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  1. Just because she is on her period doesn't mean that she won't get pregnant. But you are right I would just wait it out and see what happens. There's not much you can do right now, unless you can get the moring after pill, but I believe(and I'm not sure) that the pill only is effecitve upto 48-72 hours after the encounter.
  2. I wouldn't beat yourself to much over it, it was her fault. To be honest she probably isn't all that upset over it, and with this other guy. Don't feel bad that it's over. It probably would have gotten worse, and eventually have completely fallen apart anyway. It's probably best that you ended it when you did because it probably would have hurt alot more when she broke up with you over this other guy. Another thing to consider is that she was spending alot of time with that other guy, and I'm sure that he friends wouldn't have found it weird that you were over there with them. Just know that you did the right thing by ending it when you did, you save yourself alot of heartache. If in fact this guy didn't have a girlfriend (in case you never actually saw them together) it was probably just an excuse by her to go over there and not take you. Just realize that you aren't the one to blame, and I'm sure it would have ended a eventually. And trust me I know from exprience that the sooner a relationship ends the less pain there will be. Hang in there you'll get over it. Time heals all wounds
  3. I just found out last week that my girlfriend cheated on me during the last week of our relationship. I found out from the guy who she was with, and it was hard for me to take. As it turns out she met a guy from work, and the first day she was with him, she tried to make love to him. It was all hard for me to hear. And of course to protect her guilt, she had to lie to me about everything and that only made the problem worse. We broke up two day after she met him (I was not aware that she was seeing him), because she felt that our long distance relationship wasn't going to work. I found out Sunday, when I came up to see her for the weekend. We broke up the Wendsday before that, and I wanted to see her one last time. We spent the entire weekend togheter having fun, and the night before I was to leave the guy told me everything that they did. I guess she had lied to him to about me, and he wanted some informatin, so we talked for about two hours on how much she lied to me and him. We went over to her house, and told her mom what she had been saying, and we confronted her as well. I still can't get over this grief, and betryal. I still want her back, because I loved her so much, I trusted her completely. She did this, and it is hard for me to take. I never knew she was the type of person to sleep with somebody after only knowing them a day. I'm hurting, and I need to let go. I need for somebody to help me, I feel as if I'm alone and that this has only happened to me. I'm hurting not only because I know she did this, but because she could look me in the eye and lie about it. I'm just hurting and I need help, and advice on how to deal with this. I don't know how I can ever get over this betrayl, and pain, and just let her go. I still want to see her again, and hold and touch her. To tell her I love her, and to hear about her day. I want all that back, but it was stripped away from me. I loved her so much, but now I need to let that go, and I have no idea on how to proceed. I need sombody right now, and I hope sombody can help me.
  4. Also try to realize why you want a boyfriend. Yeah sure it might seem like a fun thing to do, but ask yourself why you want a b/f. Maybe your also trying to hard. Just sit back and relax, and just wait for that person to enter your life. Don't try and make it happen, because it will happen. Don't force it. it will happen when you least expect it to. Be patient above all else, and don't go looking in the wrong places for a g/f just because you don't have one. It's ok to be single. Sometimes being single is better. Also, guys are shy. I should know. If there was a contest for the most shyest guy i would win. Trust me on this, if you see a guy your really like and you would like to get together ask him out, don't wait for him. Cause he may be really interested in you, but just may be to afraid to ask you out. Take the intiative and go after him. But just be patient and don't worry about it. It'll happen sooner than you think.
  5. I apprciate your replies. i know I've screwed up, and I've told her how much I regret doing what I did. She is the kind of person that holds on to grudges and that sort of thing, but hopefully she will see how sorry I am. I hope she forgives me soon, cause i really want tings to go back to what they were. Thanks again, and I know one thing. I won't ever do it again.
  6. Last Sunday my girlfriend asked me to go sledriding with her, and of course I said yes. We talked for a few minutes, and she was going to call one of her friends so that she could come over as well. And i said to call me back to know if i need to pick anybody up or anything like that. Then a friend of mine called and asked if I wanted to go out with him and go out to eat and hang out at some stores and stuff. I can't say no to people so of coures i said yes. I called my girlfriend up and said that a friend has asked me to go with him. So we talked, and she said to do what i wanted. A couple of her friends were coming over so i figured she would be okay with out me, and she said it was okay, so I went with my friend. I got back like 5 hours later, and called her. And lo-behold she was pissed about the whole thing. I can understand that, but now she will talk to me, but she doesn't want ot see me. I"ve applogized and said that I was wrong for doing that, and I really mean it too, but she is still mad. This is really making me fell depressed, and lonely cause I know I've let somebody I really care for down. I've almost cried because it hurts so much to know that I have hurt somebody I really care for. I've asked told her that it really hurts me to know i've done something like this, an that I really want things to go back before this happened. I don't know how to get her forgiveness or how to make it up to her, but I do know that this hurts me and her. I don't know what to do.
  7. My girlfriends is having problems with her parents. Recently her mom has been turning into a tyrant. She doesn't let her go anywhere, she isn't allowed to do anything, and now she isn't letting her goto school unless she has a babysitter. For the past like 2 months she has been grounded for something that her mom hasn't even told her why. My g/f has been under alot of stress lately, and she's even been fainting and throwing up cause of her mom. Her health teacher has said that she needs to relax, and she went out last friday to goto a movie with me without her mom's permission. It was the first time she's ever done anything like that, but her mom is blowing things out of porportion. She now is getting babysat even though she's 17, and she can't go to school unless there is a babysitter to meet her at home. I don't konw what to do now. I don't know what to do to help her. Her friends parents are offering to house her, and take care of her. I dont' know what to do. I need some help.
