Stay with NC everyone - I'm telling you it does get easier, the thoughts aren't as intense and the main thing is you feel at least somewhat in control. By contacting your ex before they contact you with anything of substance you are setting yourself up for getting either 1. no response, 2. the response you don't want and will make you upset, 3. a response but it will still make you upset and just leave you with more questions.
If they want to contact you they will. If you reach out you will want to kick yourself for it because in no way is it going to help you or your situation. They need to miss you, they need to contact you, they need to think that you're long gone because right now they think they can have you back anytime they want you so they are going to wait. I know my ex, and it's not in a mean way - it's just how the mind works, thinks that his window is still wide open...and it is but I don't need him to know that cause I need to have my strength and dignity back.
Use this time to find yourself. Become independent to where you don't need anyone else to make your life complete - you must be complete on your own. Because if you ever do reconcile or start a new relationship - if you're only half of a person it will end up failing. We all need to be our own people again. Strong, whole and independent.
So put down the phone, get off facebook/myspace/what have you, delete their email, stop driving by their house/work, and get back to yourself. They're not going anywhere so take care of yourself and leave the dumper alone. That's what they wanted - that's what they will get. Show them that respect and more importantly RESPECT YOURSELF!
Day 31 NC!