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    how do you let a guy chase you?

    yes....how do i let a guy chase me? and also....how do i make him want to chase me?

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    what does it mean to give a guy his space?


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    He'll only chase you if he likes you... You can't 'get' him to do anything.

    However, if you show some bold signs of interests, he might wish to... push his luck... a little further.

    To give a guy space is exactly the same as giving a girl space.

    Hope this helps

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    Trying to get a guy to chase you implies playing games. Not a good idea.

    Making yourself look happy and confident without being arrogant, and being approachable is a prime way of attracting people which is an entirely different concept. Treating a guy as an equal and expecting to be treated as an equal also helps and trying to be chased is not part of that concept.

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    sigh.......i am SO confused by this guy. i am 26. he is 37. we saw each other for about 5-6 dates back in november. i thought things were going well, though he seemed like he was getting a bit bored. then, he found out i went out with his friend for 2 dates at the same time (i made out with his friend too).....it was drama! he pushed me away and i went on vacation for a month and didnt see him.

    i called him when i got back and he suggested going to coffee sometime. i said, how about a movie and he said okay. and later on i called him and we went to the movies. he was all over me though i dont think he just wants sex. i wasnt in the mood so i pushed him away. i am affectionate but he wasn't that responsive. but at the end of the night.....we gave a hug and kiss and he said talk to you soon.

    but we didn't speak until i called him a week later.....and he said mabe we can see each other later on this week......and i said, oh i was thinking of waiting a little longer (because i am busy). i feel like i am always chasing him and he doesnt chase me.

    but at least he always suggests doing something first when i call. (though why does he never state a specific date and time?) i kind of feel like we have an agreement that we're seeing each other.

    i asked him before vacation that if he didnt want to see me anymore, he would tell me straight out right? and he said yes. i cannot read him at all. i cant tell if he likes me at all. i just think he must be so laidback and such a cool customer. either that or he has so much experience with women.......in his words, he "goes with the flow". i told him that i might like him and that i was scared and he said "don't be."

    well, geez, i am confused.

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    I don't know but if you find out let me know! I guess it is like DN says its all about what you promote towards people. As my mom says you attract more bees with honey then with vinegar.

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    "sigh.......i am SO confused by this guy. i am 26. he is 37. we saw each other for about 5-6 dates back in november. i thought things were going well, though he seemed like he was getting a bit bored. then, he found out i went out with his friend for 2 dates at the same time (i made out with his friend too).....it was drama! he pushed me away and i went on vacation for a month and didnt see him."

    Maybe he just doesn't want to get cheated on?

    Hope this helps...

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    i thought men like chasing women. i thought they want to do the chasing??

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    well......he saw me again after vacation and we had a fun date. *sniff* i like him. i miss him.

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    He doesn't want to be in a comitted relationship. He wants to play the field.

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    Quote Originally Posted by teacup
    i thought men like chasing women. i thought they want to do the chasing??
    Depends on the man, and it depends on the woman.

    Some men only like the chase aspect of a relationship.

    Most men only "chase" when they see the woman as worth the chase.

    Some people don't chase at all and come together quite naturally with someone else.

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