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Hi Everyone, It's been six months since I had a big conflict in my past relationship. I turned to entalone for advice and it really helped. But now I'm back because I started to miss my ex-boyfriend again. For those of you who don't remember my ex and I were on a brake becasue we lived six hours away and we didn't see each other that often. But he would come almost every weekend and we would still see each other and spend the whole weekend with each other. He would tell me that he loved me and that he wanted to get back with me. I told him to give me time because I new he was the one for me I wanted to marry him, but I know I was still to young and needed us to have our fun being single so we wouldn't regret it after. A day after my birthday my sister heard a message that was left to her husband that said that a girl wanted to know if my ex was going to take her out(my brother-in-law and my ex use to live together at the time). I confonted him and he told me that it was a girl that he was dating. I told him that why was he giving me mix feelings while he was seeing another girl. He said that he didn't know and that he was getting strong feelings for her but that he still liked me. We were going on and on back and fourth until I finnaly decided to leave him alone. He got him self into some trouble and that other girl was by his side and he relized that she was the one for him. I've been sad ever since. I try to forget about him and use the no contact rule but two months later I'm sad again. And all of a sudden I give him a call tell him that I still love him and that I still don't understand what went wrong. By me doing that, that would make me more sad because he would tell me that he is fine the way he is now with her. That he loves her and that she is their for him and that our love could never be. I need help. How can I forget about him. I've tried dating but I just start finding defects on the guys that I date. Please someone help me.

Did you guys end your relationship as friends? If not start and that even though your intrested act like your not act like your over her and that you just want to keep a friendship with her. But don't call so often. If, after a while she still sounds like she dosen't want to talk to you let her go. Good Luck

Well I know it will be hard in the beginning but you'll get use to it later. Look at it this way, this is a test on how strong your friendship really is. If you don't have any other alternative convince your parents to inroll you in the same school she's going too. Good Luck

Hi Everyone, Three weeks ago I meet a real nice guy. When we went out on our first date we hit it off real good. He told me that he liked me and that he wanted to see me as much as posible because I seem like the relationship type. I was so happy with him I even met his friends. Then on our fourth date he told me that he wanted to sleep with me. At first I didn't want to cause it was to soon but some how he talked me in to it. So when we went out that night we had sex. After that he would give me the run around when I would ask him to go out with me. I confronted him about it and he says that he still feel the same way about me he still wants to have a relationship with me yet he dosen't call me just chat's with me online if I ever catch him. Did he just say that just to shut me up? What shoul I do?

Hi everyone, I wrote about my situation before and I got good advice, but the problem keeps on coming back. Well here it gose. My ex-boyfriend lives in San Jose, I live in L.A. we've been together for six years for the past three years he's been living in San Jose. And just this year he's been acting strange. And it came to find out that he was seeing another girl. I was so devistated. It took me a while and good advice to let go but when I would always start moving on he would come back to me. Two months ago we got back together but he would get his adittudes so we could start an argument. Last week we had a big argument and he broke up with me. I didn't want to talk to him after that but I couldn't help it and when he came to L.A for the holiday I had a talk with him and I told him that if he didn't want to be with me I understand, that I'll be his friend because it's to hard to keep him out of my life. That's when he came clean to me and he told me that the reason he was acting the way was because he started having that temptation to see that other girl again, and when he broke up with me he started seeing her again. But when he see's me he dosen't even think about her. Then he told me that he has the same amount of fun with the both of us. I got so upset but didn't show him that I was sad I was acting like if I didn't care but inside it was killing me. He told me to give him some time. I told him that I was tired of that. I told him that I can not give him anymore time. Oh and I didn't get to tell you this the last time I wrote. He is going to have to be on house arrest for 8 months and he wanted me to move in with him. I told him that I couldn't my parents are old fashion and that they want me to leave out the house married. I don't want to disapoint them for him. He said that he doesn't want to get married, so I said sorry I can't move in with you. So I think by him not being able to come to L.A. that girl has first priority. I don't want to lose him. He told me to just give him a few days to see what's going to happen with his case and he'll chose then. That's when your advice comes in what should I do????? I will die if he tells me that he rather be with that other girl. And if he choses me I will not stop thinking if he will breake up with me cause he misses that other girl. Please help me out I love him so much. And his family is also on my side. And I love them to death too.

