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I am so confused..... and considering calling off my wedding. I completely understand the desire to look at porn (I look at it too) - but what I don't understand is why my fiancee ONLY looks at the super-young teen stuff. He is 34 years old and I am 29. Occasionally out of curiosity I look at his "history" of websites visited. I do not get upset when I see porn in there (which is almost daily). But ALL the sites he looks at and the pictures he opens are of very, very young girls. To me, some look like they are 14 or 15 (although they say they are 18 or 19). It worries me because does this mean that he doesn't find me attractive? I do not look younger than my age at all... and what happens when I am 40+??? And what about if we have kids and when our daughter is 13 and has girlfriends come over? I am worried about him being a pedophile or something. I need to know IS IT NORMAL for a man in his mid-30's to masturbate to pictures of girls who look like children? I am full-figured (large breasts, butt and hips - size 14), but the pictures he looks at are of girls with teeeny tiny breasts (or no breasts at all), and no hips. NOTHING like me! I can't take it... I will never look like those girls, so I might as well just dump him and let him find his dream girl (or child)..... I have never felt so old and hideous in my life....

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Thank you for your response... Yes, we do have sex... but not as much as I would like. (He works opposite hours than me, and has a physically demanding job). So, maybe once or twice on the weekends. I admit that I am not feeling fulfilled sexually by him and perhaps that is why I am over-sensitive that his hand and these girls on his screen get him 4 times more than I do! Thanks for your reply... I really want a man in his mid-30's to tell me if they prefer the teen stuff too...? Thanks,

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Sorry, but I think that's just not right. If he's looking at that teen stuff DAILY, there is something else going on there. If I were you, my last concern would be whether he was attracted to me or not. When you are together at the mall, is his eye drawn to high school girls and such?

 

I think you guys need to go to a counselor. Meet together at first, then meet separately with the same counselor. There may be things on his mind that he doesn't feel comfortable talking about with you there.

 

I also think you need to seriously consider your own future. If he is looking at this stuff on your computer or your joint computer, there is a possibility that he could eventually be tracked and prosecuted for this kind of thing. Do you want to be connected to an investigation and that sort of thing? Do you want that hassle in your life? Would that affect your own career?

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Thank you, I appreciate your reply. I agree that we should get counseling. And I understand what you are saying (about the computer and trouble, etc.), but I am not too concerned about that happening... The sites he is looking at are legit and they all swear that "all the girls on this site are above 18". I guess 18 just looks much younger today than it did when I was that age. I admit that I talked to him today about this..... because it has really been bothering me. (We do communicate with each other a lot). And in his defense he swears that he looks at all kinds of women (teens, 20's, 30's).. not just the teens. It just so happens that when I have snooped I have only found the teens (?).. He also made me feel a little better by reminding me of the pop-ups on those sites. Yes, he may open one teen site... but 10 other young girl sites and pics will pop up and those are also stored in the "history" section on his computer. I am just freaking out because I am insecure I guess.... I just wish that he would look at women closer to my age and with a little meat on their bones so maybe I can believe him when he tells me he loves me and is attracted to me. I can't believe it when the girls he masturbates to are completely the opposite of me. Oh well... we have discussed counseling, and I hope it helps! Thanks so much everyone!

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I think it's ok to fantasise. These girls are obviously the 'opposite' of what you are, and I think maybe it's a way for his brain to take a break from things.

Sometimes I look at some transsexual porn, and I am not gay.

 

I guess in a way this kind of porn relief stops guys from going out there and doing something silly like maybe cheating on you with a teenager.

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  • 5 years later...

You say that these websites do say that the girls are aged 18 or 19 though. Well maybe they are? Maybe your guy thinks he is doing nothing wrong looking at them then. I know that ALL guys I know love the young girls, but obviously not kids! There is a thin line I think, but I dont think your guy is in danger of being a paedophile. I think you are worrying too much. Dont you think that he would know and would try to hide it?

 

Well all look at porn and like the look of someone, it doesnt mean that we need to have our partner look like that because we love our partners for who they are and their personalities along with how they look, their general look.

 

You could talk to him, but I think he would be really upset if you accused him of being a paedophile.

 

I agree with tn above to some extent, things I would look at in porn, I would NEVER do in real life, its about fantasy and that is separate from real life.

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Don't worry about the legal issues - what you're describing is not true pedophile porn. And he's right that when you look at porn sites, especially free sites, there are lots of pop-up windows.

 

I watch porn that depicts women of various ages, though the "barely legal" type porn doesn't do much for me, so I would find it odd if someone only viewed porn with very young looking girls. But maybe he's telling the truth about that.

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Are you sure youre ready to get married to this guy? you seem very insecure about how he feels about you, about attractiveness...

If he is visiting sites saying they are above 18 but some include teens in school uniform doing sexy poses, then that's just normal isnt it I would have thought. Remember Britney Spears in her video, guys love that, ALL of them! I think you should just chill out about this....

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I split with my ex as I checked my msm out on his pc and the site -link removed came up! There were images of young girls and then a site called majorteenporn came up and the girls def looked 14-15 yrs old! No men involved thank god! When I confronted him he said he was trawling the net looking for girls stripping! I believe he has a problem but just won't confront it! Everything had the word teen in it and one site said - even younger girls! Another had a link to fathers and daughters! I love this guy but surely this is just sick!!!! ANY advice welcome!!!

