Ask For Advice
Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 15

Thread: Why do guys have to pee after sex?

  1. #1
    *Jennster*
    Member *Jennster*'s Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2006
    Location
    Herriman, UT
    Age
    35
    Posts
    205
    Gender
    Female

    Why do guys have to pee after sex?

    Ok I know this is kinda gross....but every time after we have sex my BF gets up right away and head to the bathroom - and he stays in there reading his magazines for more than 10 minutes....I've asked him why he has to do this and he says guys have to pee after sex. OK that's fine but it bugs me how he takes so long. After sex I am wiped out and have to fall asleep right away...and most of the time I end up doing it by myself cause he's not there to hold me. I need to talk to him about how it bugs me that he just gets up and leaves right after - EVERY time. We do live together so it's not like he's leaving the house...but just the fact that he gets up to be alone bugs me.

    Also - he says sex always revs him up...like from all the thrusting and motion I guess he gets a sort of adrenaline rush and so its hard for him to get to sleep after sex...so after the bathroom thing he usually goes into the computer room cause he can't sleep - and then he comes to bed around 3-4 in the morning! It's hard for me to understand this because sex wipes me out and I can easily fall asleep right after - I guess we're just different. It's kind of disheartening though to me.

    Any thoughts?

  2. #2
    Daddy Bear

    Join Date
    Apr 2006
    Location
    TBA
    Age
    54
    Posts
    4,201
    Gender
    Male
    i've wondered about that myself. this explanation looks plausible:

    link removed

  3. #3
    Süsser Tod

    Join Date
    Jun 2005
    Location
    Away from enotalone.com
    Age
    38
    Posts
    864
    Gender
    Male
    Well, it doesn't work like that for me, and more than once I've fallen asleep with my gf after sex.

  4. #4
    Cardinal
    Gold Member Cardinal's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2006
    Location
    Houston
    Posts
    1,276
    Gender
    Male
    A lot of women feel the need to pee during or right after sex. It is not just a guy thing. My habit is to be sure to go right before sex (which can probably get annoying), so that I won't need to take a break.

    I am also like your boyfriend. I don't go to sleep right after sex. I'd rather talk to her and maybe get some food or mess around on the computer. She is out like a light though. Chalk it up to individual differences.

  5. #5
    *Jennster*
    Member *Jennster*'s Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2006
    Location
    Herriman, UT
    Age
    35
    Posts
    205
    Gender
    Female
    Yeah....it does make sense in my head. I realize everyone is different. There are some nights I've gotta go right after...if I don't and I fall asleep right away I end up waking in the middle of the night having to go really badly - which I don't do on nights there is no sex. So I do understand.

    I take things personally and that's something I've been working on...I know he doesn't do it to avoid me...I just wondered how many other guys out there do this too. Thanks for assuring me

  6. #6
    Phoenix69
    Member Phoenix69's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2006
    Location
    Auckland, New Zealand
    Age
    33
    Posts
    209
    Gender
    Female
    Its pretty normal, and keeps you healthy. Well, I know for females that we are supposed to pee immediately before or immediately after sexual intercourse. Something to help prevent unrine infections and systitis and other horrible crappy girly things we have to deal with as the "other side" of sex!

  7. #7
    Dako
    Platinum Member Dako's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2005
    Location
    SoCal
    Age
    64
    Posts
    9,175
    Gender
    Male
    Thanked
    2
    Depends on how much beer it took to get you both into the sack.

  8. #8
    Tigris
    Silver Member Tigris's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2005
    Location
    England
    Age
    53
    Posts
    3,490
    Gender
    Female
    Thanked
    1
    I like your answer Dako.


    I make sure I go to the toilet before I have sex otherwise I sometimes have to jump out of bed and run to the toilet.

  9. #9
    monkey1
    Member
    Join Date
    Feb 2006
    Location
    San Francisco, CA
    Age
    35
    Posts
    673
    Gender
    Female
    I try to pee before and after sex. I don't recall my boyfriend needing to do this. He'd rather cuddle and such and fall asleep. He's never said anything to me. I wouldn't worry about it, we all function differently.

  10. #10
    Deviant_Kate
    Bronze Member Deviant_Kate's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2006
    Location
    Ames, IA
    Age
    33
    Posts
    285
    Gender
    Female
    Quote Originally Posted by Phoenix69
    Its pretty normal, and keeps you healthy. Well, I know for females that we are supposed to pee immediately before or immediately after sexual intercourse. Something to help prevent unrine infections and systitis and other horrible crappy girly things we have to deal with as the "other side" of sex!
    I was thinking the same thing. It's not exactly the advice you were looking for, but it's healthier to pee after sex just to make sure you flush out any bacteria that could cause a UTI and whatnot. I'm not sure if it's the same for guys, but I don't see why it wouldn't be.

    As for the staying up til the wee hours in the computer room - talk to him about it, tell him it hurts your feelings, and tell him that the best gift he could give you is to be with you after sex - to make you feel important and loved and cherished.

  11.  

Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast
Top Threads
Trying to lose virginity but the pain is unbearable !!
Hi everyone! I have decided and to lose my virginity. My boyfriend and I have been trying to have sex two times now, but as soon as he tries to
Is It Right To Call Me A Virgin Or No?
Here are the 2 most intimate things I have done with my ex-girlfriend: 1. Doggystyle dry sex and missionary dry sex. 2. Masturbating myself until
Sex without Condom
My boyfriend, who is also the father of my 8y/o child, has been in prison for 5 years, he's out and refuses to have sex without a condom. I am on
Touching me while I sleep
Ok so I'll keep this simple, my boyfriend touches me while I "sleep". I use quotation marks because I sleep really lightly and anyone who touches me
I am having some embarrassing issues related to sex, i need some advice please!
So im a virgin. I am 19 but staying a virgin has been MY personal choice. It may sound lame to some but i have been perfectly content with my
Am I in the wrong here?
In bed this morning my boyfriend and I were sleepily fooling around and after obvious hints from me he initiated foreplay. I was enjoying it and
My girlfriend wants to give a BJ, but I don't want to disappoint
I'm 18 and a virgin. My girlfriend and I are planning to keep our Virginity until we are 21. But she still wants to have other kinds of sex. She
Featured Threads
He Left My Clothes in His Yard to Pick Up
Here is a follow to my situation: After I spent four days with this guy I met online, I inadvertently left a few clothes at his place. Almost two
Does he really think I'm trolling him/can't trust me or is just an excuse?
Met a guy last summer. I broke it off with him 3 times in 6 dates, over concern about distance, but kept apologizing. The last break off he said he
My 8 year old won't go to sleep or stay asleep 😣😣
Feel like I am losing my mind. My 8 year old just won't go to bed.. or she at least won't stay in bed. She is still up now at 9.45pm (after being
HSP in LDR, about to move to be with him and get married
Im a Highly Sensitive Person. I get very overwhelmed very easily. If i dont sleep well, if theres too much noise, if there are too many
Am I being selfish or unreasonable?
Hi everyone, Sorry for my first post to be one of all doom and gloom, but I'm stuck and don't know what to do. I want to start by saying that I
Stomach flu fears
I have a huge fear of stomach flu, if i am exposed or know someone has had it a have really bad anxiety and stress over it. Yesterday at 11am at my
Boyfriend Likes Questionable Pictures on Instagram– Should I Be Worried?
Long story short, he's been liking some questionable pictures that this other woman (whom he knows irl) posts. In one of the pictures he liked, she's
Ask For Advice

Tags for this Thread

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •