lil_mamarains13

I can say from experience that when a relationship goes wrong I would love to know what happened and what went wrong. She probably wanted the same thing. She needed closure and comfort of what happened and what she did so wrong that you decided to move on. I feel that way know since my fiance left me, and he won't give me closure. I have bouts of anger, sadness, lonliness and very much depressed. I will probably never know or understand what happened between us. It is how we heal and deal. I don't think I will ever call my ex to ask him what happened, but maybe at that point in time she felt she didn't have a choice because her pain and dispare was to much for her to handle. I'm not saying it was the right move on her part. The new guy is probably rebound. I don't really know for sure though. If they are on and off again it probably is or it is probably more of a friend she is carrying for comfort. She may not be allowing herself to feel much for him so it becomes a fight between them. Really not sure, but that is my opinion. I hoped it helped.

Thank you all for your replies. This is so hard for me to handle. I don't even want to go out and meet new people because I am so unfamiliar with this town. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to over come that?

I haven't been on in a long time, but I am recently having a really hard time. I hate life right now. I just moved from South Texas to Oklahoma. This was decided when we had to evacuate from Hurrican Rita in September. My fiance decided we should move and start a new life. 2 days after we got here my grandma died, a month after that my real dad's house burned down, the next day after that my step brother was in a car wreck, and recently my fiance dumped me and went back home. We lived about 550 miles away from where I am now. Well I don't know what happened. I do know that I tried my hardest not to fall again so this wouldn't happen. I pushed him away, but eventually he kept bugging and I kept falling and then I fell hard. He proposed to me when we finally got here from the evacuation. That was a nightmare and I won't get into that. I just don't know what to do because I don't think I will ever hear from him or see him again. When he left he said he still loved me if that meant anything. Why did he say that and still leave? He also told me he wouldn't be back home for long. He said that he would just be there long enough to get his truck and that he was moving again. Why would he tell me that? I hurt so bad and I don't want to move forward in life. I just don't understand what happened. I am also stuck here in a new place and I hate it here. I just want to move back home, but I can't. Life sucked there also, but I was used to it. I also had famliar territory to run on, and I don't here. I just need some kind words to get me through I guess. I didn't want to post but a friend said I should so I said I guess I will give it a try. Does anyone have any suggestions. Thanks.

You got upset with one of my posts and got offended which I apologize for, but you obviously don't respect yourself just as well as he doesn't respect himself. Drugs KILL! Sex can KILL! You are not of age to make such a decision and especially be responsible for it. The trophies are condomn wrappers which is a way of bragging of how many girls he has had sex with or guys because I do believe you said he was bi in the very beginning. If I was dating a guy who did that I would laugh at him and walk away real quick. It is just another example of his immaturity as well as your for you thinking that is something special. Having oral sex can have some of the same dangers as intercourse. You need to do some research on different STD's and then make the decision on weather or not you want to take the risk of giving a guy you hardly know who has been around head. Like they are saying now they you have basically made up your mind because you are a typical teenage girl who just isn't going to listen, and then cry about it later when you find out how much you should have.

Unless you were there with your friends and saw them having sex don't count on knowing for a fact that they did. I was 13 once and a lot of the kids in my class were saying they were having sex and different things like that. When we got older I found out how much of liars they were in general, and how they lied about anything just to make themselves look and feel cool and fit in. It is no way to be, but you never know who your true friends are at that age. If you want people calling you names like that and are okay with that you have more problems than you realize. To me it sounds like you are just starving for attention weather it is good or bad. Not talking to you mother and allowing her to think your relationship with her is open is only going to bite you in the butt later down the road. Sooner or later she will figure out that you have hidden things from her and lied to her about things, and then she won't trust you any longer. All that leads to is her not being there for you later down the road when you need her. Besides it is not always safe not talking to your parents about things. I hid something that was happening to me in a relationship when I was 18 and it almost killed me. She found out and we discussed it and worked things out, but my mom and I have ALWAYS had an open relationship and she always discussed with me things like sex, drugs, etc. You have a lot of growing up to do. Girls your age are now popping out babies and they can't even raise themselves. Just give yourself time to grow up some and experience other things that life has to offer instead of jumping in the sack with some drug head who could very well wind up raping you and hurting you. That isn't something you will want to live with either for the rest of your life. Think about it.

