BigButtBrigg

Ok...I have a major dellema. I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years now (and if you have read my previous posts, you know that our relationship is horrible). well...i really never thought i could get anyone else, and my self esteem is terrible. Well, yesterday my bestfriend (Tim) and I were driving home from school and we got to his house. We sat in the car and talked for 4 hours! but anyways...he told me that he hates how my boyfriend treats me and he told me he liked me. He said he has had feelings for me for over a year now and he has wanted there to be something between us, but he would never say anything because I was taken. This was a total shock to me, but should I give it a try? I mean...I know nothing could ever ruin our friendship and he is so wonderful! Plu,s it would give my boyfriend and I some time away from each other to see if we should be together. I just dont know what to do!! Please help! Do I stay with my boyfriend, or give it a try with Tim, or ????

My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 1/2 years now. He invited me to go with him to Virginia for Thanksgiving to see all of his family. (We live in Florida). I've never been to Virginia and I want to go, but I'm scared...We have been fighting horribly for the past year now. He is obsessive and has to control who I talk to online and what I wear. He weighs over 100 pounds more than me, and he goofs off and jumps on me and throws me around, and I get bruises and sprains all the time. He sees me cry and he laughs and laughs. He blows me off when his friends are around and the minute they are gone, he calls me and HAS to see me. I don't know if I should go with him or not. If we do get in a fight, I can't exactly come home. We will be there for 9 days and I need to figure out what to do. Please help!!

Ok, I am 18 and I've been with my boyfriend for over 2 years now. He can be an ass hole and put me down, but I don't know if that is the cause of my emotional breakdowns. Ya see.....I watch tv, go to the mall, where-ever it is and when I see pretty girls or women this feeling of jelousy, anger, and low self esteem come over me. If I am with my boyfriend and a hott girl goes by and he looks at her, I feel even worse and I begin to cry....it's something I can't control.....I know I'm not ugly, I'm 5'8'', 115 lbs, long legs, and have an athletic body, but I don't know why I feel this way. I think it is partial depression, because I'll go to work or school and be happy and upbeat there, but then go home and cry for hours. I just feel so....ugly at times. I don't have strong trust in anyone, especially my boyfriend and he always talks about other girls and their appearance, so I don't know if that is the cause of all of this...this is how I have been the past year or so in a nut shell. Any advice would be appreciated!!! Thanks

If you read my posts, you know my story. Anyways....I need more advice....go figure! Today I had outpatient surgery which was planned for over 3 months now. My boyfriend (David) promised he would take off work to take me to and from the hospital. Well, he tells me 4 days ago that he can't, but he "promised" to take care of me when he got home at 6. I was okay with all of it until today came along. (Now David has a bad back and he was out of work for a week 2 months ago and I took care of his every need....he never had to get up for anything..I helped him to get to the bathroom and everything...he is also 2 1/2 times as big as me). Anyways, I get home from the surgery at 5 and I feel horrible, of course. He calls me telling me he is coming home and will be here by 6. Well, 6 rolls around and no David, finally at 7:30 he shows up. He comes in, gives me a kiss on my forehead, sits down beside me and asks me to turn on the fan (the switch is accross the room). So, I get up and do it, while I am holding on to anything to keep me standing. I sat back down and asked if he could get me some water. He replied "you could turn on the fan, i think you can go get some water". So, I did, but I was in bad pain. He then came up behind me and said "you are such a faker, I'm leaving" and then he went and hung out with his "buds". He left at 8. I still feel horrible and it's hard to get from place to place. He makes these promises to me all the time. Last week he "promised" he was at his friend Keith's house, but he was really at some girl's apartment until 4 in the morning. I need some major advice. I love him, but I can't handle this. Please help!!!!

Hey, the same thing happened to my brother a couple months ago. There was a chemical imbalance in the hot tube and some how it caused him to break out in a rash. Two other people got it, but myself, mom, and dad did not. I don't know why they did and we didn't....But I would suggest NOT itching them, in case it can spread and if it doesn't go away within a couple of days, go see a doctor.

My boyfriend and I have been together for over 2 years. We have grown distant from each other and I like other guys and he likes other girls. We see each other a lot, and I go through these "phases" just like this Nicole does. I think it is nice to know that someone is there to hold you and kiss you when you want it, but you don't want to be tied down. I wouldn't stress about it, she's a girl and I know for a fact, girls are f*$*$d up. Find someone else if the way she treats you is bothering you.

Ok, to make a long story short I am 5' 8", 110 lbs. and have probably the worst self-esteem. I am athletic and in shape, but whenever I see a "hott-girl" or watch a movie like American Pie w/ girls and they show their breasts, I feel really insecure and I cry! What is wrong with me? I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years and over this period of time he has made MANY comments about other girls and telling me I should get implants....and makes other comments about my body and compares them to these flaw-less girls. Now, I feel absolutley terrible about myself. He tells me its in my head, and I have a "mental problem". I honestly think I do, but I really think he was the cause of it. I never thought this low of myself until a couple months after we began dating. I don't know what to do to feel good about myself. I just want to look in the mirror and like the person I see. I've been considering implants for a while now, but I am afraid that if I did get them I would only find something else about myself I want to fix. If anyone has any advice, please help. Thanks. ~B~

Why don't you talk to your parents about the situation? Tell them you won't be working during the school year, so would it be okay if the two of you dated? If they are okay with it, then the guy wouldn't have an excuse.

People talk crap....Not everyone is going to like the person you are. As long as you are confident and happy with yourself, nothing else should matter. I think if you are confident, that is awesome! Too many girls come down on themselves and have low self-esteems. I think confidence is an excellent attribute and you should be proud of it. Don't worry about what other people say.

My boyfriend and I have had an unhealthy relationship for over 2 years now. We fight all the time and he makes me feel unwanted and unappreciated. (LONG STORY) Anyways, I talked to some people at work and online about it, and they told me to break up with him. I have tried a number of times, but we always get back together......I finally just started to ignore him...not answer his calls, won't open the door when he comes over....etc. He is leaving me messages and making me feel guilty. I want to end things, but I know this is the only way....what should I do? Am I wrong for doing this?

I have the WORST self-esteem. I feel horrible about myself. I hate my appearance, personality, everything. I don't feel attractive at all. When other girls walk by I look and wish I looked like them. I know I can't chance my looks, but I need to change how I look at myself. I want to look like a super model I guess. I am 5' 8", 110 lbs., but I hate my looks. I want to get implants, but I don't want to take the risk. I just need some advice on how I can improve my self-esteem.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years now. He works days and I work afternoons until 10pm. When we get to see each other, the time we spend is terrible. He still plays video games and is into porn. I am in my first year of college and have my priorities set. I don't even think he will go to college (we are both 18). He tells me I am beautiful and smart when he wants something, but then when I start talking about my future and becoming a doctor he puts my intelligence down. He won't let me wear certain clothing and he gets mad when I talk to my guy friends. I love him, but I don't think this is what I want. I have tried breaking up with him a numerous amount of times, but I always go back to him. I don't feel happy with myself and I don't think I can find someone else for me. My mom and friends try to boost my self esteem, but it doesn't work. The only way I think I will really be able to break it off with him is if I go away to college. I have a high GPA and I know I can get accepted, but I don't want to leave my family. I am just totally confused. Please help!!!