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Well he's not a virgin, I know that. He's had sex before .. his doc said there was nothing physically wrong or abnormal with him, he's perfectly capable of having children.

 

He's just ... small.

If you are patient - a year or so with progress along the way, carefuly research arab yelqing, it does work. (But it may be painful and have adverse side effects, that's why you ought to research). Stay away from sharlatans, pills, pumps and such.

 

Also plenty of oral and trying positions may satisfy you in the mean time.

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I dunno how long I can survive only on oral. .....

Depends on your experience and feelings and state of mind.

 

Otherwise, I would tell you what others told you. I also think by what you say that he is a nice guy, with a little HW problem.

 

Honestly, It is possible for a woman to have a great orgasm from oral stimulation of a brest. Also I experienced once that she really got one when going down on me without me touching her. Skenes gland ejaculate seeping out, like after g-spot stimulation - amazing.

 

My current gf can have great orgasms from oral only. Depends on technique. The anus and turn-on spot just under the V is very important too. Technique is it.

 

Sure, penetration can be easier, but not (much) better, I am sure.

 

As long as you are satisfied, it should not matter.

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make everyone happy ... masturbate beforehand, and fake it when you ... it's not the best advice, but at least you wont hurt his feelings ... or, you could blunt about it and just tell him.

 

and if this is going to be a major problem for you, then break up with him and find some bloke who fits your standards of Big ... and if you break up with him, think of some other excuse, dont tell him he is 'small' because you will shatter his confidence with other women.

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Well I have a good reason for not wanting to be together, it would be LD for a loooong time anyways..

 

Nova- I would never say that to him, but his ex did. She would constantly comment about how he has the smallest penis she's ever seen, and such.. he def wasn't thrilled about that. That just seems mean and redundant to me though.

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hi n83,

 

As a male with a very small penis myself i've give some insight into my experiences and perhaps it will help you go someway to dealing with ur problem. btw, im like 4x4.5 well below the range of 5-7inches. Obviously, reading this does nothing for my self-esteem and confidence but i've seen it all before if you could perhaps have sex with him on a few occasions and if it isn't very satisying for u perhaps look to end the relationship without hurting his feelings, too much. Well, make sure he isn't aware that his size was the reason for the ending of the relationship. I wouldn't feel your being selfish though or less of a person, as ultimately were all selfish and only have obligations to ourselfs. Plus, sex is of high important in relationships- very value layden. If you ask ppl when they are most happy? most will say during sex. Also, if u ask ppl why they love their partner, husband, wife its usually in terms of what they do for u - they make me laugh, drive a nice car, give good head etc. So don't feel guilty for wanting out. Sex, probably being high on the list, of what your partner does for you so its understandable u've lost some interest once u became aware of his size. Trying to think of ur partner is a none-selfish way is quite difficult.

 

From my personal experience, being small has totally ruined my life and in some respects i wish i wasn't born because of it as its taken alot away. Its very difficult for me to date, have relationships, use showers, urinals without some embrassment, humilation and rejection. Its crazy, atm because of i've turned into a recluse don't socialise very much, go out clubbing as i;m not interested in dating atm because of too many bad experiences over my size. Its no fun, when you drop your pants and u see the look of horror ont he girls face or just the fact u know what she'll be thinking. Even, reassurance thats its fine doesn't work because u know they've be saying its fine to save ur feeling(well the nice women) and probably finish with you at a later date.

 

I always look at freuds it,ego,super eog model and why i've become quite depressed about life. Well the IT especially, your have sexually drives, aggressive ones, sex being the main one and because its difficult for me to date, its like whats the point? can i be arsed going through many more rejections over it again and without women, family where's the meaning to life. Absolutely none at all. lifes tough as it is, but having a tiny * * * * makes it 10x harder. anyways, im moving away from ur problem lol hope u can come to a decent way forward with this guy and at least not harm his ego too much. 'if u've got a big * * * *, ur sorted' talk about fine lines.

