19 year-old cyber virgin

[floridachick]

Hey guys,

this is my first ever posting and it's also a little embarrassing. But I am 19 years old and have never had cyber sex and i was just wondering how to do it. Any suggestions?

[SparklingKaren]

Well I wouldn't call myself an expert, but I was seeing someone who lived an hour away this summer and who I hardly saw so I got pretty decent at it. It can be fun...kinda frustrating at times though, just to let you know.

 

I would just keep it light. I mean dont' take it too seroiusly and try not to get too addicted to it. He would always start things..ask what I was wearing and if he could take it off. I wouldn't always tell him yes..I'd tease a little sometimes. Ask a lot of questions, also. Here are some suggestions: "what would you take off first?" "what are you going to do once my clothes are off" "where is your hand right now" "what do you want me to do?" Follow the same kind of sequence as you would regular sex. Start out slow and get more explicit with what your doing to each other later. Talk about how you are feeling.."i want you so bad right now" or "i'm really wet" tell him what you want him to do..what you want to do to him.

 

I guess its just basically telling expressing to the other person what you wish was happening. I'd be more explicit, but I kind of don't want to get pornographic. If you want more specific advice, you can pm me, but honestly you're probably fine with just having fun with it.

[I_love_rain_hugs_and_you]

Why is it embarressing that you have never had cybersex? I have never had cybersex, and don't even know what it is...there are lots of more interesting things to do than have cybersex.

[SPark]

Hey, don`t knock it `til you`ve tried it...remember, the brain is the most powerful sex organ.

 

I`ll edit to add some (funny!) cybersex links-

 

Here you go, guys. Laugh your butts off!!

 

1) (PMRC warning: BAD language on this one!!)

 

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and (you know you want it!)-

 

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but in a nutshell, here`s what I have learned since I blundered into the cyber world and broke all the rules (you can read that thread ( link removed ) for more gory details and to get a front-row seat at my personal emotional drama):

 

1) Cybersex rocks. Seriously.

 

2) Like any other type of human connection, it is going to work best if your ways and means and your heart`s intentions go together from the start. What does that mean? Don`t look for your soulmate on a "I need it bad, now" forum. Having said that, I really like the tone of this forum, which is overtly sex-related, but not too aggressive: link removed You might just find a soulmate in an aggressively sex-oriented forum (hey, I did!)...but then if you want to build the relationship, you`ll have to back up and go through all of the intermediate steps you skipped in your rush to get it on.

 

3) I would strongly advise that the best way to get started would be to find a fairly free-wheeling but not overtly sex-related chatroom, hang out and read for awhile, and if you see someone who strikes a chord with you, send a pm and invite them to chat on Messenger...don`t mention the word "cyber" until the time is right...it will immediately change the tone of the interaction, believe me. Flirt a bit first and suss the other person out as well as you can. Are they coy? Forthcoming? Seem honest? Kind? Creepy? Trust your instincts. Trust your instincts. Trust your instincts.

 

4) I don`t know about anyone else, but I actually like it better without the technological trappings (webcams or what have you)...If you are verbal, aural (no, I didn`t misspell that), and have an imagination, you`ll do great without the gadgets.

 

5) Keep a sense of humor, but remember that the human relationships/ emotions part is dead serious.

 

6) Email me your best transcripts so I can perv out on them...LOL (but you can if you like...).

 

7) Guys, don`t send me a pm asking for cybersex. Believe me, you couldn`t handle it.

[3colornick]

Why is it embarressing that you have never had cybersex? I have never had cybersex, and don't even know what it is...there are lots of more interesting things to do than have cybersex.

 

first of all: real sex!

 

sorry i couldn't resist

 

then... i'm 100% agree are lots of more interesting things to do than have cybersex