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  1. justmyview
    I'm a cynic at the best of times, and I'm no longer pining for my ex and I'm ready for the chance to explore something new. However I'm always miffed by posters who seemingly rain on the parade of threads like this with comments such as - "it doesn't always end happily, you know". What's the point of that? Why not start a thread entitled 'It doesn't always end in happiness, you know' (preferably not in the 'Getting Back Together' forum) and leave the incurable romantics to have the cockles of their hearts warmed with stories of reconciliations which went against the odds? If they then become cynical, they can always go and comment in those threads, lol!
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    And here's another, which is so moving. Basically the guy's on the 'breaking up' thread wringing his hands and describing his pain. His ex recognises his description of the relationship and also posts. The date of the posts is June 2002. Five years later he posts on how they "let each other go for a while" became reconciled and now have a beautiful baby daughther. Ahhhhhh.....
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    Here's one of my favourite getting back together stories:
  4. justmyview
    Well the case cited sounds like a kind of 'grass is greener' scenario... Seems like the only thing wrong with the first relationship was the distance, but the second one was abusive. She went back to the more pleasant pastures
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    I knew of a girl who was with her boyfriend nearly 4 years. He dumped her a disappeared for about 2 years. She was distraught. By the time he came she was planning her wedding to someone else. He begged and pleaded, but she refused to go back. Er....I just realised that this isn't a reconciliation story - but at least the dumpee had the opportunity for reconciliation if she wanted it!
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    Funnily enough, all my exs (apart from this last one) have come back to me. But by then, it was too late. I had moved on.
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    I always chuckle to myself when the inevitable "not all break-ups lead to reconciliations" and "I went back to an ex - what a waste of time" type comments pop up in a thread designed to be optimistic. As someone pointed out, there are a wealth of threads which demonstrate those points of view specifically. I think it's great to have one which shows they DO happen. Also, the old, unsubstantiated statistic gets trotted out about how 'rare' reconciliations are. Citing survey results would be really helpful, I think. I've no proof either way. What I would say, however, is that a reconciliation appears more likely to be effective (from the anecdotal evidence) IF a significant period of NC has been adhered to - a year or more. I would hazard a guess that the longer the period of NC, the more successful the reconciliation. I'm open to challenges on that view
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    Why am I posting day 118 in a 30 day No Contact Challenge thread, I hear you ask? Because after weeks of feeling really good and moving forward I've had a bad couple of days. The only good thing about this, is that I recognise that's hormonal - as my cramps suggest! - and I've posted on here to stop myself from contacting him after all this time. I need a distraction whilst I lay on the couch in pain
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