I know how you feel in the aspect of not having hobbies, but I did have hobbies. I was never good at the things my peers where good at. Example, my sister is real artsy, and I have not artistic bone in my body. I can barely draw a stick figure where she can crochet, draw, sew, decorate, etc. I can't do any of that and I can't even stand to color. Everyone has their own interest. Being on the computer as a hobby doesn't make you a geek. It is just your hobby which has many things to do. You can draw, play games, design things (programs, web pages, etc.), communicate with other people, write, etc. There are many aspects to a computer. The previous post said to go out an explore which in my opinon is very good advice. How do you know you aren't good at something or you don't like something until you try it? Go dancing, ride your bike, swim, bowl, shoot pool, etc. If none of those things suit you don't get down on yourself just focus in on the things you do enjoy doing and excel at them.

Thank you for your replies. I guess since I have enough packs to last me to September I will see how it goes with them, and then decide if I need another type of pill or not. QTPie I have been on some sort of birth control since I was 16. I started off with the pills, and I had problems then also, but it has been so long I don't remember what I was told about it. I never gained weight on the pill. When I started taking the shot all was fine and dandy, but then I blew up like a beached whale. It's terrible and I still haven't lost all the weight, but I am working on it. My advice is to not take the shot. Yes it is wonderful not having periods and not having to worry about taking a pill everyday, but it just isn't worth the side effects.

I am now a single woman, but I decided to stay on my bith control pills. I am taking Ortho Tryclen(not sure how to spell) and have been for about 4 months now. I was on the depo provera shot before (In my opinion no one should take the shot). Anyways, I was wondering if anyone else might be on birth control pills or has been before. I was fine on them the first 3 packs, but I am on the last pack, and will start the sugar pills on Sunday to start my period. My problem is that I am already trying to start. I am having break through bleeding and I was wondering if anyone knew what that could be from. I know there probably isn't any doctors out there, but I can't really afford to see a dcotor so I thought I would see if anyone else had a past experience with this problem. Any advice is appreciated. Thank you.

I don't want to move on. I went to his house yesterday to get some more things. He gave me the mail box key back to check to see if I had any mail. I ask him if I could give him a hug and he said sure. I hugged him and he hugged me back just like it used to be, and he said that he knows that things aren't supposed to be like this. I told him I wanted to at least be able to get to where we can talk to each other again and he said that some day we probably will. I said I know you need time and I need time. He didn't agree or disagree. I'm so sad, and I just don't want to go on without him. I just feel like I am in a nightmare and I can't wake up. All I think about is going home to him. I just don't know how things got so out of control. I don't want to move on. I don't know how to move on. How do I even tell what his interest level is? Help me someone before I do something stupid to ruine everything.

Well we had been arguing for a couple of weeks. The night we broke up we were arguing and I ask him if he wanted to be with me and he said no so I moved out even though he said that I didn't have to. He said that I could live there but we couldn't be together. To me it didn't make since to live there if we weren't going to be together so I moved. Maybe I shouldn't have moved. I don't know. I am confused and just want to disappear off of the face of the earth because I am so tired of being hurt.

So are you saying there is no hope for a future between the two of us?

Last weekend my boyfriend and I broke up. We were living together for a year. I am so sad and lost. I miss him so much. I have to go to his house today and take care of a few more things and pick up a few more things. I wondered if anyone had any suggestions on what I should or should not say to maybe help rebuild our relationship. I just want to die without him. I don't want to breathe. I am taking care of myself and doing what I have to do, but I am so lonely. I miss going home to him after work. I miss playing with his kids on the weekends he got them. I am just so upset. Please help me.

This is a very personal question, and I am a little embarrassed to ask, but I don't know what else to do. I have a lump under my skin to the right of my vagina. I guess you would say in between the vagina and very beginning of the leg. It isn't a pimple and it doesn't have a head like a boil or pimple. It is only under the skin. My underwear rubs on it and it makes it tender all day. Does anyone know what it could possibly be, and please don't poke fun I am really concerned. My family has a history of having tumors and cysts, and I am scared. I don't have any medical insurance either so that makes my options for medical care slim to none. Anyone have suggestions.

I think the only thing that annoys me is when my bf has to fart he leans over to try and emphasize it. I don't care if he farts becaues it is natural, but why emphasize it, and he only does it to annoy me so most of the time I just ignore him because it is to tiny of a little thing to get my panties in a wad over, LOL.

You know kids are mean, and that happens sometimes. Rumors get started and people poke fun. Doing it back though doesn't make you better than her. Just ignore it. When bullies are ignored it drives them crazy. It is hard to do, but you have to try. Also if this girl you like doesn't believe you when you tell her you are not gay she isn't worth the time of day because there is no trust. A relationship has to have trust to grow. Good luck.