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My boyfriend and I have been a bit rocky since I've last posted which has been a long time. Though we are still together a lot has happened. With all that said things being so bad. I went out on a night on the town with my girls. We were at a club and I saw a cute guy and his some odd number of friends looking over at us and checking us out. Eventually him and another friend came to fianlly talk to us. Well one thing led to another and we were all hanging out. Not bad of course. Anyway we all got bored and decided we wanted to go to a bar, so we all met up at this wild bar. Lets say I had about 2 drinks, and I was still sober. But then we went back to there barricks just drink a little bit more and have a good time. It was all me, my friends and his friends. One thing led to another and I ended up kissing the guy ALOT. I feel so guilty, but at the time I was like who cares. HE has cheated on my numerous times and things suck so I just kept hooking up with them. I am not normally like this at all but i felt like hurting him for once. I have not told him, should I? I love him very much. I knew what I was doing, I wasnt drunk. Please someone help me out

hey everyone i have a question about the big "trust" thing. How can I trust someone(that someone being my b/f) when he goes on trips (without me) when I can't even trust him when he is with me? This is a real toughy on me and it drives me nuts. Please dont tell me the whole story about how I need to lose him because right now those arent my intentions. Note: He goes away twice a year for bodybuilding and is around a girl I have numerously asked him not to talk too. I can't be there with him and I am going CRAZY. He tells me that he isn't talking to her but he has told me that before then came back and told me he was. But this time he is assuring me that he isn't. So how can I believe and trust. please help!!! thanks!

Thanks you all for your advice. It was very insightful and encouraging. To answer a Q: Yes he is going away to a body building competition. Once more thing, How do you know when you are communicating? Thanks guys!!!

Hey everyone! First off, let me start off by saying that I am a VERY emotional person (wether that be a good thing or bad thing I am) I am aslo at times jealous. I have my reasons for being jealous though. My boyfriend kissed another girl four days into "our seeing one another." I decided to give him another chance because I wanted to see where things might go. Things have been great. Each day I find myself trusting and believing him more. Let me include that we have been together for a year and a half and we are engaged. We were separated for a month because he had to go to school. Then I went up with him a month later. Things were great, but now we are back. And I slowly see things going back to the way they used to be. . .not so good. Whenever we fight or argue I cry. . .and he calls me a baby. I try so hard to be strong. There was this one girl that he was talking to before he left, whom I despise because she is trashy and I know what she wants. When I asked him to just leave her a lone he wouldn't. Now that we are back he understands how I feel and he says that he doesn't like her, he never did and he still isnt talking to her. HOW CAN I BELIEVE HIM???? I asked who had been at his GYM one night and he mentioned her name, and i got so pissed off and cried. Just by the mention of her name. I don't like this girl and I forbid him talking to her and he tells me he wont. But how can I believe him when there is already a trust issue with other girls???? Sometimes I think he liked her. I CANT STAND JUST THE THOUGHT OF THEM SPEAKING!!! How can I get over this and trust him????? Someone please help!!!!! Dont tell me to dump him either please! P.S. they went to a body compt. in july and this july they are going again....AHHHHHHHHh

Hey everyone! I need a tid bit of advice. . . I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now and we've had our ups and of course our downs, as any relationship. Well some of those downs are really put to the test where sometimes we question our relationship. We have yet to break up. But there are some things that are coming up in our near future that may really test our relationship. So I am reaching out for early-on-advice. When I think about a "break-up" it kills me inside. I can not see myself without him. I cringe at the thought of it. It's to the point where if he does something wrong on his part Im the one coming to him begging for him. It's scary and it's really rough. I can't think of the thought of him being with another girl. I can't imagine us being broken up and me seeing him with another girl, knowing that it used to be me. That he will be doing the things he once did with me. It really scares me. I don't think we're going to be breaking up. But it is a possiblity. We are be going to facing something again that was really bad for us in the past. Our old town, where his best bud is. We moved away from there for school about a month ago. When we were in our home town, I was second to his friend and his weightlifting. I hated it. But here it has been heaven. thereforeeee, I am scared for what the future may cause rather then happy. Though, he reassures me time after time that it wont be the same. But I don't really believe him because he is really really obsessed with his bud. That is one reason he wants to go back is so he can "chill" with him again. I don't believe in coming second amonst a friend. I was, and I hated it. I told him about it and he said he felt bad and that it wont be the same. IM DYING. . . I believe I need to come first and be put on a pedal-stool. I don't mind him lifting and hanging with his buds because we both need our own space, but we need "couple time" as well. So if you could please answer me on both these topics it would be greatly appreaciated!!!!! Thanks so much.

