JanieMarie23

I've really never been in a situation like this so it's hard for me to put myself in your shoes.. I think maybe you shouldn't have asked her what she wants in a guy... and than right after that asked her about who has the best personality... I think that might have given her the impression that you do like her in that way... maybe thats why she is backing off.... Of course that's just a guess... Maybe it's for something completely different... But just act cool, if she is as close of a friend as you say she is than something small won't change your friendship that drastically. Anyway I'm really not sure what else to say except good luck...

I've been dating my current boyfriend for 2 years now, but it seems like so much longer than that because he was there for my Junior and Senior year of Highschool. Now I'm at college hours away from him. I talk to him a lot and I miss him like crazy, I even plan on moving in with him after my four years in school, but that seems so far away. Basically what I'm asking is...how do people cope with being away from the ones they love? We do get to see one another occasionally, but it's hard sometimes being in a place that I hate, and not having him there to cheer me up

...Has this girl had boyfriends in the past?? Did they treat her really bad?? Maybe thats the reason why she backs away anytime you mention being a couple. Maybe she had opened her heart to someone and they crushed it and it hasn't been the same since... I don't know thats just a guess...But really what you have is hard to explain. I don't want this to come out wrong but It sounds like she is using you. But if you were friends before this I don't see that either. Friends with benefits is always a hard position to be in, but obviously there is more than that if you say that everything is there except for the title. Don't force her into anything like a title because you might loose her that way...but it's not fair what you are getting put through...and I think that you MIGHT want to talk to her about how you feel. She might freak again but at least you know that her feelings haven't change...I don't know if you want to risk it though I feel for ya! good luck

I agree with what everyone has said..he is just trying to get you agitated. What he is really doing is harassing you. If you really wanted to be mean, save every single piece of contact he has had with you including emails text messages, letters, whatever. And in case things get worse take them to the authorities...You don't deserve to be treated that way, especially when you have done nothing wrong. Keep ignoring him though, because eventually he may stop, But I do think he's just being immature and childish. Good luck

I think the main way to meet girls is through mutual friends, that way you are both comfortable in the setting presented. But if thats not possible, I would say to approach a female with confidence, but don't make it seem like you have a huge ego. I mean if you're at a bar ask her casually if you could buy her a drink, or if you are at the gym ask her if she needs a spotter. If they blow you off, o well because there are plenty of women out there and if they aren't willing to give you a chance than they aren't worth having in your life. You might want to be careful approching women that are in a bar, jealous boyfriends that have a little bit too much to drink can be lingering about. I know what you mean though, nice girls are really hard to find. And you would be surprised at how many women say the same thing about men.

Yeah it's really hard to say whether or not you should try to get them back or what to do if they tried to get you back without knowing what went wrong in your relationship to begin with. From my experience though, it's always been a bad thing. My one ex and I were apart for quite a bit, we still hung out...we still did things like a friends with benefits thing (which I regret) ..than I got sick of it.. I found someone who treated me great and I started dating him. All of a sudden my ex started talking about getting back together... I told him no because he had basically used me for the time that we weren't "together" anymore... Anyway Like I said it depends on the terms that you broke up on...

Alright this should be fun... Just take into consideration that this is just an opinion... When you are in a friendship you should know it...because you talk to the person more, have phone numbers, hang out etc. and if you start moving towards more there are signs like talking more...hanging out more..doing more couple like activities, for example a long walk just talking and watching a sunset together. I think when you start talking about being a couple is when you realize that you are comfortable enough with the person that you're friends with to just let it out...I know it's hard because you don't want to ruin what friendship you might have..but to just talk to them about it should be a natural thing. If you think about saying I love you to a person, if they run away, then they aren't worth saying it to. I think that if you love someone completely they should love you in return. If you are afraid of someone running away I would say to hold off until you are sure that they have some mutual feelings in return. With the whole fear of being tied down, it's hard...let them have there space until the timing is right. But don't let them walk all over you because you are going to be there for them. Don't wait forever for someone to settle down because thats time that you are wanting to the point of heartache don't put yourself through that. I don't think that you have to come out and state "WE'RE a COUPLE now!" to the world... thats no necessary..and if people ask you...just say we go on dates if you consider that being a couple than yes... You don't have to proclaim anything unless both of you want it. You can have a friendship with sex involved and not have a relationship thats what I like to call "friends with benefits" I don't personally like it because it seems that someone ends up getting hurt in the end... Someone giving the other person false hope that something more will come of them being intimate but in reality are just being used. But if you have an understanding than thats great. I think that a lot of females are afraid of getting into a relationship these days because a lot of them have been hurt one too many time. It's hard to start trusting someone again after being hurt. And being in a relationship causes you to suspect your partner of false things and it just ends up being a jealous based relationship... but if you can tolerate the jealousy they will eventually being to trust again. But most females are afraid to take that leap again. they don't want to have their hearts broken. I don't know if any of that makes sense... tell me if it does.... Cause I think I was just rambling.

