Sorry for the following stupid question...
i'm 27 yrs old, in a relationship w/c i think is emotionally abusive but am not sure after 6yrs being w/my boyfriend. whenever we argue, he shouts at me--in private. when we are in public and i meet some of my old friends and officemates, he acts as if he is very annoyed and his tone of voice changes to the worse. he says he supports my work and hobbies but doesn't act like it. he bought me my first camera but didn't want to stay long in my first photo exhibit, he even wanted me to go home / out with him even when the exhibit opening event wasn't over. i chose a sport which he says takes my time away from him. he also said that anything and anyone that takes me away from him or from our time together he doesn't like. when we argue, i am always wrong and nothing i say is right-- there is no win-win situation for him.
thing is, it wasn't like this during our first 3-4years together. he is very supportive to me and my family, providing free legal support to my immediate family when they needed it. he was always there when i was depressed because of work, when there's a death in the family/close friends, etc.
i know he's a good man but i'm confused with his jekyll and hyde attitude. i used to think i would marry him but then the picture started to get blurry.
i have cheated on my bf twice. both affairs were quite long, i.e. the first one lasted 2yrs, the second was a about 10months.
i don't know if i want to work things out, get the two of us into counselling (which i know he will oppose), or just cut clean.
i am in a bind though: he's currently providing free legal support to my immediate relative who got into a brush with the law.
anyone with a similar experience or anyone who wants to give constructive comments, please tell me what you did and what actions you took.
thanks!
