Read this and it struck accord with me. Posted on this thread a long time ago where it's been nearly 18 months since our break up and there's been very little contact, nothing substantial. I'm too left with residual feelings that I let her get away with not telling her the reasons our relationship failed, that ultimately after the things she had did during it that I never trusted her. Subsequently found out she had signed up to dating websites long before we split up and that during that time she was pressuring me into marrying her.
Now I've had time to look back and reflect, there are many things I'd like to say to her that the relationship failed not because of me but because of her actions. However, after such a long period making contact for that reason would probably come accross wrong anyway and do more harm. As a result, will stay NC with her forever where I'm fairly sure this will be mutual