 

i wish i could give some sound advice but i've had few good experiences jesus you've been down the foreplay route errr pray for some penis enlargement surgery like myself

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Hah, I hear ya, orgasims are wonderful but theres more to it than just that. We all like that feeling of 'full'.......

 

what i'd give for that to know i had enough to give a girl a good stuffing *cheeky* some of the evil i've been out with, i'd like to give them more than a stuffing more like choking saying that tongue in cheek i'm sure i pick the size queens after the 9incher and as thick as my forearm. Wish i had it to give them.

 

More gossiping, more interest and more sex for me

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Hi Carl,

 

Welcome to eNotAlone.

 

Thank you for sharing your insights. This article may be of help to you: Accept Your Body and Learn to Have a Positive Self Image

 

If you like to talk about your depression, we are happy to help you please create a new thread in the Emotions and Feelings forum.

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hi nottogreen,

 

Thanks for the kind words, it means alot. I'd like to say my depression is under check to a degree- i was taking a strong amount of prozac for a few months. But, i don't believe my depression is because of a chemical imbalance as they had no effect on my moods- i would say i'm generally a happy person but currently it feels like relationships have been taken away from me and i've now been celibate for five years with absolutely no interest in women, even though im totally heterosexual- my circumstances are making me depressed. My Edited by moderator> size influences my moods, say i meet a girl i fancy, i just don't feel very sexually comfortable or confident and i have to let the opportunity go by and thereforeeee the following day i might be down!. even posts like this can put u on a downer, as its telling u penis size is so important its a deal breaker and i've found this out for myself.

 

I'm meant to be seeing a counsellor i've been on a waiting list its been 6months though, since my assessment. I know this is very negaitive and pessimistic of me but i don't believe any form of psychology will work from either a behaviourism, psycho-analyist, cognitive or even medical approachs. Its simply a fact that the external world, is beyond my control and i can't influence my size and i can't make women enjoy sex with very small men. Its also the embrassment, humlidation that is involved also. Or as John paul Satre might say what others think of u, goes someway to defining you, you can't get away from other ppl's gazes.

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If what he has is not functionally useful, I would personally be looking at surgery. I don't know if that is a viable option or not, but so long as I trusted the doctor to make sure I could still urinate fine after it, I don't really see what the big risk is?

 

Jelqing takes a lot of effort and I am not so sure he would even be satisfied with the result now that I think about. Adding an inch to what he has without any added girth wouldn't be doing a lot of good.

 

I wouldn't want to hurt his confidence either if you decide to end the relationship over it, but it is best not to lie about it. He will know whats up anyways. I think the best gift you could ever give him is to show him you care enough about him to be with him for who he is even if that is a brief space in time. I would whole heartedly try to help him find a resolution to this problem. Lay all the options on the table and see what he may want to go with.

 

Penatrative sex is probably something he wants as much as you do. And that desire is even stronger given that he knows he may not be able to so easily. A good doctor can make what would only be a dream for him very much a reality.

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Surgery is not a viable option. It is very risky. And as far as purely cosmetic circumstances goes...maybe in 50 years or so. And woebeit if there ever is a surgery to enlarge penises...You think Pamela Lee goes overboard with her breast implants? Whoa Nelly watch out!

 

Seriously...

 

Judging from what n83 has said her friend's penis is very much functional, and capable, of doing what it is supposed to do...However, it is just tiny.

That is the big dilemma(no pun intended).

It is a sad situation. I think, in the end, he will know why the relationship ended...and like Carl has been saying, it will definitely be an ego bruiser...

 

This reminds me so much of women who feel that their breasts are too small...

It is so sad what society does to people that don't fit a standard.

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Surgery is not a viable option. It is very risky. And as far as purely cosmetic circumstances goes...maybe in 50 years or so. And woebeit if there ever is a surgery to enlarge penises...You think Pamela Lee goes overboard with her breast implants? Whoa Nelly watch out!

 

Seriously...

 

Judging from what n83 has said her friend's penis is very much functional, and capable, of doing what it is supposed to do...However, it is just tiny.

