Leveller

Everyone, I thought I would share my story. It may bring insight and it might provoke questions. Any thoughts people have on my situation would be much appreciated. I will try and keep it short. I am a 36 year old man, my ex a 44 year old woman. I lost my job in Sept and have been out of work since but as a Dr. I hope to be in a well paid job sooner than later. Anyway this caused problems for us naturally. Anyway we split in February after a good year together and she started seeing someone else straight away. I stayed in the picture, and spent time/slept together irregularly, until two weeks ago when I told her I had to get out of the picture and would go NC. In the last few months I have done a lot of soul searching and am generally a better person-enough for her to say 'If you were like you are now we would never have split'. So LC helped me for her to see the changes I had made for myself. Nevertheless things have been difficult (as the third party now) and I get the whole mixed messages and BS cr*p from her. This was the main reason I removed myself from the picture-she was also getting a big ego boost from the chasing. She wanted to stay as we were. She says she really likes this guy but they have argued repeatedly and have gone NC for upto a week and on one occasion not seen each other for a fortnight. I know there is unfinished business between us and we will almost certainly get together down the tracks at some point and that there is doubt in her mind-she has CP, doesn't know what she wants and is confused (her words). To illustrate she told her best friend she was coming with me to Rome in December about three weeks ago after spending a good portion of the week with me and then went back to her new man-everyone (except her it seems) thought we were getting back together. In the last few months of the relationship and until recently she COULDN'T see us working-past tense-after LC I get the 'If you were like you are now we would never have split'. I am looking at things more long term now, any immediate reconcillation would probably be short lived. So my question is this. What is happening and am I taking the right approach? It's beyond my experience but for my sins I love this woman...Many thanks in advance.