viettwinkle503
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I'm 19 years old. I don't know what I want out of life. Sometimes I go through these HIGH and LOW periods where things seem ok and then it plunges. Some drama happened a lil while back. I feel like a lot of people don't like me. It gets to the point where I don't want to see people at all. It finally occurred to me that it's not normal. No one knows I feel this way. I don't want it to affect the people around me. I feel tired. I can't focus in school. I'm not myself. Emotions of hate, jealousy, anger and pain take over and I find myself in tears. I don't know what the source is. Sorry to be so vague. Please lend me your advice.
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Broken Up - Sad, Anxious, Alone
viettwinkle503 replied to bruisednotbroken's topic in Breaking Up Advice
only time will really tell... if things do change or not. i'm not sure how long and the details of ur relationship with her but it does sound really special. although i know it's really hard to accept that she's moving on... you should give her a chance to really really think it through. she's torn between her past and her future. of course we've all made mistakes in our lives, some not worth mentioning and others we can still change. who knows what happened during the 2 month time frame...maybe her life has really changed. i suggest you re-think about the problems that separated you two in the first place... and then see if it could ever be a problem again. (if you two were to date again). are you willing to accept the similarities and differences? i guess that's all i have to say... wish you the best -
well if i'm on a date w/ a guy, i don't want to focus everything on physical contact. first you have to judge how much chemistry is going on between the two of you. if there's a lot you should definitely kiss her, but if you're unsure if you even like her... i think that means you should get to know her more. usually i prefer a kiss after the first few dates..shows a guy has patience and understanding. usually if a girl wants to be kissed she can show certain signs of interest and that's your cue to make the move. unless she's super shy it's hard to tell. that's all i have to say
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Hey again everyone, I miss visiting enotalone and checking back here reading advices. I've just been busy with college, and it slips out of my mind. I don't know why lately each time I'm alone (w/ out friends or bf) I get this feeling of dread. Naturally I would not usually have such worries and thoughts. Overall my life has been fine, nothing dramastic and seems quite normal and happy. I can't explain this feeling of insecurity/paranoia about things...just so randomly about the little things. Yesterday I even had a dream about my pet *bird leaving me and going off somewhere else. I wish I could talk to someone I know about it, but it might seem weird because I don't really have a reason to feel sad, yet I can't understand. It's like phasing in and out of a temporary depression. To the point where I can't concentrate on some hw. Maybe some of you have been through this experience, what can I do to resolve it? It gets worst each day.
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*_* Whats the deal? Age Limits?
viettwinkle503 replied to diepdzien's topic in Age Gap Relationships
hello, welcome welcome. let's see, this situation is all very familiar. you're gf seems to be an open person, maybe she has a couple younger friends. i'm sure she loves you very much, i appreciate your concern with this girl. my prediction is that you're gonna talk it out with this girl and everything will be ok. let me know if things get better ok?? you should both talk things thru just in case of misunderstandings, (minor details) left out can make a big difference. sooo ask her why and to explain things will be clearer that way. christine -
New faces, new people isn't it a vunerable feeling? yes college makes everyone more open more "friendly". Or should I say a little too friendly? The story is, I have a boyfriend (of 4 months) but he doesn't go to my school. I've met some really cool guys here in college, but I see them as only a friend. People say I'm way too nice, not flirty nice but like I tend to smile a lot. And I'm very talkative and you can always see me laughing. That may seem like a SIGN to some guys. But it's not a sign I'm trying to imply. The problem is, it's hard to tell strangers out of no where that I'm UNAVAILABLE. (makes it seem like I'm very stuck up). Until they ask, I'd tell them yes I have a boyfriend. One of my good friends that I have so much fun hanging out w/, started to pursue our friendship on the next level. I was taken back, I had no idea that he felt this way. Now he knows I have a BF. (long story, so not telling how) Since then he hasn't been the same, looks so sick. Today I barely got to talk to him, and he told me he's in a depression. Well, it's really hard to see anyone that way. I wonder if these situations can be eliminated??? christine
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wow...it sux that you have to deal with a break up AND a baby alone. this is really gonna change the rest of your life. i wish i had a good answer but hang in there and be strong, i hope your ex realizes what he's doing. sometimes in a relationship the best days are the beginning. sooo perfect and slowly changes before your eyes. i guess it's life but compromises and love will follow through....goood luckkk!
