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peterson5880

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  1. I just have to say I love some of these stories...love does make it sometimes. No one knows the statistics so there is no point in saying stuff like this happens all the time or it happens rarely...I just think it's nice to see these stories, not only for hope but more importantly to see how beautiful love can be...esp. the lost love letter story...*sigh.
  2. Stay with NC everyone - I'm telling you it does get easier, the thoughts aren't as intense and the main thing is you feel at least somewhat in control. By contacting your ex before they contact you with anything of substance you are setting yourself up for getting either 1. no response, 2. the response you don't want and will make you upset, 3. a response but it will still make you upset and just leave you with more questions. If they want to contact you they will. If you reach out you will want to kick yourself for it because in no way is it going to help you or your situation. They need to miss you, they need to contact you, they need to think that you're long gone because right now they think they can have you back anytime they want you so they are going to wait. I know my ex, and it's not in a mean way - it's just how the mind works, thinks that his window is still wide open...and it is but I don't need him to know that cause I need to have my strength and dignity back. Use this time to find yourself. Become independent to where you don't need anyone else to make your life complete - you must be complete on your own. Because if you ever do reconcile or start a new relationship - if you're only half of a person it will end up failing. We all need to be our own people again. Strong, whole and independent. So put down the phone, get off facebook/myspace/what have you, delete their email, stop driving by their house/work, and get back to yourself. They're not going anywhere so take care of yourself and leave the dumper alone. That's what they wanted - that's what they will get. Show them that respect and more importantly RESPECT YOURSELF! Day 31 NC!
  3. 30 days of NC...I am doing so much better. The break up occurred on May 1st and I did send "the letter" but I didn't beg or plead. After the letter the only response I got was "I DON'T DESERVE YOU!!!" After that I text once to tell him he needs to change his address cause I was moving and was still getting his mail. He responded with "Are you leaving California?" I guess he thought I would leave the state for some reason - I found that odd. Ever since then I have been NC. The NC isn't hard just the thoughts that suck. I will be honest, I think about him all the time, I still hope for a reconcilliation and I do cry a little bit most days of the week but nothing like I was (ie sobbing on the kitchen floor and not eating) So, things are better and I will continue with my NC cause well, there is nothing else I can do. Somedays it feels harder somedays it feels so easy - I guess that's the way it is.
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