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  1. Hey girl first of all how old r you and him? wel im 24 and i stayed with this guy for 2yrs and 4months and yes i gave him time for him to figure out what he wanted. he avoided to get married and he said he was not ready yet. that he will do it when the moment is right. oh well we went on and off like that breaks and coming backs. he said the loved me until one day he asked for a break and he said he met someone else and that is why he was not sure of us. well just like that girl i had so many nice mature guys wantingn to go out with me but me for respect to him rejected them. well now he left me and i stayed with nothing. while i could have been married already with other person and not waste time with him. well all i can tell you is that ur wasting ur time with someone who does not appreaciate u cuz if now he says he is not sure just think after another year he will be worse. u will start seeing alot of rejection from him and if u stay with him more time it is going to be hard to get over him cuz i passed through it. im telling for u it is time to break this from the root and move on before is too late and when u break up and he is meant for u things will come easy and he will look for u but if not then move on girl there r so many nice guys out there and dont waste ur time with someone who does not appreaciate u. im telling u cuz believe me i jpassed through all of that. 2yrs 4months and he did not even had the guts to break up in person just by emails and phone. and now u see he is calling me like crazy now after he left me and hunged up the phone on me so many times whle i beg him not to leave me. now after 2months and a hald he broke up with me im happy and now imt alking to a army dude. he is at war now but he is coming to visit me in the middle of may but yes im happy now, even if it does not work out with this guy i have other guys from navy ect after me and i have to test the waters. all i can tell u is dont get obsess with that guy. let him go cuz later is going to be hard and all ur relationshiop is going to become is that u guys r not going to love each other, u guys r going to be used to each other only. that is what happened with me. even though my ex lives five minutes down the road during the last 6 months i was with him he did not see me much but fridays cuz he said he was busy etc. well i loved him so much but now i realized there r so many guys to choose from cuz even my ex was violent with me. well i know it hurts to think about the breaking up part but if he is not sure at the end either him or u are going to end up splitting. before he does it and kicks u on ur butt u do it cuz it feels bad when a guy dumps u trust me.
  2. i know what u mean cuz im passing through almost the same. I have been going out with him for 2years already but lately cuz he is busy or tired we r spending time together nomore and i feel we r not into a relationship. damn when it was 5 month on this relationship our love was brutal, it was great. damn boy if u both are getting cold most of the time it is on the guy. try to spend more time with her doing activities u both like. im telling ya it is on you if she really loves u everything is going to be cool. i wish my bf would like to spend time with me cuz now im the only one wanting to hang out. i wish u luck and tell me any updates.
  3. If u say you love your wife then why are u still thinking about the other woman? then u dont really love ur wife, i think u got used to ur wife but u really fell in love with this other woman but the worst is that this other woman does not want you back. Man u messed up. u cheated on ur wife and now u say u love her but u think about the other one. if the other one does not want u then u should move on and try to fix things with ur wife. damn if u love your wife stay with her and let this other woman go. the question here is who do u love? cuz u seem to want both women here and that is messed up.
  4. I understand what u mean cuz my bf lives five minutes away from me and still when we r on the phone we argue a lot and when we r together we dont argue, instead we get along and always end up having sex,so my bf always say the phone should be a thing of comunication but at the end it is a source or arguments. even though he lives five minutes away now he does not want to spend time with me. now i tell him we should live together, he does not want to. Hey if u really love that girl u should consider living with her but if u really love her dont wait too long to marry her cuz if she is worth it for u u should so the right thing and marry her. Dont use her man. Now ur in love and im telling u this if u love her marry her. cuz im passint through something too. my bf wanted to live with me or see me everyday he was the sweetest and now he has grown cold. so if u want to do things right marry her man.
  5. i think u should remain friends cuz if u say u like her at least with time she will see the real you and who knows probably like you. dont bother her that much now cuz all ur going to get is her not even wanting to be ur friend. and even though u like her too much dont bother her calling her that much cuz she is going to get scared, probably thinking ur insane or so.
