Internet porn addiction

I am 28/M and addicted to internet porn. Whenever I surf internet, I surf porn. I am so addictive to it that whenever I log into internet, I can't help surfing porn sites. This leads to tremendous waste of time and money. After logging off, I realise that it was not correct and promise myself that it was the last time. But again whenever, I log onto net, after surfing some good sites, I can't resist the urge to get into the porn sites.

Internet is a very usable source of information but if, only porn is surfed, it is a wastage. I tried to keep myself off from internet for several days as a punishment measure for myself. But nowadays one can't stay away from internet for long. Again the urge to surf porn pushes me towards the internet.

I am getting irritated because of this habit as this habit doesn't want to be kicked. Pls help me to get rid of this habit and to save my own time, money and energy.

Find other things to keep your mind off it.

Keep your credit cards far away from the pc so that you're not tempted to pay for it.

If all else fails. Seek help.

Yes all men can agree that porn is addictive. You need to understand that it is all mental. You seem very weak mentally when it comes to porn. An addiction goes away only after you have withdraws from it.. except these withdraws are nothing like drugs or w/e. My suggestion would be to not USE your computer for more than a week. Find something else to do with your time. If you feel tempted to look up porn then that just shows how WEAK you are. Do you really want to think of yourself as THAT weak??

I think the answer lies within you. You just need to make changes so that you would not be tempted to look at it. If you don't ever change anything, then how are you supposed to overcome it?

You may find this website helpful. Part of the site is a message board similar to this, but the only topic there is overcoming porn addiction. There is a board for PA's (Porn Addicts) and a separate board for SO's (Significant Others)

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You may want to check biological rather than psychological reasons. See from there if there are any way to inhibit the addiction.

The most basic instinct of human (male and female) is to have sex. Accept it ... thats the way you are genetically programmed and its normal to have a healthy drive. If you cannot find a girl then obviously masturbation is another option (your choice, obviously!). I dont see anything wrong with masturbation. Guy/girls in this forum probably with partners saying masturbation is for weak-minded, now that i dont understand (how hypocritical!).

If you are spending too much money on it then it may be bad for your financial state or If it is affecting your life then also it is bad.

How come too much sex is never bad?

If you're serious about getting completely over your addiction and never using internet porn again, then I would reccomend seeing a hypnotherapist.

Within a couple of hours you'd hate it.. but unless you're absolutely sure you want to never enjoy internet porn again, don't even consider it

~Spirit's Away~ Wrote

You may want to check biological rather than psychological reasons.

I don't see any reason it could be biological.. I view it only psycohological.. I just honestly can't see how viewing a porn site has anything to do with biological reasons. Could you offer any feedback while you think this?? Thanks..

I would also like the reasoning behind that SA.

I'm not aware of any genetic reasons that make us attracted to pornography..

I'm sure mankind has been masturbating forever, fantasizing about some guy/girl ... Pornography just gives an easier way to fantasize.

I dont see it necessarily as a bad thing if it helps you with your sexual release and keeps you from being a horny person.

I don't believe the OP is talking about what might be considered normal "take-it-or-leave-it" porn use to aid masturbation fantasies when one doesn't have a partner. I got the sense that the OP feels his porn usage is out of control.

If it is, in fact, an addiction problem telling him to "just stop it" or "do something else" is like telling an alcoholic or drug addict to "just stop" using. Ain't gonna happen. Even if he were to find enough will to stop using porn, the addiction will crop up in another way with another substance in place of the porn.

I got more first-hand understanding of addiction than I ever really wanted to when I was in my early 20's. If the OP is truly dealing with addiction issues, he really CAN'T "just stop."

~Spirit's Away~ Wrote

You may want to check biological rather than psychological reasons.

 

I don't see any reason it could be biological.. I view it only psycohological.. I just honestly can't see how viewing a porn site has anything to do with biological reasons. Could you offer any feedback while you think this?? Thanks..

I think by "biological" Spirit's away was asking if the guy was getting any sex in real life.

there are also 12 step programs for this addiction: Sexaholics Anonymous, ect.

~Spirit's Away~ Wrote

You may want to check biological rather than psychological reasons.

 

I don't see any reason it could be biological.. I view it only psycohological.. I just honestly can't see how viewing a porn site has anything to do with biological reasons. Could you offer any feedback while you think this?? Thanks..

 

I think by "biological" Spirit's away was asking if the guy was getting any sex in real life.

'Biological' implies a problem of genetic reasoning.

I wouldn't agree with that. Getting your hand cut off is certainly a biological problem, not a genetic one.

If this guy isn't getting any loving in real life.... well, maybe that's what he needs to get over the porn thing....

If this guy isn't getting any loving in real life.... well, maybe that's what he needs to get over the porn thing....

Well Annie ... maybe you should give the 'loving' to him. Or maybe he should climb the 'love tree' and get 'the loving' from there.

Pardon my sarcasm, but your advice is similar to saying to a poor guy, 'Go become a millionaire and all your problems will be solved'. If it was so easy, masturbation will cease to be a word in the dictionary.

Ah - that's very sweet of you to offer me to him, but nemo doesn't even live on my continent.

