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    sirkindirkin
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    Promise rings - do guys wear them?

    Hi,

    I have a question about promise rings. Basically, I want know if it's common for a guy to wear a ring on his left ring finger if he's with a woman. I know that girls sometimes wear rings to show that they are taken, even if they are not yet engaged or married. But do men? I'm not talking junior high school stuff.

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    Last edited by sirkindirkin; 04-19-2006 at 11:12 PM.

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    Um, it is pretty uncommon. I've seen guys wearing rings that their girlfriends gave them, but I don't think that they advertised it as a "promise ring."

    I think it's a personal choice.

    Hmmm.... now when I think about it.... I only know one man who wears a ring that his gf gave him for christmas, but he wears it on his right hand. All the rest went ringless until they got married. Even the guys I know who are engaged or in very long term relationships - they don't wear "promise rings."

    I think your girfriend is making stuff up.

    Bottom line: If you don't want you, don't wear it!
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    I feel a 28 year old man shouldn't get a women a promise ring. Promise rings are for couples between the ages of 14-22. At age 28, the only ring you should get her is an engagement ring.

    However, when i was in a relationship my ex-gf and i bought each other promise rings and yes i wore mine almost everyday on the right ring finger.

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    It was my idea for the promise rings, not my GF's, so it's not only the wemon that give them to their mates.

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    I agree with bobo. Promise rings are basically for younger people who are "promising" to get married once they are a little older, finish school, etc.

    At 28.... I don't see a need for a promise ring either. An engagement ring is what you give if you are promising to marry her, and you wear your wedding ring once the blessed event occurs.

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    I've never heard of it or seen it but it may be different in the US. I don't see the point...why not just get engaged?

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    I think the girlfriend wants to "advertise" that he is off the market, even though they aren't married.

    Is she maybe a bit insecure?

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    Well, maybe I shouldn't have called it a "promise ring" in the first place, because that sounds juvenile, but that's what she called it when I took issue with the whole thing.
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    ah ha.... so, it's in the celebrity gossip mags!!! Of course, it must be true!!!

    ummm... I would have to say, maybe about 1 in 100 men I know wear a promise ring or "engagement ring" before they are married on their left hand.

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    I think she is taking you for a ride. The only people I have ever seen wear a ring on their wedding finger are married people.

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