JustMizz Posted July 3, 2018 Share Posted July 3, 2018 So, today is my birthday. I've cut off contact with my ex after letting him lead me on for a few weeks. I finally had enough and told him I was done with the games and stopped contacting him. I noticed yesterday that he deleted his profile from the dating app and assumed he has met someone else. It hurt but I decided I wasnt going to let it control me. Today he texts me "Happy Birthday!". I replied "Thanks" and that was it. He hasn't initiated contact in weeks and he didnt reply to my thanks. I'm trying to not think too much about it but he's the type who doesn't remember dates. He can't even remember one of his daughter's birthdays. We aren't friends on Facebook or anything. I refuse to get drawn back in but I can't help but to wonder why he felt the need to text me. Thoughts and insight appreciated. Is he just trying to stir me up? Link to comment
BigSisAdvice Posted July 3, 2018 Share Posted July 3, 2018 He may be trying to stir things up, he may not be, however, you are the only one who can control that. From what you've said, I wouldn't bother communicating with him. I think, as women, we often accept less than we're worth. Remember how much you're worth - a lot and the right person will show you that. Men are very matter of fact and if he did want you back then he would be telling you that upfront or sending you detailed messages of his love for you. If he doesn't put himself on the line for you then he isn't worth your time. He probably text you just because he was bored - and that's not meant to insult you, but men like him tend to only think that far ahead and that's why he didn't reply - he found something else to do. My best advice would be to forget him, remember your worth and all the good things about you, and not settle for anyone that doesn't appreciate it because there are many good men out there that will. --BigSis Link to comment
Edmund Exley Posted July 3, 2018 Share Posted July 3, 2018 I would look at it as nothing but being courteous and moving on. Link to comment
JustMizz Posted July 3, 2018 Author Share Posted July 3, 2018 Thanks ya'll, I definitely know I'm worth so much more. I refuse to put myself out there to try to push the conversation further for him. Thats why I only said thanks. I've poured my heart out to him previously in an attempt to get him back and all I got was false promises. I'm not going to do that to myself again. I'm moving on and I agree, if he had any actual interest in talking to me he would have responded again, but he didn't. He probably wanted to see if I would ignore him and I probably should have. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted July 3, 2018 Share Posted July 3, 2018 Happy Birthday! Now delete and block him from all messaging and all social media and all contact lists so you can stay strict no contact and move forward without unwanted reminders like this. Link to comment
JustMizz Posted July 3, 2018 Author Share Posted July 3, 2018 Happy Birthday! Now delete and block him from all messaging and all social media and all contact lists so you can stay strict no contact and move forward without unwanted reminders like this. Thank you! I did delete him from my contacts. I didn't block because I honestly never thought I'd hear from him again. I'm making progress! Lol Link to comment
boltnrun Posted July 3, 2018 Share Posted July 3, 2018 Also stop searching for him on the dating app. No good can come from that. Blocking his number is also an excellent idea. Hope you have a fun birthday! Link to comment
No1 Posted July 3, 2018 Share Posted July 3, 2018 Don't think, accept. Keep things simple. You read it and delete it and you move on. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted July 3, 2018 Share Posted July 3, 2018 Thanks ya'll, I definitely know I'm worth so much more. I refuse to put myself out there to try to push the conversation further for him. Thats why I only said thanks. I've poured my heart out to him previously in an attempt to get him back and all I got was false promises. I'm not going to do that to myself again. I'm moving on and I agree, if he had any actual interest in talking to me he would have responded again, but he didn't. He probably wanted to see if I would ignore him and I probably should have. No conversation. He just wrote Happy Birthday and didn't invite or encourage anything further than maybe a polite thanks from you. Link to comment
JustMizz Posted July 3, 2018 Author Share Posted July 3, 2018 Also stop searching for him on the dating app. No good can come from that. Blocking his number is also an excellent idea. Hope you have a fun birthday! Thanks! I've deleted the app. Don't think, accept. Keep things simple. You read it and delete it and you move on. I am moving onward. Thanks. No conversation. He just wrote Happy Birthday and didn't invite or encourage anything further than maybe a polite thanks from you. I simply said "Thanks" and left it at that. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted July 3, 2018 Share Posted July 3, 2018 Happy Birthday! Time to block and delete. Link to comment
JustMizz Posted July 3, 2018 Author Share Posted July 3, 2018 Happy Birthday! Time to block and delete. Thank you :) Link to comment
Jibralta Posted July 4, 2018 Share Posted July 4, 2018 Great work on blocking and deleting. Now stop looking at his dating apps. Onward and upward. Link to comment
SGH Posted July 4, 2018 Share Posted July 4, 2018 A "happy birthday" text is the oldest bread crumb in the book. You stopped chasing him, and he missed the attention, so he sent it to you to see if you'd jump all over him again. Forget this guy. Link to comment
greendots Posted July 4, 2018 Share Posted July 4, 2018 I agree with what SGH mentioned. Happy birthday, JustMizz! Link to comment
JustMizz Posted July 4, 2018 Author Share Posted July 4, 2018 A "happy birthday" text is the oldest bread crumb in the book. You stopped chasing him, and he missed the attention, so he sent it to you to see if you'd jump all over him again. Forget this guy. I agree, I think he was hoping I'd start texting again. Not happening! I agree with what SGH mentioned. Happy birthday, JustMizz! Thank you! Link to comment
Batya33 Posted July 4, 2018 Share Posted July 4, 2018 I agree, I think he was hoping I'd start texting again. Not happening! Thank you! He may have hoped you’d start texting again but he is not interested in being in a relationship with you. If he were he wouldn’t just text happy birthday. Try to move on including not letting yourself read into a throwaway text some kind of interest in being with you in a relationship. It just will keep you from moving on. Link to comment
JustMizz Posted July 4, 2018 Author Share Posted July 4, 2018 He may have hoped you’d start texting again but he is not interested in being in a relationship with you. If he were he wouldn’t just text happy birthday. Try to move on including not letting yourself read into a throwaway text some kind of interest in being with you in a relationship. It just will keep you from moving on. I know he's not interested. It's still a bit difficult for me to grasp onto but I am working on accepting it. I think at this point it is more my ego wanting him to come back than my heart. He was never fully in the relationship and I see that now. And my feelings weren't as strong for him because of this. The majority of the pain I've felt was due to losing the potential that I thought we had (it will eventually get better mentality). I want and deserve someone who is completely into the relationship and me and I won't settle for someone who wasn't sure and walked away. Link to comment
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