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I've always been a fairly good student in High School, my GPA in the top 10%, involved in sports, choir, newspaper etc. Entering college seems easy at first, but boy do things move quick. Now, I don't know about you guys...but changes are coming fast. I'm getting really stressed...and it makes me less motivated. I recently got some essays back and they were all check minus. Today, got my psychology test back and it's a BAD grade. All this hitting me at once, feels like a shock. I don't know how to turn the tides. One problem is *AIM comsumes my time like crazy. I really want to do better. My question is: what am I doing wrong? Please help in any way, or if you've been through the college transition, what did you do?
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yeah....i know it's hard to be in love with someone that has a bf/gf already. and it's not ur fault for feeling this way because feelings can't be controlled. and you can't always choose who u can love because it's your heart that tells you. at least you're not trying to break them up but you want to really know this girl. i gotta say it might be hard if her bf is a jealous one. i see you have no intention of harming anyone, but seems painful when all you can do is watch. just stick around (if you really love this gurl). try to be as supportive as you can without letting your heart get in the way of the friendship. usually getting to know someone isn't the quanity but the quality of the time. for example, find out wat she likes and try to do those things w/ her. (once in a while) hehe that's all i have to say later christine
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just broke up with boyfriend, can't stop crying
viettwinkle503 replied to wannabehappy's topic in Breaking Up Advice
yeah...i'm not sure how old you are so about raising kids is a very big issue. i'm assuming that you are in ur 20's, but yes i see a very distrubing part on his case. he says he would have a problem if you gained weight?? whoa this guy has some issues. a girl doesn't need a guy to make her feel self conscious... if that's the case he's not such a great guy. i'm not judging him completely because i don't know him but it seems like the raising kids conflict isn't the only issue. if he really loves you for who u are he would accept you, reguardless of any condition. don't cry anymore...sorry i wish i could say more positive things but you made the right choice. in the future, you'll learn to keep ur eye out for the sweeties. christine -
i guess what i'm trying to wonder if who are u loving that is too much. one might not deserve that love. but loving someone for who they are and what they do...i don't think there's a limit because it's very different and varies with each person living out there. i used to think it's possible to love someone to a certain limit...but it's really not. love i guess is endless and goes on forever so basically no it's never too much
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alright that was really random, i'd be a lil freaked if my bf emailed my sis. eheh but that's a diff story. ok so the guy is in love with you, i guess he's insecure about asking you because you might not tell him. from what he sees, maybe your sis will understand you because if he asks you then it would set up a weird position. you may think...does he not trust me?? i doubt that's the case. for now, just once in a while be aware of wat he might interperet things and reassure him that you're there. christine
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ok i dunno about taking advice from 17 year old...but i do know an idea about love. sometimes it goes one way...and if she wasn't even willing to wait for 6 months then she's not worth your marriage. i'm sorry that must have been very devestating. i can understand that a woman can get lonely but if the love is strong enough it can hold the marriage together. don't think too much about meeting another person for now...just live your life to the fullest and eventually love will find it's way. the true love of your life isn't always the first person you marry. good luck!!!
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please help,i cant stop crying
viettwinkle503 replied to buffalosoldier's topic in Trust and Relationships
yes, we are all prisoners of love. weird that i can relate to so many problems like this. you're afraid that he's cheating on you? or something that you regret? gurl if u love this guy you have to trust him. and i say if u can't trust him...gotta do wat you have to and leave him. basically if you can't have a trustful relationship it's best not to have one at all. please don't cry too much...just let it all out and feel better. treat ur friends and family with the love they deserve, don't ever let pain consume who you really are. -
~i need some advice...pretty bad. i'm in one of the most incredible (long distance) relationship yet things are taking a big turn. lately random arguments and conflicts haven't made us very happy. but usually things always work out. ~let's just say...i spent a lot of time and energy trying to plan out a fun date. *i was so excited and proud of my planning, since planning is a new fun thing for me* when he saw my scheduling...i expected him to be really happy. instead he wished he never saw my plans and got upset. we're agruing right now...which is the opposite of my "plans" and we're both really disappointed he expected a more detailed schedule...and funner i guess. since i spent a few days planning.... ~though i understand this is the last real week i can spend w/ him before he starts school...i love him so much what can we both do to fix this?