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    sayer7
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    Found his panty fetish collection

    He's been my ex now for several months... but we're still friends to the point where he lets me do his laundry at his place and we still hang out together with our close mutual friends and do lots of things together like do day trips to find lamps and go to the mountains to hike, etc.... just as friends.

    I was doing laundry like I always do on Friday at his place, but this time I didn't have enough clothes for a load, so I did what I usually do (what he's always ASKED me to do when I don't have a full load) which is go into his closet get his dirty clothes to add to the load of laundry.

    But today I found his collection of other girl's panties and cybering porn that was dated when he and I had still been together last year...from other women (it was nearly 3 year relationship) laying on the floor in the middle of the closet. Kinda made me angry to know he'd been collecting these things WHILE we'd still been in a relationship... but then I realized we weren't together anymore and well it's just not my place to say anything.

    But it was just sitting there on the floor for everyone to see ON THE DAY he KNEW I was going to be doing laundry cause I do laundry everyday on Friday at his place.

    Would you confront him about it or just pretend you didn't see it?

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    Re: Found his panty fetish collection

    Quote Originally Posted by sayer7
    Kinda made me angry to know he'd been collecting these things WHILE we'd still been in a relationship... but then I realized we weren't together anymore and well it's just not my place to say anything.

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    Would you confront him about it or just pretend you didn't see it?
    You answered your own question -- bolded in the first quote above.

    What would be the point of confronting him since you are no longer romantically involved?

    Just consider it One More Reason To Be Glad You're Not With Him Anymore and let it go.

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    Why confront him? What would you get out of it, either of you?

    I know it happened while you were together, presumably anyway, but its the past. Whats the point? Shouldn't you just be glad you are not with him, and have even more reason NOT to be with him?

    From what you have said before, I am surprised you are even friends!

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    I dont know why you do his laundry etc, thats not what an ex should be doing.

    Anyways, I wouldnt say anything, be glad you arent with him anymore and stop doing his laundry!

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    If I were you, I'd be happy and feel lucky that this guy's interests no longer conflicted with mine. If anything, I'd be relieved that it was no longer my problem - leave it for the next woman to deal with and move past it with a nice, clear head.

    I can understand you being a bit upset about it, I probably would be too, even if I had absolutely no romantic feelings for him anymore. Just shake your head and think, "man, am I glad that I never again have to deal with his crap".

    Now might be a good time to reconsider your closeness and friendship with him. Is it really a good idea to still do your laundry at his place? To see him so often? Perhaps it is just too soon, and you need some time away from him to gather your thoughts.

    Let someone else deal with him, and be happy that you're not the one anymore.

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    I agree with confusedgrl that you should just be glad that it's in the past and you are no longer with him. You also should stop doing his laundry!

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