That is the big dilemma(no pun intended).

It is a sad situation. I think, in the end, he will know why the relationship ended...and like Carl has been saying, it will definitely be an ego bruiser...

 

This reminds me so much of women who feel that their breasts are too small...

It is so sad what society does to people that don't fit a standard.

 

There is a big difference between breats and the penis? the penis is directly involved in sex yet breasts are just something to look at. I doubt, many guys would finish with a girl over her breast size? yet many women would finish with a very small man as it has a negative effect on the sex.

 

The only comparison, is if a girl had a freak vagina where it was too small to accommodate a penis and it couldn't be cured and thereforeeee the male couldn't have intercourse. Would many guys been interested going without penetrative sex, once they found out? i doubt it somehow.

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thats why men are obsessed about penis size because its one of the few body parts that goes beyond appearances and is the main focus and link towards sexually pleasure.

 

So much value in it, it can really mess u up psychologically well it has me.

 

As a man which would u rather have;

 

height

large penis

good looks,

 

im confident 99% would pick the large penis i'd happily be short, average looking for a decent sized penis. Although, im tall, nice physic, ok looks it seems irrelevant with a small * * * *. Because, the end for me, is sex and my looks, personality have aquired me women in the past but they seem irrelevant once the woman/girl see how small i am and how i can't satisfy them sexually through penetration.

 

Im confident i could keep a girl if a had a large penis and being 5ft 7 and not that great looking. Look at john falcon the man with the biggest penis he's short, ugly, fat yet has slept with in excess of 200 women purely based on his penis size. crazy would women get men , purely based on having large breasts nothing else errr doubtful

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There is a big difference between breats and the penis? the penis is directly involved in sex yet breasts are just something to look at. I doubt, many guys would finish with a girl over her breast size? yet many women would finish with a very small man as it has a negative effect on the sex.

 

I agree. I doubt any man would break up with a girl due to her breast size. They get to see them right away when they meet and should know whether or not they find the person attractive overall.

 

The only comparison, is if a girl had a freak vagina where it was too small to accommodate a penis and it couldn't be cured and thereforeeee the male couldn't have intercourse. Would many guys been interested going without penetrative sex, once they found out? i doubt it somehow.

 

Not many. But I would stay with a woman in this circumstance. Assuming the relationship overall showed promise, I would never break up with a girl in this instance. I know her pleasure center can be reached without penetration.

As long as she enjoyed performing oral sex, I would be fine with it.

 

There is also the possibility of anal sex

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yea, thats the real problem with penis size the curiosity. Shame, the women don't know before hand, to save both of you being disappointed. I could do with a badge 'i have a small * * * *, is it a problem' with my dimensions. True, i wouldn't break up with a girl over the above problem. I suppose anal, oral would be enough- anyhow i'd not high maintenance and don't demand the best, like some women ive dated

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I agree. I doubt any man would break up with a girl due to her breast size. They get to see them right away when they meet and should know whether or not they find the person attractive overall.

 

I disagree. If you can't get implants there is always the wonder bra...

 

On that note I think alot of it does come down to aesthetics. No one ever complains when their member is too huge and capable of breaking a woman in two...The complaint is always about being too small. So I would say that approximately 50% of it is vanity...

 

Also, I think people place far too much emphasis on the penetration aspect of great sex. There are MANY ways to make up for having a small penis...Great sex should involve the entire body, not just the genital region...I think.

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yea, thats the real problem with penis size the curiosity. Shame, the women don't know before hand, to save both of you being disappointed. I could do with a badge 'i have a small * * * *, is it a problem' with my dimensions. True, i wouldn't break up with a girl over the above problem. I suppose anal, oral would be enough- anyhow i'd not high maintenance and don't demand the best, like some women ive dated

 

Your comment made me think of something else. There are not many things a woman has to wait to find out about a man before having sex/becoming intimate. But one thing a woman will not find out about me is what I have down there (and mroe importantly what it feels like inside her).

