also something to pay attention to! If it, God forbid, went any futher and you did report it, she could flilp it around and try to pin it on you. Unfortunately, when it comes to that, men usually lose.
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    You don't have to be frightened to refuse her - and tell her that if she persists you'll be forced to tell your parents.

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    It is abuse. You have nothing to be ashamed of. She is in the wrong.

    Who in your family do you trust? It is time to talk to someone about this. Your sister needs some help, and you deserve to feel safe.

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    In my opinion your sisters action constitutes abuse. She manipulated you into doing something you were not comfortable with. Being the older one she was way out of line and i think you should discuss this with an older relative (or a counsellor at school if you're not comfortable mentioning it to family at the moment). Especially if she is talking about wanting to do this again. If you were both really young and inexperienced and just wanted to make sure you were not a terrible kisser before starting to date maybe you could let it slide just once, but she is in her 20's, it was wrong for her to put you in that situation.

    I would talk to her about it first, make it clear that you are not comfortable with it and that you felt manipulated. If she persists then definitely talk to a relative.

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    ABSOLUTELY REFUSE TO DO THIS AGAIN !!

    Do not let her manipulate you into such a thing again. She is an adult and you are a minor.She knows better than to do this . This is incestuous and must be stopped now. TELL your PARENTS . Do not be afraid. Do not worry about it making her mad if you refuse her. Report this to someone immediately.

    Your sister has a serious problem if she is manipulating you into making out with her. This will lead to her manipulating you into having sex with her. This is completely again the laws of nature and would be illegal to the best of my knowledge.

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    I agree with cremebrulee. I just turned 23 on July 7 and my brother is 19 and I would NEVER EVER ask him to do something like that! She was VERY in the wrong!!

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    I've talked to my uncle about it.
    He thinks that she was just inexprienced and looking for someone that she could trust.
    He really wants me to speak to him iff it ever happens again.

    I think he is wrong because she didn't approach me with that kind of attitude.
    My sister has also done some very mean thigs to me in the past. Last year, her and a few of her friends 'splashed' me. If you understand the term. And she jammed her fingers in my anal area a month or so back when we had a fight.

    Thanks all for the help.

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    She has a serious problem! That is incest and sexual harassment and you're a minor to top it off! If you uncle is a dead end, try to find someone else you trust. It's obvious she's touched you before this and you don't have to live with it. It will definitely give you problems in the long run (mentally as well).

    DONT cater to her! Don't be afraid either! You have to talk to someone before it really gets EXTREMELY out of control, because it sounds like that's where it's heading!

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