Amberfire

Dearest Pale, It is ALL about trust, honesty and communication.Your last relationship won't ruin a thing if you don't let it. Thank that relationship for what it's taught you and move on to this new one and things will be different. Hmmm in with the ex's eh, well all I can say is openly communicate to him in confidence that you are okay with it. But always be on guard. I mean he does have the right to be friends with ex's. Don't associate your insecurities with this guy because you'll just bring in your last relationship and have a neuro-association. Just be in the moment, you can just learn from the past, to never make the same mistakes and get into a pattern. Life is all about taking risks, because if we didn't we'd never get any where. Again don't let the past get in the way, it won't ruin it if YOU won't let it. You have the power to control how things go. Be the person you'd want to be with. Trust in yourself first before you gain trust in him. Be Well, Amberfire

Dearest Rojo, Awhh that is soooo sweet! You are on the right path, with trying new things. I always have, some people appreciate it, some could give a *bleep* Yeah I do detect that you are being too nice, but that is not a bad thing. From my experience I've always liked the bad boy type, but they were a little too out there for me so I calmed down a bit and wrote out exactly what I want in a guy and relationship. Cause when you know what it is you want, you will have it. And it'll appear like magic Be Well, Amberfire

Dearest Street, Oh dear there is MORE than someone for everyone out there! We are not limited to one in any way! It's horrible to think of limitations to happiness!! No way not for me! I'm disgusted by the way some marriages are brought together by alcohol There so many unimaginable things going on in the world today. People who shouldn't be together are together because she's scared she can'y find anyone else and afraid that people will know she had a failed marriage previously. so she'd rather be swallowed in a n abusive marriage. Oh god it's sad. Don't be one of those! So what I'm saying is never settle for less than what you truly deserve! To be happy! Be Well, Amberfire

Dearest Jitrenda, WHOAH WHOAH hold up here! Nothing can be that bad to end your life, is that what you'd want to be remembered by?! You ended your life for a guy!!?!? Think of the things you are grateful for now! You let the negativity swarm over you like the plague! You have so much to live for sweetie! Honey guys come and go, you deserve better! So the poem guy didn't like you back so what! It's not the end of the world! Your life is what you make of it! It all starts with positive thinking and action, you can turn things around, you just let it all come at once when you can't handle it. There's always a bright side to every thing dear. That's what it all starts with, your body,if you are run down and tired get some rest, excercise, get on some vitamins. If your body can't hold up physically how could you handle things emotionally?? I do hope you called the cops on that guy?! That's horrible! In essense this world is at peace we just make it crazy with issues which quite frankly aren't important at all. Okay a man who is dating a 13 year old is seriously demented, and the poem guy oh dear there are plenty of fish in the sea!! Take care of your self and things will turn around sweetie I promise. If you need anyone to talk to I'm always here, we're all here! But please do something stupid, it's not worth it and believe me I've been there myself. You are here for a reason, you have work to do! Be Well, Amberfire

Dearest Teal, What I've learned is that we have multiple soulmates: friends, family, lovers all can be soul mates. It's horrible to me to think that there can be only one soulmate for everyone out there, it's just hard to believe for me. A soulmate I believe is someone who were involved deeply in a past life and you meet up again in this life. But that is just the work I do, that lead me to that path of Truth. All I'm trying to say is that, don't be limited to one, you have more than one lover in your life that could be a soulmate. Be Well, Amberfire

Love is complicated, for what some call love some would call lust. Or only "think" they are in love. Love develops over time, i wouldn't expect it until you feel you know that person mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally and gain significant feelings. As much as I believe love should be given freely, not everyone is going to feel the same. Love is different when you 15, love is different when you're 25. Be Well, Amberfire

Hair color can be tricky speaking from experience working at a Beauty Supply store and the daughter of a hairdresser. I've been every color of the rainbow heh! Got low lights and some highlights in my hair mostly red and black

Dearest Reborn, What I suggest to recapture that Inner Child again is to go child-like places, regain that wonder and awe that children have. There's a store I went to called Nature's Art and it's wonderful If you are into that sorta thing I do not know. But I am very much into crystals and the Earth, and there is such a crystal called the Inner Child crystal that would help to heal. Hope this helps! Be well, Amberfire

Dearest S4il, Oh dear, get out of that, you do not deserve to even have her as a friend. You said you never even hung out as friends? I would take that as a clear message hon. How could you call her "friend" to begin with? A true Friend would always get back to you no matter what. Don't take this to heart and don't take it personally she might have issues of her own. Sounds rather shallow and shady. So find some one else who is worthy of being a (captital) Friend rather than a (lower case) friend. Why hang around if there isn't anything to build on? Be Well dear, Amberfire

Dearest Shadow, It sounds clear to me that you just want to be friends correct? Don't let anyone expect other wise. It's what YOU want to do, not what they expect you to do. If you can't see being romantic with him, DON'T. You may end up ruining a good friendship. You can trust that gut feeling for sure. Don't avoid him, just be yourself. He'll respect you more than just taking the easy way out and avoiding. Or if you feel so daring, take a chance on him! You might just be surprised! Be Well, Amberfire

Dearest Just smile, We always tend to get, what we focus in on. A mate from hell, focus on the mate you I know, I've been there. But we get caught up in emotions and we just go with it. Sometimes we don't even stop to think, we just feel. Make the best of it and learn from your mistakes to never get into a pattern again. Be Well, Amberfire

I myself do believe in astrology, tarot readings and speaking to the Other Side. I'll have to admit some catholics are closed minded while others are open minded. I am of an alternative Earth based religion by choice, born into catholicism and hated every bit of the way when I was young nothing jived with me what they were trying to preach, I "knew" at an early age. But didn't find out what the religion was name until I was a sophmore in High School and then full blown in College. Some people don't seem to realize that astrology if followed or not, has great influence on life. I believe it holds alot of answers as to why things happen when people can't figure out why. (9-11 for example) Example, Mars is very close to us now, Mars in astrology is an aggressive planet by nature, it could bring on much war or on the opposite side bring creativity, vitality and passion. But hey you guys are entitled to believe in what ever you want. If it's your path and you think it is, so be it. But I believe it's your choice to choose, not be born into a religion you aren't happy with. You have that choice. Be Well, Amberfire

Dearest Laura, It doesn't have to be hard if you don't make it hard. Problems are only temporary, you can change things. Believe that you have that power and you do! It doesn't have to be hard if you make it for yourself that way. Our thoughts and words are a form of action, and unfortunately there seems to be alot of issues his family isn't dealing with, so their way of dealing is that they push out their problems out into the world. Don't take on the problems of others, you have your own to deal with. Whoah whoah whoah, YOU shouldn't be doing all the work in this relationship! That's not how it should be. He seems to be overwhelmed but you cannot take on his issues. Oh god it sounds like a big 'ol mess! Stay positive dear and things will change! Be Well, Amberfiere

Oh Dearest CT, Hello fellow CT girl! Oh dear honey if you don't want this relationship GET OUT! I see you are young, it's tough at those times to understand exactly what's going on. Buy the time you are in your 20's dear, everything changes. Love is different when you are 15 than when you are 25. Communication is key dear Be Well, Amberfire

Dearest Confused, She doesn't know what she wants pure and simple. I feel as if she got scared of a good thing, paniced and then found someone else. Or yeah I agree with S4il that she's playing mind games probably to see exactly how much you do like her. But at any rate, NEXT! Onto bigger and better! Be Well, Amberfire