  8. I know what your going through. I just lost somebody really recently to and i know how bad it hurts. My relationship lasted 18 months, but mine ended with her just leaving me for somebody else. I'm 17, and she was my first love. It shattered me, and i'm still picking up the pieces. I'm mostly over her now, and I'll share with you how I did it. First of all if you talk with her everyday, stop. You can't get over her because you are continuing having contact with her, and still bringing up memories that will just further put you down. You have to break contact with her. If you still have photos, and notes and stuff like that, i recommend throwing them away or getting rid of them in a similar fasion(i created a bonfire with mine and that helped). If you see her in the halls try not to look at her, or talk to her. Take another route to class and try to avoid her. If she asks why you arent' talking to her, tell her the truth. Try to spend time with friends, and your family. Try to mend your relationship with your family if you have problems, or strenthen the relationship you have with them. Try to keep your mind off her, and remind yourself that it wasn't meant to be. You'll find somebody who will stay by you, and who will not leave you. Just tell yourslef that she wan't the one, and that somebody else will be there for you. I hope you feel better, and that you can get over her. Good luck, i hope it works out for you.
  9. Alright, i have this problem with my new girlfriend. She's really hyper, and i;m really shy. She always talks, and i can't really talk back. When she's with her friends she always ignores me because i can't speak and let my mind be heard. I feel like i'm left out of something when she's with them, and I don't want to say anything because our relationship just started, and I don't want to scare her away. Plus it's just how she is, and I kind of like tht fact that she talks alot. It makes me feel somewhat comfortable. I need help in getting myself to get out of my shyness shell, and i don't know how to do that. I odn't want her to become uninterested in me because I can't talk to her, and i don't want to be left out of anymore activites with her and her friends. I need to get these skills also because she's always with her friends, and i don't want to feel left out. Any help from anybody would be much appriceated.
  10. I know exatly what your going through. I'm in the same situation myself. Only my ex left me for somebody else, but I can't move on either. I loved her like no other, and I know I did somethings that I regret. Your right about one thing, regret does change people. I pleaded with her, begged her, and told her how much I love her. I cry to. I'm with you man, but your life is not over. Somebody told me what I'm about to tell you. If you still talk to her, and see her, then you will never get over her. It is a good idea for you to try and stay away from hearing her voice, and seeing her face. I took everything my ex gave to me (notes, love letters, ect...) and burned them in a bon-fire. That helped me alot, and I know it will help you. You have to try and let her go. I hate to tell you this, but it's over man. Even though she is now broken up, you said that she didn't know if she could return your love. Take everything that reminds you of her, and get rid of them. Also, do NOT have any contact with her. I know it's going to be hard. I just stopped talking to my ex yesterday, and already I feel like I'm ready to die. But it will only get better. If you can, try to find a support group around your area. Surround yourself with people who are going thourgh the sme problem you are. They can help you realize that you can get over her. I know it's tough. It's tough for me to get over mine. There will be somebody else in your life, and you will love them the same or even more than you love your ex. Don't worry, and try to get over her. If she left then she wasn't worth it anyway. Try to emotianaly separate yourself away from her as far as you can, and get rid of all the stuff that reminds you of her. This has helped me immensly. Even though it hurts to see my ex hold somebody elses hand, and snuggle against him I relize that somebody else will make me feel the same way she did. There are other people out there. LIfe is to short to waste it on somebody who left you. Find somebody who will NEVER leave you, and hold on to them forever. Good luck you, man. I hope you heal.
  11. Do you have the same interests as her? If so, then just talk about that. I don't know how long you two have been dating, but if you are just starting out then just give it some time. I used to be shy around my g/f, and it took me a month for me to finally shed my shyness. Just give it some time. Talk about school, about her family, about your family, ask if she's gone anywhere exciting. Go see a movie, then talk about it with her. What was your favorite part, what was her favorite part, did you like it, did she like it. Find out if you have any common interests, and then discuss them with her. Ask about her day. From my experience that has always worked for me. I would ask my g/f about her day, and she would go on an on about her homework, what happened in class, and so forth. She just needs to be comfortable around you, and if you have just started this relationship then it might take some time. Try to make her laugh. This will loosen her up a little, and she might start to relax. That's probably what you have to do. Just make her relaxed as possible, and I'm sure she will start to talk to you, and give you more than one word awnsers.
  12. Thanks for your help. It's going to be hard for me to distance myself from her. I still have many feelings for her, and I know it will be difficult for me to let her go. I appreciate your advice, and I will follow it. I'm glad to know that I'm not the only person that feels this pain. You are right, and I know what I have to do now. I can't thank you enough for your response, and I hope it works out for both of us. Thank you!
  13. My girlfriend of 18 months recently broke up with me to go out with somebody else. We were having some trouble, and I was trying to work it out. Were still good friends, and I have told her that I still have feelings for her, and that I desperatly want her back. I've cried many a night thinking about her. I need to know if it is at all possible to get her back. I've tried telling her how I feel, but I need to know how I can get her back, or if it's a lost cause. I want to move on, but it's impossible.
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