 

That one thing I would want a woman to anticipate. I want that anticipation to build up (and I am not saying that just because I am long. I'd say the same thing about being average or a bit below average as long as I could use it).

 

One aspect that men I think neglect about women is that they can be very curious.

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Ok hello folks. Let me introduce myself. I'm 17 years old, 18 in a few months. I'm a guy, with a 4.5 inch penis. I'm kind of in the "gray zone". Not big enough to be useful for sex, but not small enough to get any sympathy.

 

Most guys dream of having a huge 9 inch penis. Me? I have dreams of having an averaged size 5.5 inch penis. I would give up everything I have to just have a normal size, and then I would be satisfied. According to various charts I have looked up, I'm smaller than the average size for a 12 year old male child (4.7 inches).

 

I'm amazed at all the shallow remarks by the various women in this thread encouraging the first poster to dump her boyfriend because he can't satisfy her sexually. It just goes to show how shallow women are. But is that really surprising? After all, in a marriage who gets the wedding ring? Who gets the flowers or candy on the anniversary? Women are very materialistic. I wish I was gay, really. But no, of course with my luck I was born a straight male with a penis that is useless for everything but peeing.

 

Life sucks with a small penis. "Large men" don't know how good they have it. And women don't know how good they have it either, considering they don't have to worry about size at all. Yeah, they have to worry about breast size, but still, a woman with small breasts can still have sex. A man with a small penis can't.

 

 

I have been with a girl before. When she saw me, she laughed and said "forget it". I have a feeling I am destined to be a virgin my whole life, unless I can scrape together enough money to buy some hookers. Yeah, hookers. I have always been a pretty religious guy and very honest about everything, but you know what? Screw it. It's not my fault I was born with a small penis. I'm going to go out, buy tons of hookers, and not care if I go to hell and not care if I get STDs and die from them. I already have weak kidneys thanks to contracting lyme disease when I was younger, so getting one STD such as Hepatitis would = instant death for me.

 

 

With a small penis, you get no respect. School? I dropped out because guys in the locker room always laughed at me. Women? I'm never going to have a relationship, marriage, or kids. Be a scientist, or contribute anything to society? How? I have no confidence, thanks to my small penis. My life IS POINTLESS.

 

You know what? god doesn't exist, and if he does, he's evil. I have been a good guy my whole life, never commmited any crimes, never hurt anyone, always done incredibly hard stuff for people for free. And look how god repays me, by cursing me.

 

If it's one thing I learned, god rewards evil people. My whole life I've been kicked, beaten, had stuff stolen from me, picked on, etc. And guess what, those guys probably have 8 inch * * * * *.

 

 

I have decided that when I turn 18 in a few months I am going to enlist into the Marines as a meatshield, and go off to Iraq to die. I hope I die, at least I'll go down as a hero. And if I don't die there, at least I'll get paid and have some money to buy some hookers when I get back.

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...I have decided that when I turn 18 in a few months I am going to enlist into the Marines as a meatshield, and go off to Iraq to die. I hope I die, at least I'll go down as a hero. And if I don't die there, at least I'll get paid and have some money to buy some hookers when I get back.

Hi Fury,

 

Welcome to eNotAlone.

 

Your got quite an outlook on life.

 

Don't worry, it will still grow a bit. Also research "arab jelqing", it does work but be patient.

 

This article may be of help to you: Accept Your Body and Learn to Have a Positive Self Image. Have a look at Reference materials and more info for ideas on how to deal with depression.

 

If you like to talk about your depression, we are happy to help you please create a new thread in the Emotions and Feelings forum.

 

P.S. Once you got a boy, consider to not circumcise him as it may cost half an inch by some studies.

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I'm amazed at all the shallow remarks by the various women in this thread encouraging the first poster to dump her boyfriend because he can't satisfy her sexually. It just goes to show how shallow women are.

4inchfury, I really dont think there is anything wrong with a woman not wanting to be with someone who does not satisfy her sexually. This guy the original poster is with just needs to find someone who will accept him for what he has.

 

Orlander

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