Everyone, thank you. I am actually 5' tall. And I weigh 101 now. Maybe I'm just crazy. Thanks again

I have to start the beginning. . . My boyfriend went away to college before I did. I LOST SO MUCH WEIGHT AND I LOVED IT. I know I lost the wieght because of seperation anxiety. Everyone was telling me, "Wow, you're skinny girl." And I loved It. Well now I am back with my boyfriend and I am back in school. When he saw me for the first time in a month at the airport he was like wow! I wasn't big in the first. I was like 107 when we were together before he left and I went to him weighing 101. I lost 6 pounds within a month and I LOVED IT. I wasn't suffering from any eating disorders. I was eating, just less and I set limits. I think I was motivated to lose a little wieght. And it worked. I didn't have the love handles or the pooch! Now that I am back with my b/f. I am eating just like I used to before he was gone. Now I can't set my limits. I don't want to gain all that weight back. I am so much more comfortable with myself when I don't have the "pooch, or the love handles." What is wrong with me??? Someone please help!

Hey AGAIN! I need some more advice! I am 20 years old and currently living with my parents but I will be moving out in about a week. Heres my story. . . I never used to hang out with my friends as much as I am in my last weeks here. I am having a blast. I never used to like being around them so much because it was always drama non -stop. But now that I am leaving I feel as though I am having the time of my life. I just got back into the flow of things with my friends and im moving to go live with my boyfriend. We've been having so much fun. I've been meeting new people, and making some friends. I don't know how to leave them. . . I don't want to have to start from scratch when I get back what should i do? I love my boyfriend and I want to be there with him, but my friends are awesome. help

Hey everyone! I am back for some more advice. I was wondering if slow dancing or just dancing with another guy when you have a boyfriend is like cheating? I haven't done this, I just want to know. This may be silly, but I am curious! Thanks!

Hey xoxoxo21, I wouldn't worry about this at all. Our security everywhere is so tight now. Most especially at our airports. I was reading an article in the TIMES magazine a while back and they were saying that they have tens of thousands of air marshalls on tons of flights. You are not going to be the only person in the US flying on that day. Millions will be flying. Terrorists go for the longer flights with more fuel. Also, you don't usually see terroists doing anniversary attacks. The U.S is doing more to prevent this sort of thing from happening again, then we think. I personaly think you have nothing to worry about, especially on a 2 hour flight. No worries, you're safe!

Hey xoxoxo21, I wouldn't worry about this at all. Our security everywhere is so tight now. Most especially at our airports. I was reading an article in the TIMES magazine a while back and they were saying that they have tens of thousands of air marshalls on tons of flights. You are not going to be the only person in the US flying on that day. Millions will be flying. Terrorists go for the longer flights with more fuel. Also, you don't usually see terroists doing anniversary attacks. The U.S is doing more to prevent this sort of thing from happening again, then we think. I personlly think you have nothing to worry about, especially on a 2 hour flight. No worries, you're safe!

Thanks for the advice. No niether of us were drunk, or had been drinking. I am only 20 and he was 19. I know I shouldn't have lead him on maybe. But in all reality I wasn't flirting. I was just being nice. Smiling... I am never going to see this guy again, he isn't from Alabama.

Hey guys! I am new to this site. I am in search of some major advice. So this won't be a long post, but I'll start from scratch. I have a boyfriend of a year and a half right. Well I went to a party last night. There was this guy there that I didn't know who was my friends friend. They kept asking him things like, "Oh do you think she's hot?" Yada yada. So he was like way into me the whole night and I knew it so I kept like eyeing him and smiling at him. We would talk and stuff but there was no conversation. Just things here and there. Well on the way home we were all scrunched in the back of the car and I was sitting right next to him and he put his hand on my thigh and started rubbing it, I didn't stop him. Then I kind of put my hand on my thigh and he was like rubbing my hand so I grabbed it and we held hands. That is as far as it went! He was like right in my face like he wanted to kiss me, but I knew that so I wouldn't turn around I just kept avoiding it and talking to my friend. Then I got dropped off and I just got out. Did I do something really bad? Would you consider that cheating? OH WOW! I need some help. Thanks guys.