Can't believe this happened!!!

[Juha]

Have known this girl for the last few months. We have gone out a few times, hung out always had alot of fun. She even said a day we spent together was the best day she has had in months and she really appreciated me. We got along great, always had fun, had alot of things in common. I of course had feelings for her...

I know she has had some issues, we all do. So today we are together and she was coming up to stay with me, I went and got her and we are driving back.

She gets a call and gets this confused look and is torn. I guess it was someone she was dating before and he calls and wants to talk with her. She just sat there and thought and he called back again and she said ok to meet to talk.

So she asks me to drop her off and says she is so sorry and that she really likes me but she really, really likes the other guy and she is going with her emotions and really does not know if it's the right decision but she has to do it. Dropped her off and said I hope things work out, I wanted nothing but the best for her, and I would not contact her anymore.

She looked at me, kept apologizing, and she had this sad look in her eyes when I left... Gave her one last hug, kiss and left.

I don't know much about this guy but he was recently arrested. I know she made the wrong decision. I really can't believe this just happened. I have the worst luck when it comes to women.

I am stunned. Just can't believe this. Have been hurt before in bad relationships and had lost faith in women. Did not even bother to date for 1.5 years. Had started dating again and it was ok, really had not met anyone I really felt a connection with and enjoyed time with like her...

Maybe I just need to realize I might be better off alone...

[vertigoxo]

I'm sorry. I am just like you; Had a really hard break up back then and didn't date for over a year. Then I met my recent ex, and although there wasn't a lot of chemistry, I did enjoy him and thought he was a great guy... Then he dumped me out of nowhere, and man, did that hurt!

It's normal to feel like you want to give up. But keep hanging on; You'll find her. I promise.

[supadoc]

I guess it was someone she was dating before and he calls and wants to talk with her. She just sat there and thought and he called back again and she said ok to meet to talk.

so is this guy really someone she was dating or were you just assuming?

[Anonymous122]

Wow, tough luck pal. I'd guess you're not missing out on anything if she was that flaky.

[Juha]

so is this guy really someone she was dating or were you just assuming?

Yes, not assuming. Was probably her ex-boyfriend from before but she just said dating...Know they fought, don't know alot of details. Just I was not good enough...

Guess good guys do finish last.

Glad this happened now before it went any further...

[capilot]

Nice guys are boring. Jerks (and criminals) are exciting. You never had a chance. Sorry this happened to you.

[woodc5]

Nice guys are boring. Jerks (and criminals) are exciting. You never had a chance. Sorry this happened to you.

This is a HUGE generalization. I think an explanation of what constitutes someone as a "nice guy" is necessary in order to make that statement.

Try not to beat yourself up over this. It wasn't anything you did, but her own issues that sent her back to the other guy. Jerks and criminals are unstable. Their relationship will more than likely end again and you'll come out on top either way.

[Yates33]

This girl is trash. No girl with self respect will ditch a guy she's been dating for a few months, at the moment she is with him, for some ex who probably treated her like dirt, and was arrested.

she'll end up getting beat by her dead-beat husband and cry about how she never "finds nice guys".

girls like these aren't worth it bro.

be glad you found this out early. you did the right thing in playing it cool. NEVER, EVER ... take her back though, let her enjoy her mistakes.

[1ncredible]

This is a HUGE generalization. I think an explanation of what constitutes someone as a "nice guy" is necessary in order to make that statement.

Try not to beat yourself up over this. It wasn't anything you did, but her own issues that sent her back to the other guy. Jerks and criminals are unstable. Their relationship will more than likely end again and you'll come out on top either way.

There's being 'nice', then there's being 'too nice'

Too nice is at the girls' beg and call, puppy chasing, agreeing with her all the time, not being the alpha male.

In a lot of womens' views, nice can come accross as 'weak'. However on the other hand, the bad boy can be determined as 'weak' - In a way that they cannot control their emotions and actions. They lose all self control in situations, turning logic into violence.

[Nutz_76]

Hmm... could it be the reason she went with the bad boy over you is because you dropped her off for a booty call? If you're that big of a pushover/niceguy then no wonder she was more attracted to the other guy.