I haven't really done anything about my roommates so far... But It hasn't been too bad because I go home almost every weekend and it's like my little vacation away from here...But it's really sad leaving everyone again, I even cry almost everytime I leave, because I know exactly what I'm going back to compared to what I have back home. But it's okay, because I guess College isn't just about learning information about your future career but also how to live with others, see how they see things. I don't know if that makes any sense...but I have to understand that everything happens for a reason. I don't think I ever thanked everyone who responded... so THANK YOU.. I really appreciate it

..I think and it's only my opinion, that you should tell her everything that you just told everyone that has read your post. Contact her, tell her that you lost yourself, and thats probably the reason she dumped you, because you weren't the person she thought you were. Talk things over with her about the things that happened to you, tell her that you think she's someone you could see yourself with forever. I don't know if you want to go to that extreme. It is a hard situation, and I feel for you. Here's a quote that is kind of appropriate: "Never give up on something you can't go a day without thinking about"

It's really hard at the place I live to get a room change because we signed leases for our apartment for one year, including the summer. I told my CA today that last night they turned the AC on when it was 38 degrees outside. So not only are they making my life hell, but potentially it could he a health problem. He told me to still talk to them. They are so immature about things that I don't want to talk to them without someone else being there. I think if I talk to them fists will fly and I don't want that. It's pretty much impossible to move, and I hate the thought of not being able to even live in my livingroom, or cook in my own kitchen. If I wanted to be treated this way I would've just gotten a dorm, at least that would've been cheaper. Thanks everyone for all your imput. But I'm pretty sure there is no easy solution to this mess.

I know my roommates hate both me and my sister, because they posted it on one of their doors!... The one girl made a list of the "top 10 reasons why they are best friends" ..# 7 "we can hate our roommates together" I have talked to the CA in my building, he told me to talk to them about my problems but I would rather not do that unless someone was present to make sure swings weren't taken. So I haven't said anything yet. They said if we talked to them and things still didn't improve that we would than ...all four of us... go to the apartment managers office to work something out.

I'm a freshman at California University of Pennsylvania, I thought going to school would be great, Especially since I was going to move into an apartment ran through the school. It's a 4 bedroom 4 bathroom apt. And everyone shares the kitchen, livingroom, and dining area. My sister also came to school with me, so she is one of my roommates. I don't mind her. But the other two girls the school put with me I want to KILL. I come from a middle class family that is struggling to put 3 kids through school at the same time. My roommates are spoiled! They didn't even know how to do laundry when they came to college! Anyway on to my problem with them. They are loud, and scream when I'm trying to sleep at 1 in the morning. I tell them to be quiet they don't listen. They eat my food without asking, so I got a mini-fridge. I brought pots and pans... they broke the handles off of, and didn't tell me or apologize for it. I'm not even sure if it was accidental. There are many other things that annoy me. THEY ARE SLOBS. they think my sister and I should be their personal maids. because they leave mac n' cheese in a bowl on the floor for days! it's gross... Please tell me what I should do!

I'm really not sure what to tell you. Personally I've never tried them...I know of people that have met pretty cool people.... But I would be careful cause some people are fruits! ... Try and hang out at different places to meet people...This might sound corny, but a gym or a library...I don't know somewhere that you are interested in...who knows you might find someone that is interested in the same stuff.... Just be careful with the online or newpaper aids they can be fake

it's been a little over a year since this post... But I would like to update by saying that I have been dating the guy I was talking about for a year since 4-11 and I am the happiest I've ever been. He doesn't lack morals... He would never cheat on me... He was just afraid of commitment and thats easy to understand... He's gotten over that now... And I'm glad you told me the advice you did... I waited for the right time to tell him how I felt THANK YOU

Intensity could possibly just be lust...which can be mistaken for love... But I assure you, even after your first love you can feel butterflies and can have that feeling inside that makes you feel all content. Maybe you just haven't had that moment where everything is perfect and you feel like you want that moment to last forever... thats when I feel mine.. But you can feel intensity even after your first love