SeaBisquit Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 at times it seems like we are getting really close than all of a sudden he will pull away. why does he do this? sometimes i think it doesn't have anything to do with me tho because he says i'm the only one that he talks to. so i'm guessing something else is wrong? Link to comment
lost_status Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 From my expirence, guys who do that arnt sure what they want. They might be insecure if the relationship. They will get close one minute and then they think its too much, or they arent ready, or they might think they dont want to get attached, so they pull away. Guys arnt the only ones who do it, girls do it too Link to comment
hk87 Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 I know, it's SO annoying! My friend does it, but I think it's because he has a girlfriend and thinks he shouldn't be talking or getting involved with me! Hk87 Link to comment
SeaBisquit Posted January 23, 2006 Author Share Posted January 23, 2006 sometimes i think he is afraid of getting hurt because he says things like girls always end up hating me. Link to comment
lost_status Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 Hk87, are you seriious! are you good friends with him? It shouldnt matter if he has a gf, argghh how annoying! LOL Link to comment
shorty20 Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 I'm reading a book called "mars and venus on a date" in it, it describes 5 stages to a relationship, and the second is a stage of uncertainty. He's not exactly sure what he wants, but don't take it personally. I would use this time to take time for yourself as well. Don't pester him about why he's backing off or not calling as much. Stay cool, hang out with the girls, and when he calls, just be pleasant and enthusiastic. Act warm and happy that he called, not resentfull that he's been pulling away. He'll come around and realize what a catch you are. Link to comment
kellbell Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 Hey SeaB! From my experience guys tend to pull back simply because they need time for themselves and not to "lose" themselves in the relationship. It's nothing personal to you, it's just they way they are. In my experience, guys tend to have an easier time looking out for their own needs whereas women tend put others needs first. Not saying that is the case all the time, it is just that it has happened to me more times than not. What I would suggest is to pull back a little yourself and do other things like hang out with your girlfriends, your hobbies, and such. It's important to live your own life while being in the relationship and not lose whom you are. Just try to relax and give each some space. I am sure once you do that, things will be much better for you. Take care and good luck with everything. Link to comment
chai714 Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 When you have sex with a man who has no emotional attachment to you, he'll no longer be interested. The sooner you give it up, the less likely he is to stick around. If this isn't the case with you, then I think that he simply lost interest at some point. Link to comment
shiminimo Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 i don't think it's you. i think it's something else that's bugging him. to be honest most guys won't show there feelings or let out what's really bugging him. Link to comment
hk87 Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 Lost status- I'm being totally serious! It's crazy isn't it? I'll hang out with him for a few days, then not hear from him for like a week! He just goes all weird on me and doesn't talk much, where as other days he can't say enough to me! We are good friends, and I love spending time with him (because I like him ;-) ) but he doesn't know that as I don't show it, but he does pull away from me, it's like he suddenly gets a conscience- he maybe likes me, but then feels bad for thinking that and goes away to try and get over it, but then comes back! His g/f and him are very long distance though.... Hk87 Link to comment
Mattie Posted January 23, 2006 Share Posted January 23, 2006 This sounds a bit like my situation. I think it's just down to uncertainty. I'd ride out for a bit, but try not to put yourself in a position where you'll jump when he says jump. Link to comment
lost_status Posted January 24, 2006 Share Posted January 24, 2006 Hk87, it sounds like a friend I have.. I used to like this guy for years and years he was a very good friend to me, but everytime he would find a gf he would stop talking to me as much and wouldnt hang out with me. Then when he broke up with them he would act like nothing happened! Its crazy! What would these people do when they get married? would they cut off contact with all their good female friends? :s Link to comment
purityandlight Posted April 10, 2011 Share Posted April 10, 2011 It's the Male intimacy cycle. Read the original "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus". Don't freak when he does it...busy yourself and let him return on his own..when he is ready. If you let him miss you...and it's a real relationship, he will come back...potentially stronger each time. Link to comment
adonis_boy Posted April 10, 2011 Share Posted April 10, 2011 I do it when I start to feel that I am becoming clingy or needy. It helps me to return to my confident state and clear my mind. I also realize that I miss my girl more and I really like her. Link to comment
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