spencerbandit88

Hey everyone, My g/f and I just had sex for the first time yesterday, she was a virgin, and now today she's having cramps. I've done a search and all I could really come up with is cramps coming from the left or right side, but her's are in the center. Thanks spencerbandit88

Well I've taken her back, but she's on thin ice one more incident like this and it's done. I'm also going to talk with her, that i'm not comfortable with her being friends with him, in fear that this might happen again. I really don't want to loose her but then again most first time high school relationships don't last. But then there is are a few other things that she does that I don't like and I'll talk to her about. She likes to hug onto other friends that are guys and that just makes me want to "take them out to the parking lot" and to think she just plain doesn't like me being around other girls, when ever I'm talking to friends of mine that are girls she will hang all over me like a 6 year old on a jungle gym (she also does that in public but just won't allow me to do it to her) thanks to everyone who has replied. spencerbandit88

Hey, Well I've come here with another problem. My g/f (my first one) and I have been together for 17 months. She was recently part of a musical at school, and the final night, Saturday there was a cast party it was an over nighter. Today (Tuesday) my g/f and I were in the instrument room in the band room, I'm pulling out my saxophone and she tells me that we need to take a break. I just started to cry a little bit, then I asked her why she said, "I have a personal thing I'm trying to work out" well me being me I wanted to find out what was going on. I asked her, "What is it maybe I can help you get through it?" She replies, "It's a question I can't answer" I unhooked my saxophone and I kept trying to figure out an answer. When I finally got one I almost wish I hadn't, she said, "I kissed another guy" I just broke down and cried. I packed up my saxophone and just stormed out of the band room and school, and I just left. Later that day I went back and got my stuff out of our locker and left a note in there. The note was basically asking; what happened to our trust that we had, thought that 17 months there wouldn't be this problem. Then I also went into the band room and left a note in the saxophone case of a person that saw it all, (she's in my section, she's really nice and she just told me before I left the band room the first time that she knows what I'm going through, plus her note included an update on another band member that was in the hospital) Then I left and went home. So I took the whole day off from school, I went home and ripped up all of the photos of us together. I called her, after she had gotten home and we kind of worked things out, she didn't take my note as a break up note or anything (I had in the note, "after this action I see that there isn't the level to trust i'm looking for, with no trust there is nothing." But then I also found out that the kiss just wasn't a peck on the cheek, it was a full out kiss (i'm not sure if it was a french, but I think it was) She just told me that it was late and she was tired. But she had told me that it won't happen again, and her and the other guy are just going to be friends. But now that we are back to gether, I somewhat regret about ripping up our pictures, well at least I still have the negetives. So do you think I should just forget keeping a relationship with her (she is my first, and a lot of the time first relationships don't work out, and we have been together for 17 months) or should I just forgive her and trust that she won't do anything like this again? I'm also not the greatest at getting attention from girls, so that's why I didn't get my first g/f until I was 16, so I think that I wouldn't be able to get another for a while, and I'm kind of pickey on girls. Anyways, sorry for the long post. Please help me. I'm confused and looking for some help. thanks spencerbandit88

I've been doing some more searching around on them and found out that they are 96% effective when used properly. I wasn't actually going to cum in her, I was going to take care of business before so that I would be longer and there wouldn't be that much. But for now I think we might just stick to condoms. spencerbandit88

Has anyone ever used these? How effective are they? Thanks spencerbandit88

Thanks everyone who posted. Now I feel better. spencerbandit88

Hello, I havn't been on in a while. Well my gf and I are doing good after my last post about we might break up because of me moving and what not. Ok, well my g/f and I have had sex and we have fingered. Well when we do things like that sometimes she will have a small amount of white stuff come out of...there. We always use protection and so far it's all been ok, no leaks...*knocks on wood* (for luck that I won't start having problems) I'm just wondering if this is normal. Thanks spencerbandit88

Hey, I looked up a consumer report on condoms a while back, the number 1 acroding to them was Durex Lubricated Ultrathin. spencerbandit88

The only problem with the last part of that is my doctor is a total quack. A few Decembers ago I messed up my knee, after about 30 of getting it check the only thing he could say it, "You need to join a sport like football or wrestling" hmm...it's DECEMBER, 20 degress out side, yeah i'm going to go play football. Then the first time I played something like football after that visit I got stuck out on my friends front lawn, when the person we were waiting for showed up and in the car with him was his mom's friend (an ex nurse) and she told me exactly what happened in about 3 minutes. Is what happened is I dislocated my knee cap. So for sports I stick to the ones I enjoy, shooting, paintballing, archery, mountain biking. spencerbandit88