Hi everyone, I wrote last time about my boyfriend. For those of you that don't know, my boyfriend before we where together was seeing another girl while he was trying to get back with me(we've been together 5 years before we broke up). I got tired of him going back and fourth and I stoped talking to him. Then he was the one who came to me and told me that he wanted to be with me. But this wasn't the first time that he had done this. He did it twice and then he would go back to that other girl and he would breake up with me. I promised myself that this would be the last time that I would take him back if he where to ever do that to me again. It's been a month and everything has been good until Sunday. He told me that he was going to a club (Mind you he lives up north and I live down south of California) I got bothered by it because I know that the other girl was going to be their. That is when he told me that the other girl is always going to be their and that he is not going to stop taking to her. I got mad and before he left to the club to told me that I had nothing to worry about. But the next day he started acting wired with me. He didn't want to take my calls and started getting his attitude when I finally got a chance to talk to him. When we got a chance to talk he started saying that he hates my jealousy, that makes him not want us to be together. I got mad and told him to tell me now if he was having those feelings again and he said that he didn't know. I told his what did he mean by that? He didn't want to say anything he just told me to drop it and stop being jealous and he just told me that he wanted to go to sleep. We didn't finnish nothing. What should I do should I let it go? Is he going to brake up with me? Please help.

Hey everyone, I wrote a while ago about the situation with my boyfriend and I. Well here is the story in case you did read my other post. My boyfriend lives in San Fransico and I live in Los Angeles. We broke up a year ago because of the long distance relationship. He was still trying to make things work so whenever he would come visit I would always be with him. He would always tell me how much me loves me and how much he wanted to get back with me. I wouldn't tell him anything cause I was getting kind of use to being single. But a few months ago I started getting that feeling that everything was going to work out that I could haddle the long distance relationship and that I do see myself with him for the rest of my life (I mean come on we've been together for six years two of then was when he moved to SF). When I let him know he was happy and he asked me to be with him and I said yes. The weekend that he came to L.A. he was acting kind of wired. I told him to tell me what was wrong with him. He said that he needed time away from me. I told him "why isn't this what you wanted?" He said yes but he has a problem their is a girl that he's been seeing for the past six months ('mind you he was seeing me too) I was tarrified and just told him all kind of things. For a point I would call him begging him to work things out with me and leave her alone. But she knew about me also so she was telling him the same thing. So we where both getting him confused. When ever I would leave him alone he would call me and tell me that he loved me and he would tell me that he wanted to work things out with me, then a week later he would brake up with me and tell me that he is still confused and need time to think. He did that twice. I finnally got fed up with all of his crap and I stoped calling him for like two weeks. He then started to call me. I would sound all cold on the phone cause he really did hurt me. I even got sick not wanting to do anything but sleep. A week later he came to LA and told me that he loves me and he made up his mind and he does want to make things work. I didn't know what to say becasuse like I said he did it to me twice. But I am so in love with him that I fell in to his arms. We've been together for a month now and he's been coming to L.A. ever since. Except this weekend he stayed overthere cause he has to work this weekend. He's been acting very good not like the other times when he broke up with me. But now my problem is that I still feel wired he never told me what happen between him and that other girl. I asked him if he still talks to her and he said "yeah she calles me every know and then just to see how I"m doing" he made it seem like he didn't have any feeling for her it is now just a friendship thing. So I just let it go. But a minute does not pass by with out me thinking that he is going to brake up with me. I start thinking what if she calls him telling him that she misses him and he gets those feeling back that might have never even left. Then I start feeling sad thinking I'm going to fall into that deep depression again. What should I do please help. Thanks....

