bouncyball12 Posted April 10, 2019 Share Posted April 10, 2019 I met this guy on dating site was talking to him for 2 weeks met for two dates with great connection so I thought and since then 8 weeks ago I have not seen him we are still talking every day on whatsup but no personal content just how was your day going. I have asked for date and he said he is too busy with work but promised to try and find a date to see me. I have asked him about all of this and he said he would let me know if he wants interested " I am not one for messing people around". I really liked him and I am not sure how to react to this?? Link to comment
purplepaisley Posted April 10, 2019 Share Posted April 10, 2019 He's not that into you. No meet, no text. If he's that busy, is this really a guy you want anyway? I mean, maybe later, if he has the time, but I would stop the texting. There's clearly something else going on, whether it's another woman or he's just not interested; maybe his life is just not in a place to date...who knows? Two months is too long, and there is no substance. It's time to take the hint and let go. Link to comment
Sportster2005 Posted April 10, 2019 Share Posted April 10, 2019 I met this guy on dating site was talking to him for 2 weeks met for two dates with great connection so I thought and since then 8 weeks ago I have not seen him we are still talking every day on whatsup but no personal content just how was your day going. I have asked for date and he said he is too busy with work but promised to try and find a date to see me. I have asked him about all of this and he said he would let me know if he wants interested " I am not one for messing people around". I really liked him and I am not sure how to react to this?? It's more important how people behave, than what they say. He says "I am not one for messing people around", at the same time he is messing around with you. He's behaving like a person who isn't interested, and is not making you a priority. I suspect your're wasting your time with this guy. Cut him loose. Link to comment
Cope Posted April 10, 2019 Share Posted April 10, 2019 Sometimes the connection we feel isn't mutual. I know you can't understand it, I'm going through the exact same thing, it's hard to wrap your head around it. I'd advise the same as purplepaisley, stop contacting and move on, IF something changes, he knows where to find you. Til then, don't wait for him, it's not worth it. I'm so sorry. Treat this as a break up, sometimes these things hurt more than the end of LTRs because we don't understand why it didn't move on when there was so much chemistry, but on the end you will realize that you probably weren't a match and he just saw it and called it earlier then you.it happens, I'm sure you've been on the other side of this too at some point in your life. Stay strong! Link to comment
RayofLighten Posted April 10, 2019 Share Posted April 10, 2019 He's not interested anymore and just making excuses. I wouldn't bother contacting him again. Link to comment
Annia Posted April 10, 2019 Share Posted April 10, 2019 Stop wasting your time. He's just not that into you. It doesn't matter what he says, if he doesn't meet you in person then he's not interested. Cut the chit chat with him. No in person interaction: no online interaction then. Link to comment
bouncyball12 Posted April 10, 2019 Author Share Posted April 10, 2019 Thank you guys I think that would be same advice I would give to my best friend but couldn't quite see it myself this just triggered something in me and my past that I couldn't see it until now. It's very hurtful but will stop all contact. Link to comment
melancholy123 Posted April 10, 2019 Share Posted April 10, 2019 I bet he's married or living with a woman. Cut your losses and move on. Link to comment
Sportster2005 Posted April 10, 2019 Share Posted April 10, 2019 I bet he's married or living with a woman. Cut your losses and move on. I bet you he's not, and men are allowed to lose interest just like women. This subtle misandry is not helpful. Link to comment
Andrina Posted April 10, 2019 Share Posted April 10, 2019 A person who is into you will make that crystal clear. Either block him with no explanation, or explain that you're looking for someone who can date regularly, and since this hasn't happened with him, that you're moving on and wish him well. Link to comment
Gary Snyder Posted April 10, 2019 Share Posted April 10, 2019 When is comes to love level/interest, people vote with their feet. If he's not dating you he's just not into you, sorry. Link to comment
Screamingfor Posted April 10, 2019 Share Posted April 10, 2019 I would personally let this one go. Cut your losses and move forward. It was only 2 dates and you’re better off not getting too invested Link to comment
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