  6. Hello there. I have been dating my bf for 2years already. he went cold with me and he has broken up with me before. i went crazy and did cracy things for him. i told him i love him but he pushed me away more and more. after all we were talking about getting married to the point that now he wants to date for 2 more years to get married cuz now he says it is not enough. He broke up with me again for jealousy and controlling cuz i cant have friends while he has million. now he says we r together but we need time apart. before i used to cry so much he hurt me alot, i used to drink a lot, do stupid stuff , call him like cracy to tell him i love him and even though he told me in my face he did n ot want to talk to me or see i was still calling. even though he said he loved me he did hurt me alot and this time he broke up with me i finally opened my eyes and realize i should not call him anymore that if he wanted me i was woman enough if it is meant to be he will and now i havent called him and now he calls me and even he told me we were not broken up that he needed time apart. im hurt inside and i want to be with him all the time but when he calls me i pretend i dont need him. I UNDERSTAND YOU because sometime i see myself down the same road ur cuz he avoid marriage now and he wants to wait 2 more years and later i dont know. now im trying to be strong andi gave him his time. GIRL believe me now it is hard for me but u need to get over with, it is not easy cuz even myself people tell me i should let him go but im still here waiting for him. but in ur case if i findout he has other girl when is married to u damn. let him go and dont call him probably then he will leave that girl and realized he lost u. girl if it is meant to be it will be. me in ur case i wont go back to him cuz he cheated on u girl, ur are married. Like people tell me now i should have pride and feel enough woman to let this man go cuz he does not appreciate me. im leaving my bf alone and if he comes back oh well. but u girl try to spend time with friends go out, family, do things in order not to think of him. i know it is hard cuz even though now im bf/gf with him it hurts. but now im leaving with friends and my heart is healing. dont suffer for him cuz he is not suffering for u. he must be having so much fun while ur getting drunk etc. believe me i passed through that. i have cried to him on the phone while he was on the other side of the phone making fun of me cuz i cried alot, even told my friend to take me to his house to see if his car was there etc. but i understood if this guy loves me he will come back. but if not he will not. there are alot of guys out there and im kind of understanding im wrong to stick with this guy and wait for him so now im having fun with friends and if i meet someone better oh well. girl get over him he was married to u and did this to u so it means he does not love u. dont cry for him nomore. i was where ur crying everyday while he had fun. now im chilling and going with the flow. girl go out and first love urself. try to do things and be ocupied cuz someday you will find someone who loves u for real. im telling you im stubborn now like u but i think this advices are finally getting through my thick head and now im starting to understand he was not the only guy on earth. if u want to talk on msn or so. drop me a line. im 24 and probably we could chat online or so.
  7. i need help im 24 and he is 23 i have been going out with him for 2years and now he has changed and grew cold with me he says he needs space but instead of telling me and be honest, he broke up with me cuz he said i was not going to understand. We were broken up for a week but during that time he just called me every morning to see how i was but that's it. He used to tell me he was not sure about us and that i needed to grow up. One time i asked him if im the one he would like to spend his life with, he answered he did not know. ONe of those mornings he called me to tell me he realized i was the one when one day some girls were checking him out and he did not care about them he told me he loves me but i need to fix my issues, and that once i prove him that, he will come back to me. ONe of those mornings he told me for the record we were not broken up nomore but that he needed time, but that we were still a couple. Nowdays he rather spend time with friends etc i feel i became the side dish for him but i dont know if he is playing games with me. he says we r going to be alright. but when i tell him during that time apart im going to spend with friends he does not want to hear that, he says i should stay home and that if i keep making irrational decitions like that he will not come back to me cuz that is the reason he broke up with me cuz he rejected me so bad and instead i told him i went to spend time with a friend cuz he did not want to be with me so he got jealous and broke up so now we r a couple again but i cant tell him i go with friends cuz for him it is wrong while during this time apart he does his stuff, college, work, friends and im supposed to stay in my house and once he hears im trying to go out with friends (during our time apart)he gets mad at me and says "that is why I broke up with you" so now we r together but with time apart. im going out with friends but im lying to him everytime he calls me i tell him i was home that i did not go anywhere, cuz if i tell him i also have right to have friends he will tell me he will break up with me forever cuz he does not want me with friends and im scared i lie to him cuz i dont want to lose him. but im mad cuz when it comes to him he goes out with whoever and i m supposed to take it. now he is pretty much testing me and if he sees i have changed he will come back to me. i feel like im begging him but i dont know. he says i have to wait. but for now he says during that time we have been broken up he has not had any stress at all cuz he did not have to think about me. officially we r together again as bf/gf but with time apart. guys help me figure this out cuz i dont know if im wasting my time here. he wants me to be someone he wants me to be but when he rejects me so bad and i tell him im going to go or do stuff with other people he gets mad and wont understand. he rather break up. so now im hanging out with friends but i have to tell him im home cuz im scare of losing him. i hate lying and i dont like that but i rather spend time with him like we used to but im bored and he rejects me so bad. now im waiting for him to come back to me again but then he calls me every now and then but we dont see each other or talk on the phone much. i love him somuch and i miss him andi want to spend as much time with him but he says he is busy and has things to do. what should I do? wait for him? show to him i have changed? or just dump him and let him go? He says he loves me and i tell him tha on the phone even i ask him why time apart if we love each other but i dont know. he says i need to fix my issues and grow up just cuz the main problems in here is that when he started being cold with me he changed so bad instead of spending time with me he spent time wiith friends and he forgot about me, during those times i got hurt and i told him white lies like "i went out with my friends" when it was not true cuz i wanted him to get jealous and see how worth it i was. so he got jealous but instead of him taking me back to his life and hanging out with me he started hating me and push me away cuz he says im a liar that why i make something up to show him im worth it then i told him the true every timei told him a white lie like that i told him right away so he wont think bad of me cuz all i did was to stay home and cry and if i lied saying i went out was in onder to make him realize how hurt i was and how much he was rejecting me. so now he will come back to me when he sees im patient and dont make something up. even though he knows i never went with noone. PLEASE HELP CUZ IM CONFUSED. I DONT KNOW HOW TO H ANDLE IT. PLEASE.
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