cyankino
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You know what they say, if its too good to be true then its too good to be true. If you do decide to go meet this guy, i would seriously do a double date. Not only will you be around people you know, but be a lot safer then going at it alone. Your friends can tell you if he is legit or he is just trying to play you. At this point google everything he mentions to you. Like the clubs he has been too, or what he plans to do for you. In the end its better to be safe then to be sorry.
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your friend cannot let go. you cannot let go of your friend. in an ironic way you are in the same shoes as your friend. You would take her back even after all of this. Is that good or bad? Who knows i guess its how you take it. And how you work things out. you know if you really care about your friend and want to help her get rid of her boyfriend you obviously have to talk to her. You have to see if she really wants to have this bf out of her life for good and move on with her own life. would it hurt to bring in her brothers into a nice long conversation about her situation? its apparent that you care about her and that her brothers care about her. Why not get all the people that care about her and sit her down and talk to her about her situation and how you all feel about it. Kind of like an intervention thing. Well in any case you have a challenge in front of your eyes and what you do is your own choice. Good luck. Best, Mr Kino
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the meeting went very well. i can see that the mom is in the dark about a lot of things that my ex was up to. but that does not matter cause at least the ex is in re-hab. the mom asked me not to contact her daughter and of course i will respect her wishes. i think in the back of her head she blames me for what my ex was up to. even though i never used meth or any other type of drug, there were things that i could have done to help. but we cannot change the past just accept it and move on. as for me... i feel that i can breathe easier and knowing that she finally got some help makes me happy. even though i will not be there for her during her recovery i will hope for the best, and maybe in the future we can be good friends like we used to be. Thank you.
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About two years ago i stated here that i had a gf that used meth and how that caused our relationship of 4 years go down. After that post it was on and off for like a year and a half. well i decided in janurary of this year (2005) to finally go cold turkey with my ex and not see her anymore. and it was not easy on me but i had to do it because i could not make her stop using drugs. and i could not have someone like that in my life holding me back. since breaking up with her i have started two small businesses and things are going well. but i always have her in the back of my mind and always pray for her. Last night while driving i got curious and i finally talked to her mother. i called her mom's cell phone and talked to her a little bit last night. But there is a slight language barrier. but i did ask how her daughter was doing and that i called just to see how things in general were doing. from what i understood my ex is in re-hab and i go today to see her mom to just talk. i know the mom must be going through the same hell i left. and i hope that by talking to her she can feel better. i know that i might feel better. but the mom is going through this alone. well i got to go now, but i will post on what happened with the meeting. although i wish i had an interpreter.
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I hate to be straight with you, but there is not easy way out. If lives where easy to deal with then i doubt this website would even exist. If you want to go the "God way", you can say that God lead you to this website to help you. If you are not that into God or do not believe in God, then you can tell yourself that you had the strength in you to find this website and start seeking some help for yourself. whatever the case may be, you have started something that can either help you immensely or you can simply give up on us and or God. I do not suggest giving up though. We have all been through something in life and that is what defines us. Good luck.
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seeing as you are 17, i am assuming that you are in high school. most high schools have designated counselors for you to turn to. you should use this resource to help you cope. good luck.
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A Guy Friend Problem. Any Advice appreciated. :-)
cyankino replied to havealittlefaithinme6's topic in Friendship and Friends
you might feel like you lost a friend. I mean from the looks of it you two were hanging out quite a bit. and now that a new person is in his life, well now he has to split his time up between the two of you. obviously you still do not like this guy like he liked you, but you do miss the fact that you are not kicking it with him anymore. that is one of the things that sucks about having friends, when they find someone else, especially a potential partner, you kind of loose them. But if you two are good friends you will only loose him for a while. talk to more people and then you wont be stuck on just one friend. =) good luck. -
good luck.
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Karvala has a point. but you are damned if you do and you are damned if you dont. I prefer knowing i the latter. Cause at least i know i decided to go for it. Hurtwou.... If you acknowledge that you might end up hurting luke, just remember that we are all here to hear you out and give you advice. if you two become serious you should consider some professional counseling. you are hurting yourself right now because you are scared about something you have control over. its nice that you are thinking about the future and stuff, but are you willing to live with the regret of never going through with it? What do you think is worse??? To go for it or to leave it at that and always wonder ... Your choice. but whatever choice you make... believe it and live it. =)
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very good suggestions. i should not be exclusive with this one friend. there are tons of other people to meet and i am enclosing myself with this one person. Im a dork, lol. "don't let something that could end up being great walk away from you." I am a loner. i like being alone most of the day and i am fine with it. my friend is really outgoing and when we hang out its great, but its not a life style i would want to pursue. Kinda of like going to disneyland, you like it there cause you are only there every once in a while. But can you imagine living there? No thanks. I like life the way it is. =) i guess you could say i am thinking ahead and not let my heart make any choices. Thanks for the responses everyone. Pardon my english.
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i have been hanging out with a great girl for the past two months. We see each other at least once a week. for lunch, for homework and such and such. But we are not dating, simply friends. well i have started to be attracted to her and i wish i was not. Its not like there is anything wrong with her. She is very smart, outgoing, and loves the outdoors. Oh and she is is very pretty. this is where i would like advice. she seems to love being just friends. And to tell you the truth i have no problems with that. I enjoy her company a lot and i would hate to ruin a perfectly good friendship. simply because i cant control my feelings. should i confront her about these feelings and tell her not to be offended and to just let it pass? I am sure crushes fade with time and i am willing to wait it out. But if this crush is not going to go away any time soon then i need to take steps to make it go away. Thank you.
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I can't function w/out thinking about her
cyankino replied to sdguy118's topic in Healing After Break Up or Divorce
just keep remembering why you are not with that person anymore and keep yourself busy, everyone anywhere, will tell you that keeping busy and your mind of your ex is the best way to go. but its not easy. it never is. just take it one day at a time, write a journal, take up a hobbie, contact a friend you have not called in a long time. find something new to do. you now have a lot more free time. Good luck. -
my only suggestion to avoid such pain again is to be the first one to initiate the kiss. That way you can make sure he does not poke you. good luck.
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update please =) how are things since you talked?
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=) Thats a cute story. Just sit by her dude, talk to her and be friends. That way instead of reading a book you get a buddy to ride the bus with. Good luck