'Cutting' Down

okay so obviously there is a double meaning up there in the title ^. Well, i have tried several times to stop. My ex bf has just stopped smoking for me, so i want to stop cutting for good for myself--and for him. i think that it would be good to stop for him because i want to show him that i really like him (whats the definition of love by the way?) possibly "love" him, but i want to stop for me because its hard to have people see scars and go "are you cutting again?" i just say no because on visible parts i dont cut, on my theighs and hips though... yeah well i havent quite quit yet. So how do i completely stop cold-turkey. He stopped smoking cold turkey, and i am sure i can stop cutting cold turkey. so any suggestions?

If you really like this guy shouldn't he be enough help for you to stop? That was the way it was with me and my boyfriend all while we were going out I had stopped... I used to put icecubes on my skin... it was cold and I felt pain but I did not tear the skin

thats a good idea hopeless. try cutting something else. i know it sounds dumb, but it helps me. i cut paper a lot. but i cut little things out of it, like shapes and designs. i think being able to focus on the art of it helps me resist the urge to cut myself!!

Do something to distract yourself, like exercising. Snapping elactic bands on your wrists also helps because it hurts and also leaves a red welt, but it's NOT permanent.

My story is my parents got divorced when I was very young I remember lots of yelling and violence, then we moved when I was about 6 my mother got a boyfriend that we moved with that was wanted we moved a lot, around 7 years old he started raping me and molesting/touching and physically violent, verbally, my mother always said she didn't care it was my problem, when I got older I told the cops and the relayed the message to my mother who told my step father and my step father pointed a gun at me. So I left moved in with my real father who kicked me out after about 8 months I wasn't social, or, smart.. gave him nothing to be proud of. I had ran away a couple times.. my step father had ran off though the cops found him, I then more less dropped out of school, lived alone, got into drugs, hung around dangerous, violent people almost everyone had been to prison, got in absive relationships.... was in lock-up and rehab by the time I was 17. I started cutting and burning around 12 years old. I am now married at 20 years old I was married at 19, I have borderline personality disorder, major depressive disorder, ocd tendencies, anxiety disorder, aghoraphobia, post traumatic stress disorder, binge eating disorder, insomnia, addiction problems, and ADD... I haven't cut in about 8 months...

does anyone have any problems like mine or had similar things happen?

I thank everyone for reading this and I would really appreciate replies.

In my opinion, cold turkey=bad, for cutting anyways. You're bound to have slip ups if you try this way, you just have to try taking it a day at a time, and I hope you've tried everybody elses suggestions!

PainNsiolence - Good job! 8 months is awesome! You could start your own thread. I'm fortunate enough that I haven't lived through such things. I wish you luck in the future.