Yeah i've been tring to do that, not letting paranoia get in my way. As far as talking to her about not the drum/bugle corps thing yeah i've talked to her about me wanting her to stay, but I still think she's going to go. And actually it looks like I might not be moving to go to that school I wanted to go to, turns out student loans are no longer available and the parents have to take out a loan for their kid to go through school, and my dad is going to hold that fact against me to try and get me to go into the armed forces (which I really don't want to do, bad knees, back, neck, and wrist) But i'm going to talk with her more about not wanting her to go. thanks spencerbandit88

Well it's only been a feeling, I mean with her chating on me. She has done no lying that would really support it all. And as far as it only being a summer, I have problems with separation, most of the times. She went on tour last year for only a few weeks, I was a total basket case. Then to make things worse we left on family torture...I mean family vacation, a few days after she got back, she would of come with us be she had a parade to march in, turned down an almost free vacation for marching. Plus this summer I'm almost sure i'll be moving out of state, from Eastern Washington to Southeastern Wyoming. As far as first relationships, almost everyone I have talked to theirs has only lasted a week if that, mine 14 months. I really want this to go through. spencerbandit88

Hey, I havn't posted in a while, but here is my problem My g/f and I have been together for 14 months (14 month anniversary on saturday ) she's a junior and i'm a senior in high school . She is part of this drum/bugle corps and when it's season for it I almost always get the feeling that she's cheating on me, even though she has told me she would never cheat on me, and the fact that they go on a tour during the summer doesn't help me any. I feel like I'm being pushed off to the side for this whole thing. Well their new season is coming up, I really want to spend this summer together with her, and they are talking about a full summer tour...which means no summer with her. AND I'm looking at this school that would be about a 14 drive from home, so during school time it would be hard for me to see her. I'm thinking about breaking up over this whole thing. She is my first g/f and I love her more than anything, my car, paintballing, my bird, music, my job, anything...ANYTHING. Thanks for letting me get this out I just really needed some place I could express my feeling. Maybe get someone to help me get things straight. Thanks so much to anyone who can help spencerbandit88 I've got tears in my eyes, thats how much this is ripping me up.

Since my girlfriend has come along it's not hard for me to get hard around her, when I look at porn I can't seem to get anything going unless I then start thinking about my girlfriend, that's also about 10 months into my first relationship. I have tried to give it up, and tried to give up waxing my carrot. It's easier said then done, in the past year I have given waxing my carrot up for about a month and a half, and porn about 3 months. Well just set a goal, like if there is that new CD you want, tell yourself you have to go x days without porn. Then if you make it you get what you wanted, just remember to put away some money for when you do get it. good luck spencerbandit88

Hey, Thanks for your reply. Yes I have told her that I don't want to loose her, and she has said she doesn't want to loose me. We have talked about cheating, it came up when we were talking about the guy who is dating my sister and that he has cheated on his last 2 gfs. I have told her that I would never cheat on her, I had to ask her if she would cheat on me, she said no, but I would like to look into her eyes and have her say it. It was kind of hard for us to do that at the time, I was driving. But I think i'm not going to just ask her i'm going to ask around the subject, I think that why she broke up with one of the ex-bfs, he was cheating on her. But before talking to her about it I will say something like. "I hope this can't come between us and ruin our beautiful relationship that we have started together. But I think your right i'm just being paranoid. I have talked to my best friends ex g/f "leslie" about my g/f. Leslie has known my gf longer than I have, and she has told me not to worry about my g/f cheating on me. So I really just think i'm being paranoid. Well thanks for your help. spencerbandit88

Hey everyone, I've been with this girl for 7 months and i'm starting to think that she might be cheating on me but i'm not sure. I'm thinking of taking her on a walk to the park and talk to her. I'm worried because she accepts rides from her friend Matt to a drum and bugle corps, and when she goes on tour this summer i'm really worried about it. I was just going to ask her right out, "Have you been cheating on me?" I'm going to look her in the eyes hold her hands, but before I ask her i'm going to talk to her and say that, I hope what i'm about to ask you won't bring an end to our 7 months of love. Is this a good idea just asking her like that? She's my first g/f and I really don't want to loose her. Thank you all, spencerbandit88