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    Angelindisguise
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    Angry Is it wrong my man won't go down on me?

    I have a bit of an issue. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 years now, and ever since day one he HATES going down on me. He has maybe done it to me 2 or 3 times. I LOVE giving him oral sex, I like receiving it even more. My last boyfriend was obsessed with doing it, so the change hass been quite difficult. Is there something wrong? He tells me that he just doesn't like doing it. I think it's a combination of him being inexperienced (he has never done it b4 me) and to be honest I think it kinda grosses him out. I'm always well grommed and clean (i know ) but i just don't get it! I have tried refusing to do it to him if he won't to me but that didn'tlast long, i love it too much. Should i just suck it up and live with it?

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    If you force him to do stuff he doesn't like he's going to want to have less and less sex. In my opinion you will have to live without it, he doesn't like it and if there really is nothing that will change his mind, well, then there is not much you can do about it!

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    you have only 1 life, so why do you have to live with it if its not you and what you like??? I agree that he wont change probably, if he doesnt like it, then he doesnt, and if somehow you make him do that it wont be the same... he wouldnt enjoy it and its just a turn off for all the fun.
    Would you consider leaving him to find someone more like you, or is there love? Im not saying i would leave, not sure how i would deal, if it was true love i would put up with it of course.
    There are people that just dont like it.. but hey he likes receiving.. maybe stop giving the pleasure to him
    .. Best of luck
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    Unfortunately, there is very little you can do to change his mind about this.....there are some things that may increase his desire to do it (ie using whipped cream/chocolate together....letting him know how much you enjoy it....challenging his manhood in some way where he wants to "prove it" and do it - all depends on why he is averse to it) however if his mindset is that he is grossed out by it and does not like it, it is very hard to change that. And he just might not ever, so you need to decide if you can accept him as is, or if you might be better suited with someone whom you are more compatible in the bedroom with. Of course, that is no guarantee you may be compatible with someone else in the areas you are with your boyfriend either....so if you truly love him, this may be something that you are willing to live with.

    If you aren't, then well, you have to decide how important it is to you and whether it is worth leaving for. That would depend on how the rest of your relationship is though too - is he "giving" in other areas?

    I would probably limit giving him oral sex though, in my opinion seems kind of unfairly balanced!

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    Quote Originally Posted by RayKay
    I would probably limit giving him oral sex though, in my opinion seems kind of unfairly balanced!
    very unfair! he is being selfish. Stop giving it to him and let him see what it is like when you want it and your partner refuses to give.

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    I am sorry but, I can't imagine not giving oral to my lady. I guess I am a freak when it comes to pleasing my lady. Maybe he is scared that he will not be that good or that he may let you down. I would recommend that you talk to him about it and see if you can make him more comfortable with the whole idea. Maybe take a shower together and see if he will go "downtown" on you. I can't imagine how sex would be without having my woman having the big O while I am doing the DEED.

    I recommend talking to him about it. Then decide if you can live with it or if you have to leave him for someone you are more compatible with. I agree with Whatfor when she said stop giving him oral and see if that makes him more willing to compromise with you. It is not fair to you that he is not taking care of you in that way since he obviously likes getting it.

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    Thanks everyone! I will give all the tips a try! The shower idea sounds nice, so does the whipped cream and choco!

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    In the beginning my bf did not like to do it that much...so a cherry tasting lube did the trick to get him down there. From now on, he just does it on his own.

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    Poor creature, I know, I'm in the same position. I love giving my GF oral sex, I love it, and I'm even willing to sometimes overlook her not very good personal higiene.
    I can tell you for sure that in the last year I've given her oral sex mor than twice the times we've had actual intercourse (penis/vagina).

    After 3 years she has given me oral sex about 10 times, good oral sex (more than a couple of licks) about 3 times, and out of those three, only two were good (only once I was able to orgasm).
    She really doesn't like it, and has even told me she is grossed by the smell of my penis (even when I'm straight out of the shower) or complains that my penis tastes to soap?

    Well, that and the fact that she is terrible at it. She always bited or scratched my penis with her teeth, so I really don't miss it at all nor encourage her to do it anymore.

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    i think you should consider using a douche. Perhaps the tuna buffet is a bit too much for him!!!! If that doesn't work then try cutting down the forest and make it look a little more presentable. You know..... shave that muff! Oh yeah, tell your boyfriend your welcome.

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