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  1. Nothing wrong with being Captain Obvious. No need to get in the friend zone. Don't ask him to coffee. Buy fancy coffee you've wanted to try, and see if he'd like some.
  2. Sorry his folks are enabling POSs.
  3. My mom treats her DILs like family. My MIL treats me like family. It still doesn't change that my mom loves me, and that my MIL loves her daughters. Your feelings are your feelings, and you are on a jealous tirade. Jealous that your brother has someone. If you can find room to love others outside of your immediate family, like your brother's GF, who moved across the country to be with him, you will find you have made room for the one to be found.
  4. Common tactic to set you up for the sex slave trade. Lolita Express! RUN!
  5. So he hasn't cleaned his room since November? You know that was almost 5 months ago? If it looks vaccuum and tidied now, it means he's cleaned within the last 5 months, and the condom is recent. You aren't going to get a confession out of him. Be logical.
  6. If her depression is that bad, I would not leave her alone with your baby. I would seek temporary sole custody; who knows what she may do.
  7. It doesn't matter if he really likes you or not. You are not his top priority; his family is. I would just move on, and not stay friends.
  8. If you had a person telling you something is off every week, it's be hard not to take it personally. Her inability to also call it quits even though she is evidently unhappy as well keeps you thinking if only you did this, if only you do that. If only you were this, if you only you were that. I want to share some of the wisest words I've been given about relationships: "You don't have to marry everyone you sleep with." You didn't waste your life. I am hoping you got to enjoy time getting to know the kids, yourself with kids. That maybe your picker is off, and choose broken birds. You are really at a crossroads here. One, where you realize you want to be loved for who you are, and supported and cherished, and realize it's not with this person. Or one, that feels familiar that you believe you must see to the crappy end, which is what you've been doing your whole life. A person can mask easily for two years. But it is impossible to keep it up for much longer. And, what you are seeing is really her now. She is showing you who she is, but you are hoping that it will magically work after you tie the knot. What you are experiencing now is just the tip of the iceberg. There are so many layers of "you just don't work together." Couples counseling will never fix her "severe anxiety, depression, and trust issues." That's not your job. She is in NO PLACE to marry. Want more for yourself. It is out there when you are ready to accept it.
  9. You don't feel safe, and that's why you lie. The right partner gives you wings. This person is constantly making you doubt yourself. It doesn't matter if you've put in 3 years or 30, you are not good together. Like at all. What you are feeling aren't jitters. Be honest with yourself. Is this the life of feeling deflated what you want for your next 5 to 10 to 20 years?
  10. My hubs and I buy the big whole bean bags from Costco, and grind what we need for the week, and put the rest in an air tight container out of direct light. Tastes great to me. My hubs and I are coffee snobs. I would never ever buy pods, but use them when I'm at a business, and that's all they have in the waiting area, or when I'm at my good buddy's place. What do you serve him when he visits you? This is something you should just have him show you when you see each other. I have learned about coffee in one past relationships. I don't think his coffee discussion meant to sent you in a tizzy. Years ago, I scoffed at the idea of listening to NPR. My hubs wanted us to have something to talk about it. I did over time and now enjoy that station. I think he is trying to get you into what he likes because he sees a future with you in, and damn it, he wants the good stuff. Just say, I got overwhelmed (be honest). You will have to show me when you come here again.
  11. You are the one that wants to punish her. Not sure how you honestly believe you aren't just as dramatic. Based on the fact that you feel you should be the one on top, and she's always in the wrong, If this was me, and it has been me, I would never let my kids around you. I could never trust what you say about me to them, or what you may do to them to punish me. You refuse to see her point of view, so there you have it. This can and will go on for years, as you tell everyone how horrible of a person she is, and her kids can enjoy the other sets of grandparents they have.
  12. You are dodging a bullet; you both want different things. She wants to fly by the seat of her pants, whether or not she can afford pants. You want stability, roots, and a family. She will never support you in your pursuits.
  13. You sound like my MIL. You don't need to punish a grown woman. Don't mean to diss you getting help, but you if you've seen many therapists, it sounds like you fire them if they don't enable your mindset that you are always the victim.
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