AmandaB

Oh wow. My fiance, sorry ex, did the same thing but for different reasons. He went away to law school 2,000 miles away. I couldnt afford to go visit him anymore and he met new people and decided that wanted to be selfish and couldnt give up that party life and be here with me. He is no longer in law school and those friends are no longer in the same town but ever since he met a certain group of friends he changed. Going out and hanging with your friends is now more important. What he doesnt know is that gets old. A day will come when those friends will no longer be there and the bar scene is no longer attractive but I will have moved on, hopefully. Its been three weeks since we broke up. I was the one who was always there for him, when he got bad grades and through many personal issues. These friends will not be. He has alot of growing up to do. My dad died when I was 18 and I wish that I had someone around when he died. Im not trying to justify anything but the loss of a parent is very difficult and many people handle it differently. Some resort to anger, some to drinking and partying, some just withdraw. Its hard to say. I have not had contact with him since that fatefull day and I know im not supposed to think this but I hope that the old saying "you dont know what you have until its gone" takes affect, for him. I cherish the people who love me because you never know when they might be gone. He needs to learn that the hard way I guess. Anyways, take care.

having a terrible day. Fiance of 6 years broke up with me almost 3 weeks ago and I havent heard from him. I have done the NC all the way up until now but have been tempted to contact him. I have not done so though, just have been tempted. He told me that he no longer loved me the way he used to with is like a knife to the chest. He was my best friend. Been crying thoughout the day at work which is no pleasent. I feel weak. We had a huge fight a week before he broke up with me that I blame myself for. I even made him cry but pictures surfaced of him with an other girl on his lap. It made me upset. I know that he had been pulling away for months now, it was not the fight that did it but I still blame myself. It is normal for couples to fight isnt it?! I dont know anybody who doesnt. This was thought about and planned long before the fight. I am just having a very bad day. :sad:

Im in the same position. What did you end up doing? Did you send the card or not? I have until June 27th to figure it out. He dumped me after 6 years of relationship and 8 years friendship just almost 3 weeks ago. We have not spoken since. I am sticking to NC but his b-day is coming up and i dont know what to do.

I have got to bump this one up. There are some great stories in here. Sometimes we just have to let fate and faith take the wheel and see what happens. I do believe that if two people are meant to be together that they will find their way to one another. Im on a little over two weeks of NC after my fiance broke up with me. He is 3 years younger and has alot of growing up to do but he used that line that he just doesnt feel that way about me anymore. We had been together for 6 years and friends for 8 so thats b.s. to me. Anyways, if he is there in the future great but if i find someone else who can do it better or can fullfill my needs than that is where i will go. Thanks for all the POSITIVE posts. There is no need for negativity. Anything can happen, never say never, and things happen for a reason although we might not know why at first.