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  1. brazilgirl21
    hahahahaha loved it. I'm on Day 8. The first 5 are the hardest. It only gets easier from here. I deleted him off facebook and bbm. Don't think he'll ever contact me again. If I want to be "friends", I'm the one who'll have to break NC. As per usual.
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    Heck I am back in the challenge. They say third time's the charm? Day 1!!
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    Josh, I'm with you. I'm on LC with the ex and for me, counting the days and doing NC just makes it worse for me. It wasn't a long, hurtful relationship anyways. He's my friend and in my case I think casual contact is more effective for me to heal and/or get back together in the future. But, in some situatons, like in my last break-up, NC was the only way. I guess we all know our relationship/exes and know how to deal with it. I feel free not to have to worry about counting the days.
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    Day 4. I'm feeling ok! Can't wait to be over Day 10 and then over Day 20 and then just keep going!
  5. brazilgirl21
    For everyone over Day 8 - KEEP STRONG. I made it to 11 last time and I WISH I had never broken NC... I'm back at Day 2 and it sucks. Specially because contact was broken because we saw eachother last weekend and it was good and weird and then we very casual contact this week and this weekend in which he was very cold towards me. I feel so bad.
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    Haha. Yeah. Seriously, along with facebook, blackberry messenger is the DEVIL. Everyone in my social circle has BBM now, I have over 120 contacts. My ex and I used to talk on that 24 hours a day. It's so simple... Every random little: "so what is the number of massage place x?", "did you enjoy the game", "have you eaten today?". Honestly, the small talk on there was ridiculous. When he was "sweet" I got my hopes all up, when he was "cold" it made me feel horrible... The bad news is that he will notice I deleted him and I don't want him to get upset but, I can always say I deleted it off my phone or got a new phone. It will definetly make NC 200000000000000000x easier for me.
  7. brazilgirl21
    I'm back to Day 1 but this time I am going to make it. Deleted him off BBM.
  8. brazilgirl21
    I'm back at day 1. Had to see him on Saturday at a friend's party. We ended up cuddling and holding hands and acting couply during the whole day... Now he's back at being his cold and distant self. Oh joy.
  9. brazilgirl21
    Day 11!! Yogi - Thanks so much for your advice! I am really not into online dating. I live in Brazil and people are still reluctant about it here. I am very social and live in a city as huge as New York so luckily I meet people very often. I'm just NOT ready to give up on the ex yet. BUT, I am still talking to the other guy and he is still being adorable. So I am trying to maintain contact... who knows right? My ex might never come back. I have to try to move on. I am going to the party because I really care about my friend who is leaving the country. And also, my break-up was very amicable, mellow... I don't think the encounter will be dramatic. We had an on/off relationship for 1 year but we never got TOO close for things to become dramatic. That's why I feel like there is still so much hope for us. It's a weird feeling. I'm very anxious about Saturday. My best friend might not be able to make it so I'll have to go alone. I dunno, maybe I will decide to not go or just drop by to say hi and leave.
  10. brazilgirl21
    Day 10. Relapsing as well. I was seeing this other guy but these days I completely lost interest. I think he noticed because he hasn't been contacting me as often. I just really don't want to date other people. Work is horrible. I just can't concentrate and the hours seem to pass SO slowly. I might see him on Saturday, which is making me very anxious. One of our friend's going away party. I have to admit that the possibility of seeing him on the weekend is giving me strenght, but, also making me terrified.
  11. brazilgirl21
    I miss you so much. I see you online on facebook and I really just want to say hello. I'm not ready to give up on you or on us. Everyone else and their mothers think I should be by now, but I'm not. 10 days and it's getting harder. The first 10 were easier. Now it seems like the longer times passes the less I have the courage to break NC. I do it because it's the only way. We need this time apart. I miss you SO much and I wish you missed me too. =[
  12. brazilgirl21
    The problem with blackberry is that you can either delete or delete and block the person. If you delete the person, they can add you again. But still, if you delete a person you also disappear from their buddy list. It's kind of a radical move because the other person will realize you deleted them and won't be able to contact you either. I mean, honestly, I shouldn't care what he thinks if I do want to delete him but as of now, I'm trying to be strong without needing to make him notice how much of an impact he has on me. I've been the dumper and the more "mellow" the dumpee appears to be, the better. Drastic moves like deleting, blocking, etc... is not good if you want reconciliation. I think NIC (non initiated contact) is what works best. Don't contact them but leave the doors open for them to contact you. Then always reply politely without extending yourself. Now of course if you have an emotionally manipulative ex who won't leave you alone it's a different story. Just my 2 cents.
  13. brazilgirl21
    blackberry messenger is the devil! Seriously, for me it's worse than facebook. Everytime he updates his name or picture or anything... it hurts!!! And to know he's just a bbm away. At the same time, I'm still not ready to delete him off bbm.
  14. brazilgirl21
    Day 8. 1 week of NC. It's getting harder for me. The first week was surprisingly easy! I just think he won't ever contact me again. And I asked for time apart, I can't really break NC. I hate this.
  15. brazilgirl21
    MM - I am on Day 7 of NC with a guy I also dated on/off for 1 year. Was always more than friends but never quite a commited relationship. I relate to you a lot. It sucks because we are grieving a relationship that never blossomed, therefore, it didn't end because it never started. I'm 23 and he is 31. No kids or divorces involved, but still hurts a lot. It specially hurts because I never got a chance to be in a real relationship with him. It was always the same push/pull, I don't want you seriously but I don't want to lose you bull cr*p! And it's very hard to maintain NC because it's like, nothing horrible happened so why can't we just be friends? But at the same time we know we can't just "be friends". It just sucks because I KNOW I deserve better but sometimes I just want to drop the NC act and go back to whatever we were. I miss him. BUT NC is the ONLY way. I know. It's been 1 year of this crazy back and forth drama and I deserve better! GOOD LUCK EVERYONE!
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