Are we married to the same man? My husband has the same attitude. We don't talk...about anything, (we don't even really fight) we haven't had sex in 3 years and this all seems to be fine with him. I am always the one who brings up our problems, and of course it is always my "issue". I work F/T we have a 3 1/2 year old daughter and I do everything for me, for her and for him, years of feeling unappreciated and used have left me very bitter and angry. My love for him disappeared a long time ago and now i want to live my own life and be free of him. i don't know how or when to tell him because i know he will be shocked and devestated (although I have told him numerous times before I wanted a divorce but never followed through) Although my daughter is young I am so worried about her and how this would affect her in the short and long term. I guess I am chicken and don't want to be the "bad one". my husband is not a bad person he just wasn't meant to be married, he's very selfish and doen't do anything unless it benefits him in some way. So I know how you feel and I am glad I am not the only one (no offense) who has this problem. I f I come up with a solution I will let you know, and vice versa. Good Luck and be strong!