Love both ex and boyfriend

[Alice Winter]

I don’t know what to do ! My mind full of my ex but I cannot let my boyfriend go because I scared him that he will upload my naked photo . What should I do? It’s not like I don’t love my boyfriend but he make me mad , when we fight I always miss my ex , thinking that my ex is so good , he was not dump as my Boyfriend, he know what I needed . I am so confused now . Please give me some advice! Thanks .

[Honeycomb8]

If your mind is full of your ex, it's not fair to the new guy to be in a relationship with him.

Break with with current bf and work passed your ex issues first.

[Alice Winter]

I want to but I cannot. If I break up with him he told me that he will post my naked photo on Facebook to destroy my life .

[ClumsyGuy]

I want to but I cannot. If I break up with him he told me that he will post my naked photo on Facebook to destroy my life .

 

Do you really plan on spending your life with such a person who is so cheap? Please don't. Take help of someone, perhaps record it as a proof when he threatens you about posting your naked photos. This is indeed a very delicate situation.

[mustlovedogs]

Well that's illegal.

[firelily]

So... you wanna stay forever with a douchbag like this, who clearly doesn't love you or respect you?

 

Fellow users, does a threat like that can be reported somewhere?

[Alice Winter]

Do you really plan on spending your life with such a person who is so cheap? Please don't. Take help of someone, perhaps record it as a proof when he threatens you about posting your naked photos. This is indeed a very delicate situation.

 

Thanks for advice , I will try my best!

[Alice Winter]

So... you wanna stay forever with a douchbag like this, who clearly doesn't love you or respect you?

 

Fellow users, does a threat like that can be reported somewhere?

I think we can report to police if he really post my photo on internet.

[ClumsyGuy]

I think we can report to police if he really post my photo on internet.

 

The problem is - whether or not he gets punished for posting your photos will be of little significance to you as compared to the damage done to your reputation.

[Honeycomb8]

Well she can't exactly stay with him out of fear. She needs to get out either way.

 

This isn't love.

[Alice Winter]

The problem is - whether or not he gets punished for posting your photos will be of little significance to you as compared to the damage done to your reputation.

Yes , that why I don’t know what to do . But thanks for understand my situation . He have a psycho too so he always do something as he liked when he angry

[Alice Winter]

Well she can't exactly stay with him out of fear. She needs to get out either way.

 

This isn't love.

Yes . Thanks for understand

[wilyone 11]

Facebook is testing a new program to fight revenge porn. Currently being tested in Australia. You have to upload the photo to facebook, they can then automatically detect when the image is posted by someone on Facebook and it will be deleted. Could be awhile until it's available where you are but something to look forward to.

[yatsue]

Yes , that why I don’t know what to do . But thanks for understand my situation . He have a psycho too so he always do something as he liked when he angry

 

If you have evidence then you could try going to the police ahead of time before he actually posts them. In the US, I believe they could at least talk to your bf, or threaten, that he will get in serious trouble if he posts them without your permission, or could even go into his phone/computer/tablet/etc and delete your photos. It is also a crime to blackmail you the way he is already doing, so perhaps you could already get him in trouble before he releases anything.

 

If you don't have proof, while you're still together, provoke him to incriminate himself. For example, text him: do you really mean to post my nude pictures if I break up with you? He responds yes or anything similar, then you have your written evidence. It needs to be in writing and traceable back to him (any of his exclusive devices).

 

Going to FB as well and telling them your story could be worthwhile. They might be able to do something.

[Alice Winter]

If you have evidence then you could try going to the police ahead of time before he actually posts them. In the US, I believe they could at least talk to your bf, or threaten, that he will get in serious trouble if he posts them without your permission, or could even go into his phone/computer/tablet/etc and delete your photos. It is also a crime to blackmail you the way he is already doing, so perhaps you could already get him in trouble before he releases anything.

 

If you don't have proof, while you're still together, provoke him to incriminate himself. For example, text him: do you really mean to post my nude pictures if I break up with you? He responds yes or anything similar, then you have your written evidence. It needs to be in writing and traceable back to him (any of his exclusive devices).

 

Going to FB as well and telling them your story could be worthwhile. They might be able to do something.

Thank you so much , but I am not from US but I really really thank for your advice!!!! I don’t know what to do now but ma and my boyfriend are not stay together , we just saw one another in game and chat vedio call and he have my naked photo but only my upper not all . He camera me when I am sleeping through vedio call so it’s a little hard . I think tomorrow I will write all my problems please gave me advice !!! I really thank you that give me such advice!!!! Again thanks !!