Mikaila Posted January 11, 2018 Share Posted January 11, 2018 I am back form my holidays. I went away three weeks. We had two great dates before I went away. During the holidays we texted a few times, the last on Saturday when one of his questions was "How will you spend your last days of holiday?". So he definitely remembers that I am back today. Do you think it is ok if I don't send anything more and wait for him to contact me? Thanks Link to comment
DanZee Posted January 11, 2018 Share Posted January 11, 2018 Tell him you're back and tell him how your trip was. Don't play games. Guys get caught up in doing stuff and where you've only had two dates with the guy, you're not on his speed dial yet. Link to comment
DaisyMayPorter Posted January 11, 2018 Share Posted January 11, 2018 That’s good advice DanZee. I’m going through a similar situation Mikaila. I forget that “guys do get caught up doing stuff.” Thanks DanZee! Link to comment
JaggerJim Posted January 11, 2018 Share Posted January 11, 2018 If he knows you are back today, don't contact him. That just seems too eager to me. Link to comment
reinventmyself Posted January 11, 2018 Share Posted January 11, 2018 He's probably waiting to hear from you when you returned. You could wait to see if he contacts you but unless you've done more than your share of contact, I see no reason why you couldn't reach out and let him know you are home Link to comment
Hollyj Posted January 11, 2018 Share Posted January 11, 2018 Contact him in a couple of days. Link to comment
thorough Posted January 11, 2018 Share Posted January 11, 2018 Contact him and see how he responds. The worst thing that could happen is he isn't interested and you can move on. Link to comment
Mikaila Posted January 11, 2018 Author Share Posted January 11, 2018 Thanks to all of you! Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted January 11, 2018 Share Posted January 11, 2018 I don't understand why all this game playing and making everything so complicated. You've been away for three weeks. You are now home. Why can't you simply send a message and say: "Hi!! I'm home!! Can't wait to see you! :) " ? Seriously, I don't get it. So much beating about the bush over nothing. You're home. Say hello. Link to comment
j.man Posted January 12, 2018 Share Posted January 12, 2018 I think it'd be weird if he were counting the days until you got home to message you to hang out after all but two dates. You were gone. Now you're back. Let him know. Link to comment
DaisyMayPorter Posted January 12, 2018 Share Posted January 12, 2018 I don't understand why all this game playing and making everything so complicated. You've been away for three weeks. You are now home. Why can't you simply send a message and say: "Hi!! I'm home!! Can't wait to see you! :) " ? Seriously, I don't get it. So much beating about the bush over nothing. You're home. Say hello.. Amen (and I’m not even religious!) Link to comment
Mikaila Posted January 12, 2018 Author Share Posted January 12, 2018 I sent him a text at around 9 pm, saying that I was back, happy that the next day would be Friday and asking what he had been up to. He replied at about midnight, saying that he had been setting up his house (he just bought one and he explained all the things he needed to do) and he commented that I had chosen a good time to come back. I replied after ten minutes (I was still awake anyway not waiting for his text and I thought that he had replied so late he would had time to chat) that he seemed to me that he was on the right foot and that I was looking forward to the weekend. And I asked if he would have been busy at the house. He did not reply to that. Now we are both at work so I understand that he has not replied yet. I am sorry for all these questions. The thing is he is the second guy I have been going to proper dates and I am not sure if he is behaviour and mine are in the norm until now or not. My ex from the very beginning he acted (and I believed him and fell for it) as he was so much into me that I don't know what the proper behaviour is. Thanks! Link to comment
j.man Posted January 12, 2018 Share Posted January 12, 2018 You gotta stop thinking so much. Link to comment
ballerinababe Posted January 12, 2018 Share Posted January 12, 2018 ^Some people think and analyze more than others as it is in their nature. I don't think that telling someone that they think too much will actually help anything. In this case, you will have your answer to his interest level very soon. If he doesn't reply this weekend then he's probably not that interested. If he replies that he is busy with his house this weekend then he could still be interested but genuinely busy. If he doesn't reply at all then he probably has moved on/lost interest. At this point you just need to sit tight. The ball is in his court. Link to comment
Mikaila Posted January 12, 2018 Author Share Posted January 12, 2018 You gotta stop thinking so much. Ah ah! Amen to that! I am trying! Link to comment
Mikaila Posted January 12, 2018 Author Share Posted January 12, 2018 ^Some people think and analyze more than others as it is in their nature. I don't think that telling someone that they think too much will actually help anything. In this case, you will have your answer to his interest level very soon. If he doesn't reply this weekend then he's probably not that interested. If he replies that he is busy with his house this weekend then he could still be interested but genuinely busy. If he doesn't reply at all then he probably has moved on/lost interest. At this point you just need to sit tight. The ball is in his court. Hi, thanks for your comment. I indeed think too much. He replied and asked me to see him tomorrow evening. Everything is because of my inexperience and also by the fact that my ex was Italian (like me) and this one is British so there is completely different feeling from before. Link to comment
katrina1980 Posted January 12, 2018 Share Posted January 12, 2018 Not sure what you're suggesting when you say your ex was Italian and this guy is British. How can your 'feelings' be different based on a person's ethnicity? Not getting that. Do you mean the "dynamic" is different because Italian men tend to be intense and aggressive, and Brits tend to be more reserved? So for that reason, you're having difficulty reading the British guy? Because your ex was more aggressive? If so, it will just take time learning and adjusting to a different nature from your ex. But just to know, I've dated Italian men who were very shy and reserved, and interacted with a British guy for awhile who was far from reserved, at least with respect to our interaction, and what he shared with me. Quite the opposite actually. Link to comment
katrina1980 Posted January 12, 2018 Share Posted January 12, 2018 ^I spent some time in England last summer too, and at other times, and oh lordy, some of the men were FAR from reserved. They do have a rather "proper" way about them though, and not sure if it was because I am American, but many were quite aggressive in their approach, etc. One guy asked me if I was up for a "cuddle" that night at his flat. lol I normally can't stand hearing the word 'cuddle' coming from anyone over the age of 5, but gotta admit, the way he said it, with his British accent and all, was quite endearing! Link to comment
Jillstrand23 Posted January 15, 2018 Share Posted January 15, 2018 ^I spent some time in England last summer too, and at other times, and oh lordy, some of the men were FAR from reserved. They do have a rather "proper" way about them though, and not sure if it was because I am American, but many were quite aggressive in their approach, etc. One guy asked me if I was up for a "cuddle" that night at his flat. lol I normally can't stand hearing the word 'cuddle' coming from anyone over the age of 5, but gotta admit, the way he said it, with his British accent and all, was quite endearing! HA hA!!! I second the cuddle comment x Link to comment
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