Well if your the only one that uses that phone you have no choice but to apologize to your boss and tell him that you will never do that again to give you another chance. Tell him that your only human and that we all make mistakes. Good luck with that.

It depends on how you treated her. If it was your fault that you guys broke up then it's something that you have to deal with. But if it was her fault in time she will regret leaving you or you will come to mind one day and will want to come back into your life. Try to keep a frendship with her maybe that will make her regain the feeling she had for you in the past. But don't ever bring up the fact that you want to get back with her until she bring things up like that. Or else she will just think that your their just in case she changes her mind. Then she'll just play with you emotions. She'll use you as her security blanket. Good Luck.

Does he know that your bi? I think that you guys should just have a serious talk (but make sure you let him know that your serious). You never know maybe he dosen't want a girl he wants a partner. But the talk will really help you out and see what gose from there.

I think you should go. But take a friend that you could feel secure. That might bring closer to allot of things and maybe it will make you relive allot of the anger that you have inside for him. That sick man should realize how much of an affect it has caused you and your brother. He needs to feel guilty till the day he dies. Good luck with that. And sorry that ever had to happen to you and your bro.

Hey coldplaygurl, I think he is regretting what he did but is in fear of rejection because of the way your acting with him (like if you don't care about what he thinks). That even makes him want you more. When you show them that your not intrested they want you even more. Give it time. You might get over him and not want him back or you guys might work something out but now it will be your choice if you want to take him back or not. Good Luck!

Hi Everyone, I have a big problem. My boyfriend and I have been through allot for the past few year. We have been together for the past six years(on and off). He moved up north three years ago. I broke up with him because I was getting tried of the long distance relationship. He didn't give up though he kept on coming to town to see me. We would see each other even though we still dated other people. He would ask me every now and then if I still wanted to get back with him and I would tell him not right now I need time to think things trough. After a few months I've been getting my feelings back about him. I will dream about us getting married. I started calling him more and telling how much I miss him. One day he told me that he was dating a girl for the past 8 months but now he has feelings for her. He then said that he didn't know who he wanted to be with. I was very devistated I couldn't sleep or even eat, I was getting sick. The thing is that he would tell me that he wanted to be with me then a week later he would go back to her and he will brake up with me. I finally got fed up with the whole thing and I steped back. I stoped calling I didnt want nothing to do with him. That's when he came to town and told me that he did want to be with me and wanted to work things out. I wasn't so sure about it because this was the second time that he did this but since I am so in love with him, I let my heart decide and said yes. I didn't stop to think about what he did to me in the past. We are now a couple again but I have this gut feeling that he will brake up with me again and take me through all that emotional trip again. It's been two weeks and everything has been good so far but I know that this weekend he is going to bump into that other girl and he might brake up with me again. Or maybe he is serious this time and he really ment what he said. What shoul I do. He never even told me what happen with that other girl. Did he even tell her that we are now a couple or not? I am completley lost. I am also afaid to ask him about her because everything feels so good right now that I don't want to start arguing about this. Please help.

Hey Guys, Well, here is my situation. My boyfriend and I got back together after allot of drama that has been going on. He was with another girl and trying to get back with me at the same time. But I didn't know about her. When I found out about here that's when he didn't know who to chose. By this time he already got attached to that other girl. When he knew that I wasn't playing games and steped away that's when he made his mind and choose me. but the problem now is that I don't believe him cause he broke up with me twice telling me that he is still confused. I'm afaid he'll do it again. He's been acting good so far but sometimes he has his mood swings and that's when I think he's going to tell me that he dosen't want to be with me again and he want to give that other girl a chance. I tried to step away and he is always the one that come back to me. I dont know what to do I've been with this guy for 6 years but now I feel like I'm just now knowing this person. Please help.

Hey Guys, i have a question? I have a question. My friend does not want to be with me as a couple but yet he gets all jealous when I tell him about other guys. Does he love me or is he just playing games?