I think that the best thing for you to do is to please yourself. with 6 kids in the house and a husband, you could very easily forget yourself. forgetting yourself is probably the worst thing you can do because in the end, you will just build resentment and frustration, however, if you are pleasing yourself, the journey may be difficult but you are getting something out of it. once you've mastered this, the next big task is to get your husband to join forces with you in setting the rules for the entire house. this means rules for your kids and his kids, what's fair and what's not. if you feel that his kids are being mean, don't just take it, bring it up in conversation with your husband and tell him that now that his first wife is dead, his kids will have to adjust to life with you and your kids. don't allow yourself to be the whipping girl of their lives. Their lives may have taken a toll, but your not the one to pay for their unhappiness. Everyone should be accountable for their own circumstances!
