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  1. Good luck, kid!! How are you planning on proposing?
  2. Woo! It's exciting to see someone actually learn this lesson.
  3. Hey kid. I'm really happy to see the progress you've made. Honestly. I know there's no such thing as the "happily ever after" we all secretly hope for, but it looks like you're doing the best with what you have. In my book, that's an awesome achievement. My favorite part about your last post is the difference in your tone. What I mean is, in some of those posts you wrote toward the middle of all this, you sounded over-the-top cocky and downright arrogant. I hope you don't take offense to that, because a) I think it helped you get past some tough feelings and b) You sound like you've matured beyond that cockiness. You don't need it, and I hope you never have to go back to it again. Here's to your past, current, and future successes.
  4. I have one tattoo on my shoulder blade. I'd like to get more, but I don't have the money.
  5. I too would take it as a red flag that she actually looks through your phone. And so soon after your reconciliation? It sounds to me like you're taking it very lightly when it could very well be a symptom of something more significant. Early on in your reconciliation, i would assume that you'd want to nip something like this in the bud rather than let it slide. This should be like a second honeymoon period for you guys, but it sounds like she's starting to get possessive. My SO and I have (and have always had) an "open phone" policy, of sorts. He knows that he's welcome to use and look at my phone and I his,but we don't actually do it. I've done it twice, I believe, both times with him right there.
  6. Wow ... Never saw that one coming. Tread carefully here, kid.
  7. First of all, congratulations on the new relationship But I wanted to point this out to you: The fact that you noticed this on her Facebook, thought about the meaning behind it, and wrote about it and how she's dealing with the breakup shows that she's obviously not the only one still affected by the breakup. Don't get cocky, Kid.
  8. Hey Kid, long time no talk. I haven't read every recent post, but I wanted to ask if you'd talked to the new girl about what SHE wants to do? It's possible that she has a clear idea of what she'd like to see happen with you guys during this time.. And it's also possible that she's thought of something that you haven't. I wouldn't bring it up right away.. As C_Unknown said; just live it with her for a while. But if it were me, I'd ask what she wanted before she leaves for Florida.
  9. I agree with C_Unknown. Playing the field and hooking up is fun, but it's a distraction. You're starting to see how, once that distraction is gone, you've still got the same old problems to deal with. The real work you've got ahead of you is the work you need to do on yourself. Rather than looking for someone to love, take the time to make sure you are lovable. No more of this "player" attitude if you are honestly hoping to find a good girl to have a connection with.
  10. I think you still care a little too much about what your ex is up to. You judge her pretty harshly for her post-breakup activities, but remember that this was once a girl that you thought the world of. Sure, it's perfectly natural to be upset that she's acting the way she is, but holding it against her in such a personal way is not fair, in my opinion. If you are allowed to go out and be a mac daddy, treating girls like conquests (and yes - you have been recently), then I think she's allowed to do whatever the **** she wants to and not be judged at a glance by you. While you look at her behavior and think, "that's one sorry girl with no self-esteem", one could similarly look at TheKid's behavior and think, "that guy has some serious issues below the surface that he is trying to compensate for by hooking up with all these women". Just remember that you are not the only one who is trying to figure his life out. She may be going about it differently, but that does not mean it's necessarily wrong. Concentrate on your own life, and put her firmly in the past if that's truly what you want.
  11. Sounds like you and the "new girl" are done.
  12. Sounds like this new girl is playing a sort of push-pull game with you. If you don't like it, then either call her on it or move on.
  13. That's a pretty unfair generalization.
  14. Why is this detail bothering you so much? Take it at face value: She blocked you because she didn't want to see anything about you or your life, and didn't want you to see hers either. Case closed.
  15. My advice would be to get in contact with her today, if only briefly, just to reassure her that everything is okay. You don't have to say it in those terms, but call her and say something sweet. Like, "Hey, how are you? Blah blah blah. I just wanted to let you know that I'm looking forward to seeing you again", or something to that effect. By now the emotions have cooled off, but you don't want them to freeze over.
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