SunnyScott

i agree, I think that the best age is mid to late 20s. it's probably the best age to bear children, but 18-19 to me is waay to young.

i've had my fair share of childhood sexual molestation and rape. I've bottled up my emotions before. i think that for now, the healhiest thing for her to do is to join a sexual assault support group. yes, the experiences are debilitating, but talking it out, slowly helps. i did also have tendencies to commit suicide, several times, but now, i'm pregnant, and that's what i live for. my child is the most important thing that's keeping me from harming myself. it's true how it's hard to reveal that part of you to your spouse. i hope to eventually tell my fiance about it. may God bless all of the survivors. We will make it through!

i think so, but both parties should have the same intentions; otherwise, one person will end up having hopes, while the other person doesn't.

just be careful. i got pregnant the same way about 3 months ago. i missed my period for the first 2 months, which was quite common with my cycle, it was usually off, plus i started using the pill, which was not effective during that time i guess, and now i am into my first trimester. i have read about incidents about those who break up and find out that they are pregnant. i guess i'm lucky b/c me and my fiance just recently got engaged and found out about my pregnancy recently too. Luckily i have good christian man who loves me, and won't leave me. so be careful. i'm no expert about the pre-cum thing, but wear a condom to be safe.

I'm pregnant, by a fluke accident. i was on the pill for about 5 months. now, me and my fiance to be don't know what to do with my pregnancy. we will keep the child, but it's tough b/c i was not prepared for this to happen. so be careful, just b/c u're on the pill, it does not mean that you are 100% protected. wait at least 1 month b4 u take the test. i did. the results are more accurate after 1 month. now i'm 3 months into my pregnancy. wish me luck!

I'm in the same boat too. I'm close to 130 pounds, so I'm borderline diabetic. I'm pretty medium for my height, however, i feel as though my blood sugar levels are low too.

I don't mind if a guy is depressed. it's not a turn off. in fact, i relate more with guys who are depressed because atleast they are more understanding. it makes me feel at comfortable because i get to share my depression with them.

I'm naturally blond, but sometimes feel like changing my haircolor. Sometimes I like dying it cherry blond, since I have green eyes, it just looks better than just having it blond, which looks beautiful with blue eyes. I love it when my hair has a tint of red, because that's how it looked when I was young, and as ai grew up, i went completely blond. I love dying my hair pitch black sometimes too. I guess it just depends on the mood.

she might have, but you don't know. I've got a girlfriend who cheated on her b/f. They kissed, but didn't go further. I think it's wrong. If she's not spending weekends w/you or going at late at night, I'd be worried. My friend's still with her b/f. Now she's totally into him, and no other guys.

Hi Pheonix! How are you? I'm glad to see that you're feeling better. Sounds like your BF and you clash. It doesn't seem like he's willing to change himself for you, so maybe, you should reconsider leaving him. You're still young, and if you guys clash, this small incidet/sexual value/interests of yours don't meet, then you shouldn't waste your time on fixing someone/something that's irrepairable. You did also mention that he gets easily frustrated b/c you're small, and he's too big. Well, if he's getting angry over something like that, he sounds like a jerk. Don't try to bend over backwards to please him. He should be aware of your likes/dislikes as well. Just think about it...doens't he sound a bit selfish/inconsiderate?

I know exactly how you feel. I have a hard time trusting men as well. I hope that you are moving on with life through. You'll have your ups/downs, but somehow these incidence still kept you alive and 'normal'. You're stronger than what you think. From your experience, you have a ressilliant ability to use your intuition on which men are good or bad. I've gone through sexual abuse counseling, and learned a lot. I hope that you will do that too. I am truly sorry to hear that your father did that to you, but hope that you'll find the confidence to pick up yourself again. Seriously, counseling really helped me, I am considering group therapy too. After going to counseling, I found a new perspective on how/why things happen. I really wish you luck, and hope that you realize that there are great people out there, like the ones on enotalone who offer supportive advice. Thanks to the advice at enotalone, I've gained other prospectives like, taking the sexual abuse/rape/molestation incident as a new start to a new life.

Strike up a conversation with her about classes, teachers. She'll kind of get the clue. Then, ask her more about personal stuff like what she wants to major in. There are no simple rules. Just be yourself. Work up the courage to talk to her. Most girls don't like phonies. I remember this one shy guy who liked me in high school. We both were shy, so the conversation did not go anymore. Wish it did though. So yeah, talk to her about what her goals are. That's showing that you are personally interested in her. Just let the conversation flow from there.

I believe in the 'contact' rule in certain situations. For the most part in being that contacting will show you again, why that relationship didn't work out. It re-enforces the fact that the relationship is going no where, nor will it ever! Some people learn their first time, while for others it takes several times b/c they love the other person too much (so, they cannot truly comprehend why the other person doesn't love them equally). I can't speack for all situations, so in your case, it's seems necessary, but it's your call. After all, her message is telling you that, "Hey buddy, now I feel like talking to you, but when I don't need you, I guess you should get out of my life!" I know that she's not actually saying this, but your patterns sure do communicate it. And, it sounds a bit selfish don't you think? Plus, she's saying that you need to appear more confident????! I've been in that situation before, with an ex, who I did say the same thing to. Honestly, in my eyes, even if he did change and become confident, I will always see him for the person that he was when I dated him. In other words, you can try your best to impress her, but in the end, you're always going to be you, and she'll always be herself. She's basically expecting you to change, and NOT loving you for the person that you are. That's not right. So, a person who loves you should accept you for everything that you are.

I'm sorry but I've never had that situation before, not dramatic to the point where doctors had to patch me up and throw me behind closed doors. Your plot sounds very dramatic. I'm pretty sure that you know and watch/study abotu lots of films. Some movies that come to mind for me is: - A Beautiful Mind (the part where the psychiatrist pins him down in front of Harvard, and then shock him in the lab with some kind of drug, don't know the name, but if you want specifics, I guess read more from A Beautiful Mind website. By the way, it was based on a true story, don't know if John Nash is his real name though). -Girl Interrupted (lots of drug injection scenes in that one)

I love a guy who knows what he's doing and is confident. I once dated this dentist, wow, boy was he different in his office and uniform. I didn't know that he was a dentist when I met him. He was like a kid in person, but when he was in his office taking my x-rays, boy was I turned on! He was so confident and knew what he was doing. But, I found out that he was overly confident. So yeah, 'stuck-up' would be a trait that turns me 'off'! Other turnoffs: men with unecessary facial hair that doesn't match their face! Men who are pre-madonnas (those who are cocky and way outspoken), men who always check themselves out in the mirror, men who buy more expensive clothes than women (the ones who invest too much into looking good), and wanna be players (the ones that try to dress up like pimps in funny looking suits). Oh and last but not least, men who try to be someone that they're not. Turn Ons: Humbleness, talent (anything, just good with what they do), educated, cleancut, straight teeth (just kidding), I just like a guy with a sincere smile.