Just wondering - Nemo, do you have a gf or a wife? (I figure, let's start at the obvious place first.....see if getting an outlet for your needs met will take care of your internet porn addiction)

One thing you could do is get a "porn filter" for your computer. Companies like AOL offer them so the parents can keep their kids from going to porn sites. Just a possibility.

I'm a very consciously aware person whether it's on health or on ways of thinking. There is a phase where we get sexually aroused and a phase where we don't.

If you guys feel as though it's psychological, then you guys are blaming yourself for the addiction. It could be both psychological & biological, but here's an obvious question. Does any female ever have these problems? I never got into researching it because it was never an issue to me. You guys can do that and summarize it for me. The word "hormone" would be a good place to begin. I mean, people eat things in order to have stronger sex drive. How is that not biological? Try to be aware of your own body in terms of health. Another one, how can you explain your sex drive according to psychology when you're "done"?

If possible, try to be aware of when you feel you want to view porn so you can understand what your body desires. Also, see if you're eating something that arouses it.

It can, like annie mention, have something that triggers the desire, like loneliness or something in which gave you convinent, yet, an satisifying chance to view porn. The after effect does produce serotonin, a chemical that seem to have a positive effect on a somewhat depressing state. It usually explains where the addiction came from if the people is struggling in life.

I would go for biological aspect because it is the root of the cause rather than some suggestions that change your lifestyle. The psycholgical aspect does make sense, and it does help, if only you do what they suggested, But the truth is, nobody changes their lifestyle. I get massive resistance if i suggest a friend to do something that's foreign to them for one hour, nevermind lifestyle. Plus, people with addiction are always enjoying it, there is no real leverage to make a person change their lifestyle, in addiction to no leverage, there are always the next day to hope for.

You'll get to an age where your sex drive is not as strong. For now, go research to help yourself. I'm not a biologist.

try puting a porn blocker on your computer it might gie you the extra help you need to resist.

much luck

Does any female ever have these problems?

As a matter of fact, yes.

There aren't nearly as many but such creatures do exist. There were a couple female PA's who posted at the link removed website I gave a link to earlier in this thread. I found that site several years ago when I was dealing with my cheating ex...I was actually looking for something dealing more with explicit online chat. The message board there was interesting, so I hung around reading it for a few months until it got repetitive. Since they only talk about that one issue there, it does get repetitive...unlike here where it's like a bowl of mixed nuts....every handful of posts is a little different.

But the base of it is an addiction problem....just like alcoholism, drug abuse, compulsive eating, gambling, compulsive spending....unless the underlying addiction is addressed, the addict will just wind up switching substances if you take the substance of choice away.

You may want to check biological rather than psychological reasons. See from there if there are any way to inhibit the addiction.

Only way to inhibit the addiction in this case is to 'get some'. Though there are married males who still become addicted to porn I suspect that most of the porn addiction comes from lonely single males who can't get any. I mean as someone else said the urge for sex is natural so if you can't get any then porn + your hand(s) is all you have. Otherwise you'll go insane.

Reason you don't see many girls in this situaiton is b/c even the ugliest girl can get some since there'll always be some guys desperate enough to bang anything w/2 legs. Of course a lot of these porn addicts are probably guys though who aren't going to drop their standards and bang some girl they have absolutely no attraction for.

HAHA I love it WLFPack, well said.. so amazingly true... remember that people, textbook material there!

As for Spirit Away, I still disagree with you.. I still believe it is all pshycological. Let me explain.. yes sex drives can be uncontrollable at times with certain people but that does NOT mean you HAVE to resort to pornography. You are making a CHOICE to go to the computer, log on, look up some site, and do your thing. Pornography is a CHOICE not an INSTINCT. Your sex drive however, is an instinct but you choose (pshycological) what to do with it.

This topic is getting too professional for me. There are actually people proving me wrong. Scary forum.

I'm sure the problem is intertwined with psycholgist's research, biologist's research, and a bunch more -olgists' perspective involved. But all they know is how to do research. They simply don't have the influence to change people.

These are the things which directly helps the individual

- habit (lifestyle change)

- eating habit

Here's the hard part: Convincing someone to a point to get them moving, is extremely difficult. Someone you repect or a professional who are willing to spend time getting you out of the house, or simply to find something you like to do, would be able to help you with your addiction.

But of course, you're not gonna follow it just by reading this.

Btw, when he say he's a sex addict, i don't particular find him to be an addict. He just simply have nothing better to do & have a great surge of hormone. It's a bit different when you compare it to a heavy addict where they switch from a substance to another. Sex, unlike drugs, is not something you can withdraw upon.

You see where the logic is going? We have two people who couldn't influence, debate about a topic we sometimes hear/read about. Then all these illiogical reasons that seem to sound right come into place to prove the other incorrect.

What he needs is someone who can influence him and make him decide what's right for him.

We need a different way to handle things. There are too many unsolvable problems in this world to reference textbooks and view it absolute. We need something different.

These are the things which directly helps the individual

 

- habit (lifestyle change)

- eating habit

Are we still on topic or have I lost this?

How.. on Earth; can your eating habit change whether or not you are having problems with a porn fascination?

Like... Keep eating toad in the hole? I don't get it. Enlighten me.

put a block on the sites you can look at-most internet providers have a child-block.