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I split with my ex as I checked my msm out on his pc and the site -link removed came up! There were images of young girls and then a site called majorteenporn came up and the girls def looked 14-15 yrs old! No men involved thank god! When I confronted him he said he was trawling the net looking for girls stripping! I believe he has a problem but just won't confront it! Everything had the word teen in it and one site said - even younger girls! Another had a link to fathers and daughters! I love this guy but surely this is just sick!!!! ANY advice welcome!!!

 

 

I'd start a new thread.

 

This is a total zombie thread.

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  • 3 months later...

First of all, if every lady looked at a mans website history, there would be no marriages.

 

If he looked at sites and all the girls looked the same as you, wouldn't that be FREAKY, although a boost for your confidence.

 

As for the girls looking 13 to 14. If they were, the site would say they were, they would probably get more visits!

 

Some men look at these sites, not because of the age, but because, unlike ordinary porn, these ladies are more natural than the ' porn stars ' that are older than they are meant to be and probably have something false attached to some part of their body ( O.K. breasts ).

 

As for Fathers looking at their daughters best friend,a lot of fathers will find their daughters freinds attractive, but nothing more than that.

 

" A mans a man for a' that ".

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There's really nothing wrong with your fiance, OP. This is honestly a very natural and normal guy thing. You two are going to get married, so you obviously care enough about each other.

 

...To me it seems almost like you're looking for reasons not to get married. Might you be the one with cold feet and the issue?

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I don't look at porn for this and that reason but I really think this is a non-issue. A Mars/Venus thing. Look at the varying responses in this thread depending if the respondee is male or female.

 

Guys shouldn't really share their porn habits with women because their psychology is too different. What if he looked at all Asian porn or all this porn or all that porn? It's all just pornography, honestly who cares what genre it is so long as it's legal?

 

Furthermore, as someone mentioned, "older" women in porn (25+) tend to be experienced actresses in the business. I should think the VAST MAJORITY of pornography is focused on younger women who -look- young because it's their jobs to look young. It's more 'amateur' or 'natural', less 'fake'.

 

Really, it's a non-issue but a perfect example of why couples really shouldn't share porn with each other..

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Thank you for your response... Yes, we do have sex... but not as much as I would like. (He works opposite hours than me, and has a physically demanding job). So, maybe once or twice on the weekends. I admit that I am not feeling fulfilled sexually by him and perhaps that is why I am over-sensitive that his hand and these girls on his screen get him 4 times more than I do! Thanks for your reply... I really want a man in his mid-30's to tell me if they prefer the teen stuff too...? Thanks,

 

 

 

the teen stuff is of concern, for one to me it's a sign of immaturity (I don't think it means he would molest a teen, but I am certainly not an expert on the matter).

 

I find it interesting (and pathetic) that he has the energy to jack off to porn everyday but not to get it on with his lady and meet her needs and the needs of the relationship (and hey, it seems he actually has the sex drive since he is on porn sites). the thing about sex, is that it all starts in the mind. Proof is, he is more responsive to the teeny bopper porn pictures than to you his fiancee.

 

I would for SURE address and solve this issue before I move further into the relationship.. Life is already hard enough, I wouldn't tie the knot and settle down and put my hopes and energy into a relationship when I am not happy ands when I have serious conrecerns like that.

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I can assure you that if my SO/partner couldn't respect me enough not to rag on me for liking what I like (no control over that, btw), I wouldn't want to have sex with him/her either.

 

Nagging doesn't make people feel intimate. Just objectified, put out, and irritated.

 

 

How is she being disrespectful? Where did she say she was nagging?

 

this is what she writes:

 

 

"I am so confused..... and considering calling off my wedding."

 

"I have never felt so old and hideous in my life..."

 

 

I would not get married under these conditions. it will only get worse, not better.

 

 

and OP, when 2 people are engaged, it usually means that they like and love and enjoy and are attracted to each other. If he doesn't like the fact that you are a size 14 (which you wrote as one of your concerns) and / or you feel insecure (and OLD and HIDEOUS) about whether he is attracted to you, then why on earth would you get married with him? deal with those issues first.

 

if you are not sexually satisfied with him now as he is always too tired to have sex with you, but looks at porn daily, this is an issue. (I really don't understand how people can say that "it's just porn" and not an issue. It is directly affecting your relationship. This man is choosing daily visits to porn sites rather than sexual - and emotional by the sounds of it - intimacy with his fiancee).

 

It's not gonna get better, but worse, if you go ahead and marry him. deal with these issues with him and marry him when you are happy and at peace with this man. Not when you are this upset.

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  • 7 months later...

okay...every person has different things they like...and then there are the other things that they want....like i like 20-28ish girls,and i like les * * * * and stuff like that...but my wife,the girl that i love is nothing like that and if she was i wouldent of married her becuse truethfuly the girls that are an thoughs sites are * * * * s and yes they look hot but if your going to marrie someone then you like then much more then just there looks.my gf i think is the hotest sexyest person iv ever seen even knowing she dosent look like or dose anything that the girls in the porn i look up do....thats the differents...okay...there is no really reason y thats is but that is how it is

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i have read most of what ppl have sed and its all rubbish

to be honest he looks at that because ppl want what they can have and he know that im sure but its nice to think in you head that you have it for a bit ... that dont change anything about what he thinks of you im sure he loves you to bits but thoughts are fine he's a man we think bout sex all the time . if he acts on them that wrong call the popo then but every man does it if they say the dont the lying im 24 and i look at girls al the time then get told there 16 but there still pretty to me just wouldnt act on it.....

 

you cant help what u think u can help what you do

 

and he is with you coz he wants to be im sure .

 

much love xx sort it out sweetheart and dont worry

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